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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 3:22:34 PM

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Having moved over 40 times that I can remember, moving for me isn't an issue.

I have moved more than once to be with someone I thought might be a life partner.

as im single, that obviously hasn't worked out. Will add I moved in with the last as it put me closer to my son, so my reasoning was a bit scewed lol

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 3:23:43 PM

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London or the south coast would be ideal for my next move/ LOL

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 3:49:12 PM

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I've never understood why distance should deter happiness. Say a slave met the perfect master, they talked, met etc. Everything was perfect, but the said slave felt it too far away. That's just stupid to me. Now I understand different circumstances, as stated previously, an elderly family member he\she is taking care of....things like that. But I'm more so speaking on slave not having kids, or anything holding them back.
Some people are just afraid to step out of their box and experience the world. Man, they are gonna miss out.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 4:01:28 PM

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A romantic partner is often only one piece of the whole that makes for a happy life.
Ties with family and friends, a job one loves, being in a favorite location or even loving the particular place one has made their home can all be perfectly valid reasons for not wanting to relocate.
It is more than just starting over in someplace new or the uncertainties involved in a new relationship.
It is how much of these other factors weigh in the big picture of one's happiness and well-being.
If a slave has any number of compelling personal reasons why they don't want to relocate, the master can always move.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 4:31:09 PM

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A romantic partner is often only one piece of the whole that makes for a happy life.
Ties with family and friends, a job one loves, being in a favorite location or even loving the particular place one has made their home can all be perfectly valid reasons for not wanting to relocate.
It is more than just starting over in someplace new or the uncertainties involved in a new relationship.
It is how much of these other factors weigh in the big picture of one's happiness and well-being.
If a slave has any number of compelling personal reasons why they don't want to relocate, the master can always move.

^^^ This. Crazy that it needed to be said here, but it did.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/12/2013 7:16:30 PM

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All that may be true, but I've seen situations where the said slave had all the above, great family, good job, etc...and was miserable bc she was alone, unowned. So how happy is she really with all those things that were mentioned?

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 11:10:38 AM

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It's like anything else- it can be done responsibly or irresponsibly. Find a mature, emotionally stable person and the "willing to relocate" is just that- a statement that the person is willing to move for the right partner. If you are dealing with a flake, a fake or a scammer- find that out by other methods. A simple statement will not work to detect bullsh*t.

Sir and I were both willing to relocate when we met. He was ready to go across the country for the girl He had before me, and I was considering Texas for the dom I had been with. We both found ourselves suddenly single and 35 minutes away from each other. Eventually, He did relocate- to my house!

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 11:49:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
Did you relocate to your slave/wife or did she relocate to you?

I really like my slave and I feel she is worth the cost of fixing her housing debt . . . I moved to her because I was financially solvent and she wasn't. The value of my slave's house was hurt when the market crashed and she owed quite a bit more than it is mortgaged for. So I moved to her location to fix the house problem. We have bailed out 2/3 of the debt so far and expect to break even and sell the house next year.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 12:35:59 PM

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Did you relocate to your slave/wife or did she relocate to you?

I moved to her because I was financially solvent and she wasn't.

Can I say this? I think that was very chivalrous of you. Too many contemporary men expect with their SOs that what's theirs is theirs and what's hers is theirs. I've found that highly educated yuppie men are the worst in that regard. They presumptuously believe they have the most to offer, when what they want is all gain at no risk. The working trophy wife who brings in the bucks, takes care of the house, raises the children, and runs herself ragged much like a workhorse from whom they expect sex on demand. Then they bitch about having to pay any child support later on down the road and bemoan the house they "lost" in the divorce.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 2:23:41 PM

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I agree you never know where or when you find that one special one

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 8:05:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: TigressLily

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

Did you relocate to your slave/wife or did she relocate to you?

I moved to her because I was financially solvent and she wasn't.

