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New Slave - 10/15/2013 6:26:34 AM

luv4punani

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What are some good, menial activities to keep a slave busy throughout the day? My slave is (for the moment)in a different town from me. I need to keep her occupied. Physically she is older and can not do some things a younger slave would be able to.

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 6:52:52 AM

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Are there any things you need researched? Make her write a journal?

As far as menial things go, cleaning?

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 9:44:37 AM

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What are some good, menial activities to keep a slave busy throughout the day? My slave is (for the moment)in a different town from me. I need to keep her occupied. Physically she is older and can not do some things a younger slave would be able to.

Why doesn't she have things to do already? If she's a grown woman she must have things going on in her life - work, family, a house to keep, studies, friends etc?

Please don't give her tasks just for the sake of it. That says that you don't value her time at all. Give her tasks that actually mean something to you. Want her to stay active and healthy? Send her on a walk every day. Want to get a good idea of how she's feeling each day? A journal. Want some homemade bondage toys? Have her research and practice making her own. Love sushi? Have her learn to make it. Want to be able to have sex in freaky positions? Yoga classes.

I'm all for setting your slave to work. But I really hate tasks just to fill time. If they aren't things which actually help you or mean something to you, it just seems like time wasting or playing games.

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 9:51:37 AM

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I have to tell ya...if you, as her Master, can't come up with things for her to do....she may need a different Master.

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 10:06:58 AM

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I'm going to echo Athena and propose as well that you don't waste her time by giving her meaningless busy work. Nothing turns me off faster from a prospective partner than this red flag of them not respecting that my time is valuable. Well, sending penis pictures is still probably the fastest way, but a man not respecting me by wanting me to simply fritter my time away is a close second along with the ones who have up porn pics/nude partner pics, the "kneel bitch" instant - just add water Doms, and asking me for nude pics or cam action.

Whatever you request, please make it meaningful for her life, yours, or your shared time together. Athena gave some great suggestions. For myself, I've been asked to put together shared trip itineraries, shop for specific items, look into college programs for myself, clean out areas of my own home, research restaurants in a specific area, and look for local real estate having certain criteria. These were all things I could do at my convenience around what I had going on in my own life.

If she has lots of time to fill...how about a class? Online or the local community college. Learning to cook some different dishes. Learn to sew, knit, crochet.

If she works don't mess with her employment by taking her focus away from her job. Don't have her risk censure by friends, family, onlookers. Don't include bystanders in your kink. Take into account what's important to her as well as what is important to yourself.

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 12:28:46 PM

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Physically she is older and can not do some things a younger slave would be able to.

My man's mother is about 10 years older than mine and is in terrible shape. I think my mom is going to be much better off in 10 years because she's very physically active today. I have a desk job, and I bet my mom, at 75, has more stamina than I do. I can swim a mile and do yoga for 75 minutes, but a few years ago Mom was training to hike in the Grand Canyon. Two summers ago, she scraped, sanded and painted the outside of her house and it is not unusual for her to spend eight hours a day in the garden at the height of the season. She also walks, swims, and does yoga.

Physical fitness is very important, so feel free to have your slave join a gym/learn yoga, etc.

As for you, I suggest you read a few non-fiction books from the booklist: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 12:40:17 PM

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Suggest she find a dominant that knows what he's doing, to begin with.

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 4:36:31 PM

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I'd say the "punani lover" might want to read some of those books too. *ahem*

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RE: New Slave - 10/15/2013 4:48:26 PM

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Does she work? If so then she's already covered. If she doesn't, have her do some volunteer work, or work on her health if she's not able to do things because of it. I can't say I really understand the reason for busy work. Don't know about anyone else but my life is busy with just work and school that I don't have time for busy work.

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RE: New Slave - 10/16/2013 5:23:34 AM

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It's an odd question, why do you feel the need to fill her day with menial tasks? There might be reasons for this that we are not aware of, tell us a little bit more of the background. In general I tend to agree with the people before me, find meaningful tasks that she can take pride in or let her find meaningful things of her own.

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RE: New Slave - 10/16/2013 6:18:36 AM

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Nothing's sexier than busy work. :-/

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RE: New Slave - 10/16/2013 10:17:22 AM

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Therein lies the problem with long distance between a Master and slave. Given the dynamic is largely reactive its far easier to find that dynamic when you are at least in the same room.

