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Slave Relocation - 10/11/2013 6:42:51 PM   
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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/11/2013 6:47:00 PM   
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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/11/2013 7:26:23 PM   
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That if they meet the right person, they are willing to move.





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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/11/2013 7:32:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yup. what frazzle said.
"Willing to Relocate" means they are OK where they are and if they meet the right person, they are willing to move.
"Relocate me" means they are not OK and need you to move them if you want them.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/11/2013 9:54:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ExamineHer

When a Sub/Slave says "Willing to Relocate" or "Relocate me" what are they really saying?

You should ask them to find out exactly what they mean. We're no more mind readers than you are.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/11/2013 10:10:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stef


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExamineHer

When a Sub/Slave says "Willing to Relocate" or "Relocate me" what are they really saying?

You should ask them to find out exactly what they mean. We're no more mind readers than you are.


Ohhh common now... Isn't it obvious!

It simple means that they are willing to locate with you flipping the bill on hopes that they will suck cock as pay back



Of course if you read the fine print..... The blow job is at their discretion ! And usually doesn't happen



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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 1:03:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not always, but often when someone says relocate me, it is an indicator that they are a scammer.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 1:56:17 AM   
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There is a distinction between the two. Do you mean it both ways? On this site, if "Willing to Relocate" has been checked off, it's innocuous enough on face value. This doesn't mean the person is willing to pick up and move anywhere. A friend of mine is only willing to relocate, say 60-70 miles to London or Brighton Beach, not leave England for another part of the UK, if he meets the right Domme.

I would be suspicious of anyone who is willing to relocate very far from where they currently reside, or who is in a hurry to escape their current living situation. Personally, I'm suspicious of anyone who's willing to relocate, period, right off the bat. Shows lack of job stability, little to no family ties, transient housing conditions, possibility s/he has burned all their bridges.

They could be a scammer-con artist who'll hit you up for money upfront. Don't ever fall for that. Use your common sense, and if something smells fishy or doesn't sound right, cut off further contact.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 7:55:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Note, slightly tongue-in-cheek response ahead: If someone wants you to pony up for relocation, tell them sure, but it'll be done your way. Say you've found a service that handles relocations and can come out, pick them up, and deliver them and their things to your location and see what they say.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 9:52:22 AM   
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I would be suspicious of anyone who is willing to relocate very far from where they currently reside, or who is in a hurry to escape their current living situation. Personally, I'm suspicious of anyone who's willing to relocate, period, right off the bat. Shows lack of job stability, little to no family ties, transient housing conditions, possibility s/he has burned all their bridges.
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I've had a number of conversations on the other side with men who say they will gladly relocate for the right woman, hundreds of miles away, across the country, from other continents. I really wonder about the lives they haven't created for themselves if they are so ready to walk away from them.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 11:04:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ExamineHer

When a Sub/Slave says "Willing to Relocate" or "Relocate me" what are they really saying?


They are saying they are willing to move to be with a master if it is the right fit for them and they want a relationship. For some they will move really fast (I don't recommend this option, but people will do what they will do) And for others it means suffering a long distance relationship for a while to see if there is a real true possibility there and then are willing to move to be with the other person. All it really means is they are ok with moving under the right conditions.


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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 11:15:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		You guys must live a small life with a small family and small business if you are a tied like a slave to a particular location. I feel sorry for you.

My clients come from all over the world. I export my product to 45 countries. Visiting clients always involves airfare.

In my business, my product is manufactured in stages, starting in the Midwest then New Jersey and the raw materials are stored in Florida. Then the raws are combined with additional materials from Utah and Tennessee to be bottled in California and Portland . Exactly which state, or country for that matter, am I supposed to be tied down to?

I spent half of my 16 years in this business to get to the point I could be free from the headache of maintaining a factory. I trained subcontractors that can do the work now. Besides clients and vendors, I also have family and friends all over the world. Visiting family and friends usually involves airfare too.

So my business serves me, I am not tied down as a slave to a location. Being free is power, not weakness.

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ORIGINAL: TigressLily
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I would be suspicious of anyone who is willing to relocate very far from where they currently reside, or who is in a hurry to escape their current living situation. Personally, I'm suspicious of anyone who's willing to relocate, period, right off the bat. Shows lack of job stability, little to no family ties, transient housing conditions, possibility s/he has burned all their bridges.
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I've had a number of conversations on the other side with men who say they will gladly relocate for the right woman, hundreds of miles away, across the country, from other continents. I really wonder about the lives they haven't created for themselves if they are so ready to walk away from them.



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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 11:27:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Did you relocate to your slave/wife or did she relocate to you?

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 11:45:02 AM   
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You're very fortunate that all your hard efforts have paid off for you and you can reap the rewards. But you are a Master, not a slave, to begin with. Honestly, I'd be even more suspicious if a Dominant had "Willing to Relocate" contained in his/her profile (generally speaking, not you personally).

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So my business serves me, I am not tied down as a slave to a location. Being free is power, not weakness.


Those of us with minor children aren't in a position to take off whenever the mood suits us. The same would go for someone who is caregiver for an elderly parent, relative, or disabled person. We don't have that kind of personal freedom, but it's all good. I have a teenager who's established here in this location, and I would never dream of uprooting his life if I could help it. He's a high school junior and we don't know yet which college he will end up choosing. (He's applied on line to Princeton already, so we'll see.)