Can I say this? I think that was very chivalrous of you. Too many contemporary men expect with their SOs that what's theirs is theirs and what's hers is theirs. I've found that highly educated yuppie men are the worst in that regard. They presumptuously believe they have the most to offer, when what they want is all gain at no risk. The working trophy wife who brings in the bucks, takes care of the house, raises the children, and runs herself ragged much like a workhorse from whom they expect sex on demand. Then they bitch about having to pay any child support later on down the road and bemoan the house they "lost" in the divorce.

In this case the "what's hers is theirs" was her debt. To me she is well worth it. A small price to pay for a wonderful and compatible partner. As far as "the working trophy wife" who provides "sex on demand", at least I gave her a break on the "takes care of the house" part and we got a maid for that.

I'm no bed of roses and Mastery or slavery 24/7 is not always picnic. But our compromises and sacrifices are small compared to big rewards we get from our relationship. Our lives are so much richer with each other.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 8:36:35 PM

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Kids will carry on growing up and doing their education regardless of where you live or what school they go to. They also make new friends just as easily as they made the last lot when they started that school. In this day and age of many ways of communicating, keeping track of old friends is also really easy too. So "uprooting" their lives is just a cop-out and in many cases kids use relocation as an adventure. I think too many parents use their kids as a convenient excuse for "I haven't got the balls to relocate" or "I'm too happy ensconced in my little world here so I'm not bothering".

As for being a caregiver, that too is often a convenient excuse not to relocate.
If someone has been doing it for more than a year or two, isn't it about time some other member of the family took their turn in being the caregiver??

I agree with this. When I was thirteen, my parents (my dad, really) suddenly announced we were moving and to pack up. It was rough, but I survived it without too much drama. And in reflection, the same goes for caring for an elderly or infirm person. The only reason against it if someone was the only family member, and that's not too common.

On a somewhat related note, a few months ago (?) I said that I was acquainted with a woman who routinely plays this game. She's not into the kink, as far as I can tell, but she's managed to get herself transported to most of the lower 48 states and Canada to meet guys she's hooked up with on the vanilla dating sites. She'll go to him, stick around a couple weeks, and then bail and come back here. Right now she's somewhere in Colorado with a guy she met on OKC. There's a pool at the bar on how long she stays there.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/13/2013 9:03:03 PM

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without reading all the responses and just answering the OP's question, willing to relocate means just that... they are willing to relocate to their Master... as it should be so that you can life it in real life

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/15/2013 9:48:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

I've never understood why distance should deter happiness. Say a slave met the perfect master, they talked, met etc. Everything was perfect, but the said slave felt it too far away.

When I was single, it wasn't so much the distance, after all I moved myself from Connecticut to California. It was a question of WHERE people thought I should move to be with them (along with the assumption that I should be the one willing to move).

Hell, I have a friend that has her own private practice and owns a million dollar home....and she still got guys that thought she should drop everything and move to the middle of no where.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/23/2013 2:35:18 PM

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As someone with a little more cash than he needs, I decided to test a few women who said they needed gas money or money for expenses to travel to me, so I have sent several girls several hundred dollars just to find out if they were for real. They weren't. Each and every time they took the money and ran. It's a common scam on this site; if they say you need to 'relocate them' just X them off your list, hide their profile so you won't see them again. A serious sub will find a way to get to you, and won't ask you to pay in advance. After she gets to you is reasonable, but if they gotta have the money first, forget it. The scammers will tell you anything. I had one girl who said she was halfway here when, what do you know, her car had not one, but two flat tires, and so she needed another few hundred dollars to complete the trip... I didn't send it.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/23/2013 3:05:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: bossman777
As someone with a little more cash than he needs, I decided to test a few women who said they needed gas money or money for expenses to travel to me, so I have sent several girls several hundred dollars just to find out if they were for real. They weren't. Each and every time they took the money and ran.

Holy moley. Look. Cover travel expenses when you're looking the lady in the eye, after she arrives. If she's a student, or a part-time worker and full time mom, I think it's perfectly reasonable to cover gas, airfare, and/or babysitting expenses. On the other hand, if she's making more money than I am, she'd better buy me a gift from time to time, or I'll lose interest.