Ownership is not easily conducive to distance, less a whole bunch of theater or simulations. However, I do understand why you ask, since finding a way of maintaining some sort of appropriate connection is useful and telling her what to do is kinda how it works. Considering slaves are not necessarily stupid and mindless, then coming up with superfluous tasks that don't even benefit you, while it is still technically exerting control might soon have her wondering what sort of twat she is yielding to. Constructive tasks that benefit at least you will strengthen the dynamic, serve you a lot better and garner more respect.

If you dont know what you need or want from her, then a bit of self examination might not go a miss. Are you controlling because she wants it or because you do? A man who genuinely wants control usually has no trouble exerting it or finding ways to manifest it.

Another thing worth mentioning, is that sometimes a little bit of a void is also useful since slaves should not need you to be a performing monkey or a control ATM machine in order to keep them at your service. A slave making peace with the void is a worthwhile exercise to avoid a developing sense of entitlement or expectation.

The definition of slavery seems to be very subjective and so you will see a variety of interpretations , my input here is based on mine.

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RE: New Slave - 10/16/2013 10:41:50 AM

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It's an odd question

I found the situation odd. He says he's Master of a slave, but he doesn't know her well enough to figure out how to keep her busy. Which to me speaks to larger problems than figuring out how to keep her busy.

Face it, if some guy came here and said "I need someone to tell me what to buy my wife for her birthday" the common reaction would be "She's your wife. Why don't you know?"

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RE: New Slave - 10/16/2013 11:05:26 AM

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I suspect they are both new. There is so often this rapid leap into a so called power exchange relationships with no more information exchanged than "me like control, you useless cunt, I will tie you up and make you suck my cock so lets get it on " Once they have done that a few times and the novelty has worn off, they are left fiddling their thumbs while one or both of them go looking for the next sexual bungee jump.

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RE: New Slave - 10/16/2013 11:09:12 AM

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A man who genuinely wants control usually has no trouble exerting it or finding ways to manifest it.

Exactly...and tasks should be constructive, productive and something to be proud of. How well do you really know this person? What are the interests that bond you together? You state that she is somewhere else "at the moment." Does she plan on relocating near you? Soon? Should she be packing her things away, getting her place ready for her to leave? Do you want her performing menial tasks as a form of humiliation? Seems your task is to focus on what is the purpose. Just throwing jobs at her will leave you both unfulfilled, in my opinion.

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RE: New Slave - 10/18/2013 8:32:34 AM

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What are some good, menial activities to keep a slave busy throughout the day? My slave is (for the moment)in a different town from me. I need to keep her occupied. Physically she is older and can not do some things a younger slave would be able to.

This question always mystifies me. Humans are one of the most adaptable species on the planet. That makes them highly useful in a wide variety of situations. You have an entire life to lead and yet you cannot think of a single useful thing to do with a human? You could drop 500 in my lap tomorrow and I'd have plenty of useful things to do with them.

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RE: New Slave - 10/18/2013 9:26:28 AM

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"Help me think of meaningless tasks to assign my slave" is the hallmark of someone who has no clue what they are doing. And if you have no clue what you are doing, you have no business being responsible and in charge of another human being.

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RE: New Slave - 10/18/2013 9:41:29 AM

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"Help me think of meaningless tasks to assign my slave" is the hallmark of someone who has no clue what they are doing.

It goes beyond that. To me it would mean that they didn't respect me because they believe my time is disposable and has no worth. Personally, I was never interested in a Dominant that didn't respect me and what I bring to the table.

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RE: New Slave - 10/18/2013 10:22:36 AM

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That thudding sound that you are hearing is My head hitting the desk.

(By the way, OP, the woman in that avatar doesn't look what I would consider "older.")

I don't feel it useful to tell you what to do with your slave. If I tell you, and in turn you tell her, exactly why does she need the middle man? That's Me Mastering your slave. Not you.

Instead of feeding you a fish, I'm going to teach you how to fish.

Why do you have a slave?

What are some skills that other slaves have that you like, but your slave doesn't currently have?

What could your slave do, considering the distance, that would enhance the dynamic and bring a positive attribute to it?

If you can't answer those three questions and figure out what to do with your slave, I'm completely at a loss at why you think you are "mastering" anybody.

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RE: New Slave - 10/18/2013 4:31:54 PM

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What are some good, menial activities to keep a slave busy throughout the day? My slave is (for the moment)in a different town from me. I need to keep her occupied. Physically she is older and can not do some things a younger slave would be able to.

This question always mystifies me. Humans are one of the most adaptable species on the planet. That makes them highly useful in a wide variety of situations. You have an entire life to lead and yet you cannot think of a single useful thing to do with a human? You could drop 500 in my lap tomorrow and I'd have plenty of useful things to do with them.

Yeah... But most follow and few lead

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