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Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actual F ... - 10/16/2013 1:08:58 PM   
Missdressed


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Status: offline 		Woman in the office. Talks ALL THE FUCKING TIME. LITERALLY NEVER SHUTS HER FUCKING YAP.

But. That's not the problem. The problem is she is seriously a god botherer. No offense to Christians on here but she won't do live and let live.

So far this week I've had

- autism is gods judgement on the parents

- gay people all have aids and are responsible for all the ills of the world

- it's all the fault of those Mooslims (phonetic spelling)

- she's going to pray for me because I am divorced and seeing someone other than my husband

- I can't get into heaven because I have a tattoo.
And today's gem.

People who suffer with depression or other mental health problems are possessed by evil spirits set loose on the world by satan and they should be subjected to exorcism.



I know I saw a great post somewhere on the interweb answering this I can't find it.

In the meantime,I can stab her with a rusty spoon? Not a court in the land would convict me right?
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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:14:48 PM   
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god botherer.


May I plagiarize that? Pure gold.

I would have a talk with your/her supervisor and mention that her incessant yapping is interfering with your ability to get your job done.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:18:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Be up front and tell her you are a heathen, and that as far as you are concerned:

They are gonna change the name of Sons of Norway to Sons of Bitches, raise the entrance rates and let all you christians join.

You can tell her that her first job is toilet slavery.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:21:26 PM   
anniezz338


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Status: offline 		Big no no anywhere in the work place. You need to go straight to HR and report it. I know of one girl who got let go because she sent a pro Obama email to her coworkers.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:23:13 PM   
mnottertail


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EE-Yul! EE-YUL! EE-YUL!! (and sobbing violently) Please God, don't make me kill again!!!!

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:23:44 PM   
Missdressed


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Status: offline 		I've told her I'm a heathen and I'd rather she didn't pray for me because I don't believe. She said it was her Christian duty to pray for me. And she would pray for me whether I liked it or not.

I also told her I wasn't going to beg forgiveness of The Lord.

She's irritating. But. Also, it's really offensive. Some of the stuff she's spouting is baloney. And. She's pushing her church to some folks in work. Which I think is wrong and I'm going to raise that with the big boss when I see them next.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:26:29 PM   
Missdressed


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Status: offline 		Found the thing I want. Now to learn it off by heart ....

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:27:26 PM   
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Big no no anywhere in the work place. You need to go straight to HR and report it.



^^^^This



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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:27:36 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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I don't know the type of environment you work in but I've had to work alongside quite a few ignorant folks. Not religious, for the most part, but certainly bigoted and racist.

I just go for 'I find that extremely offensive. What you just said was racist/homophobic/judgemental/inappropriate for work. Please don't say things like that to me again.'

In my experience, 9 out of 10 people will stop at this. Most people, even when they are cringing inside, will either smile and nod, or just ignore it and change the subject because it is so uncomfortable. When somebody challenges them directly in a calm way, they generally feel shamed and shut up. Failing that, I've found a consistent 'You know how I feel about that, and I won't discuss it again' eventually puts an end to it.

I've found it's best not to debate their issues - there's a time and a place for that, but it isn't at work. They just get more worked up and it feeds into their anger. And yes, talk to your boss and ask him/her to have a discussion about what is and isn't a suitable topic for work.

(Honestly I'd also be tempted to say 'Since I'm going to hell any way because of my tattoo, there's really no point in trying to change my mind on these issues' or 'I have no desire to follow a god who behaves like that' but probably not worth it at work)

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:27:51 PM   
Missdressed


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Status: offline 		http://www.snopes.com/politics/religion/drlaura.asp. Forgot to paste the fricking thing.


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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:29:33 PM   
Missdressed


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Status: offline 		I said. Given the type of folks who are heading to heaven I'm happy to roast thanks.

I said I don't agree. That's offensive. But she doesn't stop. I know things have been said before. But I do think if she keeps on spouting her bike I will have to go to hr with it.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:32:38 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Tell her to shut it and plant it as far away from you as possible or her ass will be sitting in a chair in HR filling out slips saying bye bye. Tell her harrassment is not ok. If you have witnesses so much the better. Tell her that at the moment, insofar as you can glean from the scanty data provided you in the envelope, YHWH does not sign the paychecks. If and when her prayer comes true and he does, you would be more receptive.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:32:55 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missdressed

I've told her I'm a heathen and I'd rather she didn't pray for me because I don't believe. She said it was her Christian duty to pray for me. And she would pray for me whether I liked it or not.

I also told her I wasn't going to beg forgiveness of The Lord.

She's irritating. But. Also, it's really offensive. Some of the stuff she's spouting is baloney. And. She's pushing her church to some folks in work. Which I think is wrong and I'm going to raise that with the big boss when I see them next.


Just read this update. I find it very offensive when people say they are praying for me. I don't want to play a role in their religious ceremony, however indirect. Imagine how she would react if people were praying to Allah or Vishnu or Zeus for her, or doing spells for her.

My gran told me, at the funeral of my other grandmother, than she knew my grandma was in heaven and she was praying for her, and praying for me and my parents to come back to the Lord and she knows we will eventually. It was the first time I ever felt angry at her, because I felt she wasn't just trying to comfort me, but rather trying to capitalize on my grief to gain some religious leverage. My late grandma was not remotely religious and I also felt it was very forced and insincere to suddenly talking about her being taken up to heaven in that context. (That sounds harsh on my gran, but in the context it was hurtful)

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:36:50 PM   
Missdressed


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Status: offline 		I agree Athena. Apart from some good peeps who I know were praying for me I a good way at a time, most folks are doing it in a you just have to be converted way. And that's offensive.

When I was very ill an American friends church put me on their prayer list and prayed for healing for me. I'm not religious but it was a nice thing to do and done with kindness, and I accepted it in the spirit I hope it was intended.

But. She's not. Like. That.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 1:54:06 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Yes, I agree that in some contexts it's a thoughtful gesture.

I think you're going to have to go to HR or management. You're every bit as entitled to comfort at work as she is. Having to listen to offensive and cruel statements about gay people, mentally ill people and autistic children goes is not a good work environment. If you're uncomfortable, chances are high that others will be too.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 2:13:48 PM   
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She's created a hostile work environment. Report it.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 3:13:01 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		A woman I worked with would wear religious buttons and talk to whoever would listen about her religion. She got let go when it was brought to the attention of the boss.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 3:23:27 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Another vote for talking to HR. I see you are in Belfast. Do you have the equivalent of "no hostile work environments?"

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 3:53:41 PM   
eulero83


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greet her every morning with "As-salam alaykum" maybe she will never say a word to you again.

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RE: Ok the woman is clearly a nutter, but how the actua... - 10/16/2013 4:03:16 PM   
TheBanshee


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Status: offline 		It is people like her why they used to throw Christians to the lions.

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