If your post is 100% serious and for real, there's a boatload of attractive, athletic women who will get kinky with you for several hundred dollars. Or maybe not... Maybe your personality is too bizarre??? If that isn't an issue, stop wasting your time. The money isn't even the biggest issue. Every minute you spend talking with a scammer is a minute you didn't use talking to a woman who might date you.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/23/2013 3:39:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: bossman777

As someone with a little more cash than he needs, I decided to test a few women who said they needed gas money or money for expenses to travel to me, so I have sent several girls several hundred dollars just to find out if they were for real. They weren't. Each and every time they took the money and ran. It's a common scam on this site....

Wow, seriously? Now I see why CM has such a large (or majority) scammer membership. It's profitable, easy, fish in a barrel. I can't wait for Stef to find this little gem and chime in

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/23/2013 4:24:49 PM

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You sent money to women you hadn't met, who you didn't even know if you could get along with? You're actually lucky they took the money and ran. If you had been unlucky one would have moved in, with her 7 cats, and proceeded to argue with you about everything. How would that have been a better outcome.

RS boasted that he's not tied down. He's also not a parent.

The Man moved here because although I would have preferred the area he was in, my daughter at the time was extremely fragile and could not have been put through the stress of moving. Even assuming I could have found a board certified adolescent psychiatrist in his area. I would not have taken her from her school, her psychiatrist and her therapist. Or her therapeutic riding horse.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/23/2013 4:29:30 PM

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I have moved to Masters in the past. It was worth it at the spot I was then in my life. Right now, I do not consider myself relocatable.

My biggest problem with LDRs is they are both too spread out and too compact. If I meet the perfect guy that is several hundred miles away, and we talk a couple of months, then decide to meet, and decide we are, indeed, perfect for each other. How often are we going to see each other, really? 3 or 4 times a year? after 2 years (a long time) we have seen each other 6 or 8 times. (not a lot). Do we talk about moving in together now? really? after 6 dates?

Then there's the problem of the first date. If you fly in to see me, you're probably going to want me to host. But I don't allow people in my home, nor go to their home or hotel room, on a first or even second date. I just don't. So that's probably going to disappoint. (well, not really, cause I'm very upfront about that). I used to just accept that if I met with someone who came a few hundred miles to see me, I'd make an exception and play the first time. But I am no longer willing to do that.

There's nothing wrong with those who chose to make LDRs work for them, but it is not for me. These expectations of mine are not unreasonable, they are what works for me. for me to date someone, we have to be able to see each other at least once a month. That's my limit.

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RE: Slave Relocation - 10/23/2013 6:31:46 PM

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Well, the Mister transferred his job and is about to move up here. His house is on the market and we're house hunting in my area.

It makes more sense for us. I care for an elderly mother (turning 80 in a few months) who needs me. Moving 2 hours away would have created a lot of difficulty.

As for having kids and moving, well he has a daughter and was not willing to up and leave, feeling it was best for her to have both parents local. He and her mother lived about 2 blocks away from each other, and she had full access to either parent and stayed 50/50 with each. For him to leave her or uproot her and take her from her mother would have been criminal, in my opinion.

So yeah, staying for the kids? I'm a proponent of that. When his daughter was very young her mother took her out of state to move with a man. The Mister had a court order for her to come back as it was unacceptable to him for her to deny him his parenting rights, and to deny their daughter regular access to her father.

So he and I waited for her to become an adult, move out, and go to school...and THEN we began making our plans. For us it was the right thing to do.

As for me, I'm extremely grateful he was willing to transfer to a closer office, sell his house, and buy one up here, so I could continue to look out for my mother. I could have easily transferred or found a job in his area, and moved into the house he already has. But he took the bigger picture into consideration. I'll be much more flexible when my mother isn't with us, but right now it's the best option to stay local. For us, how our decisions affect other people's lives is important.

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