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 12:24:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Note, slightly tongue-in-cheek response ahead: If someone wants you to pony up for relocation, tell them sure, but it'll be done your way. Say you've found a service that handles relocations and can come out, pick them up, and deliver them and their things to your location and see what they say.


This. ^^^ Love it.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 12:38:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		"Willing to relocate" means that he's willing to move to wherever the dom is. "Relocate me" means she (usually a she) is a scammer trying to find suckers to send her money.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 1:29:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

"Willing to relocate" means that he's willing to move to wherever the dom is. "Relocate me" means she (usually a she) is a scammer trying to find suckers to send her money.



Did you deliberately leave off the "s" on the willing to relocate in your post?

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 1:32:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TigressLily
I would be suspicious of anyone who is willing to relocate very far from where they currently reside, or who is in a hurry to escape their current living situation. Personally, I'm suspicious of anyone who's willing to relocate, period, right off the bat. Shows lack of job stability, little to no family ties, transient housing conditions, possibility s/he has burned all their bridges.[/color]


Those are two different situations. Being in a hurry raises red flags, sure, but not a general willingness to consider moving in the right situation. Someone who works from home or works for a nationwide or international company might be able to relocate easily with minimal career effect. Many adults don't live close to their family of origin. Apartment and house leases are relatively short.

And it also depends on the kind of relationship the people involved are looking for. Criteria for a play partner are often different than for a live-in 24/7 slave.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 1:37:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TigressLily
Those of us with minor children aren't in a position to take off whenever the mood suits us. The same would go for someone who is caregiver for an elderly parent, relative, or disabled person. We don't have that kind of personal freedom, but it's all good. I have a teenager who's established here in this location, and I would never dream of uprooting his life if I could help it. He's a high school junior and we don't know yet which college he will end up choosing. (He's applied on line to Princeton already, so we'll see.)

Well.... Maybe I'm different, stupid, altruistic, lucky, or whatever label you want to plant on me, but I believe that if someone has enough courage of their convictions, the fact of living in the wrong location or having kids living at home is not a valid excuse to reject a relocation call.

Kids will carry on growing up and doing their education regardless of where you live or what school they go to. They also make new friends just as easily as they made the last lot when they started that school. In this day and age of many ways of communicating, keeping track of old friends is also really easy too. So "uprooting" their lives is just a cop-out and in many cases kids use relocation as an adventure. I think too many parents use their kids as a convenient excuse for "I haven't got the balls to relocate" or "I'm too happy ensconced in my little world here so I'm not bothering".

As for being a caregiver, that too is often a convenient excuse not to relocate.
If someone has been doing it for more than a year or two, isn't it about time some other member of the family took their turn in being the caregiver??

My OH dumped her hubby of 15 years and just upped-sticks and relocated to be with me at the drop of a hat early one Sunday morning without any warning or notice at all. Teenage son was brought with her and early 20's daughter (who wasn't at home at the time) was just sent a text that she was no longer living at home with hubby.
We were chatting away online when she suddenly announced "meet me at xxxxx station at 2pm. I'm coming down", and she was offline and gone before I could even reply. We hadn't even spoken on the phone or seen each other's pictures, only ever chatted on AIM/Yahoo so I had no other way to contact her until she arrived.
That was almost 6 years ago and to this day, we have only ever spent 2 days apart from each other.
Yes, it was a brave move even if I say so myself; but shows it is more than just possible.

So I dispute that people, even in those circumstances, do not have that personal freedom of choice.
I call it a crap-shoot cop-out.
If someone isn't prepared to invest in their own future, then I wouldn't want them as a partner/master/slave or whatever position they would have had in my life.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 2:04:22 PM   
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You're certainly entitled to your opinion, however, your circumstances were such that you and your wife wanted to be together. Obviously she was ready to dump hubby to be with you, and I'm glad it worked out. (He probably didn't deserve her anyway.) Furthermore, I never implied I would never relocate. I'd love to return to Hawaii in a heartbeat, if it were feasible to do so. However, I'm not a sub or a slave and being Willing to Relocate is not a carrot I have to dangle. In fact, from where I'm coming from, it's more a matter of would I let some man move in with me and my son. Absolutely not. Even if I met somebody today and we fell in love, he can wait less than 2 years to make a full-fledged life with me, just as you were willing to wait to be with your future wife, along with her children.

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I believe that if someone has enough courage of their convictions, the fact of living in the wrong location or having kids living at home is not a valid excuse to reject a relocation call.
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As for being a caregiver, that too is often a convenient excuse not to relocate.
If someone has been doing it for more than a year or two, isn't it about time some other member of the family took their turn in being the caregiver??

My OH dumped her hubby of 15 years....
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Yes, it was a brave move even if I say so myself; but shows it is more than just possible.
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I don't need to justify to anyone how important it is for me to provide as much stability for my son as possible. He only lost his father less than a year ago within a 3-month period that he also lost his grandmother, my elderly mother whom I had moved up here from Florida and been taking care of for over 2 years after my brother suddenly died. There was nobody else. He has never seen me with another man other than his father, and he doesn't need to be involved in my private life, which is mine to maintain.

Everyone's circumstances are uniquely their own.

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