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Littlepita -> Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 9:21:23 AM)
This is a little rant and just meant to hog some CM space and get it off my chest! What do you do when you're pissed at your dominant? Mine has decided I should do something today that I totally don't want to do, and I frankly think he is being insensitive to me about it. Normally he is beyond wonderful to me and I know I shouldn't feel pissy about this, but I DO!! He knows there is something wrong and has been very sweet and asking if there is anything he can do. But, I'm not going to come out and tell him that the "thing" he is having me do is the thing that is making me grouchy. I personally think he knows very well what it is and it purposely ignoring it. Men....Doms....is there is a difference. Not always!! [:@][:(]

bandit25 -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 9:27:30 AM)
Yup...but suck it up and get it done. It won't be so bad and you'll wonder why you even worried about it.

brightspot -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 9:58:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Littlepita This is a little rant and just meant to hog some CM space and get it off my chest! What do you do when you're pissed at your dominant? Mine has decided I should do something today that I totally don't want to do, and I frankly think he is being insensitive to me about it. Normally he is beyond wonderful to me and I know I shouldn't feel pissy about this, but I DO!! He knows there is something wrong and has been very sweet and asking if there is anything he can do. But, I'm not going to come out and tell him that the "thing" he is having me do is the thing that is making me grouchy. I personally think he knows very well what it is and it purposely ignoring it. Men....Doms....is there is a difference. Not always!! [:@][:(] IMO you should talk to him openly and honestly, even the part about knowing he knows. I am a strong supporter of communication, not side line crap going on because of not expressing yourself. If you start keeping things to yourself you may soon end up shutting down, running the risk you could fall into this pattern causing future damage to the relationship. I support you getting it off your chest....with your Dom. Good luck[;)], *Brightspot

BitaTruble -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 10:06:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Littlepita This is a little rant and just meant to hog some CM space and get it off my chest! What do you do when you're pissed at your dominant? Mine has decided I should do something today that I totally don't want to do, and I frankly think he is being insensitive to me about it. Normally he is beyond wonderful to me and I know I shouldn't feel pissy about this, but I DO!! He knows there is something wrong and has been very sweet and asking if there is anything he can do. But, I'm not going to come out and tell him that the "thing" he is having me do is the thing that is making me grouchy. I personally think he knows very well what it is and it purposely ignoring it. Men....Doms....is there is a difference. Not always!! [:@][:(] Submission is easy when we're doing exactly what we want to do.. not so easy when we're doing something we dislike. You're complaining that you 'totally don't want to do it'.. not that you can't do it and he's making you do it anyway knowing you're going to fail. Suck it up and get it done... or talk to him about it. Being pissed is unproductive and can be damaging to your relationship. If you hold stuff in, something little is going to set you off one day and all the good times you've had up till then are going to be forgotten when you make a mountain out of a molehill. Celeste

Littlepita -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 10:34:45 AM)
Yeah, yeah! Well, he suggested that he do it instead and if that would be ok. I said, Yeah!!! I do love him!! Thanks everyone! [:D]

ownedgirlie -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 10:36:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Littlepita This is a little rant and just meant to hog some CM space and get it off my chest! What do you do when you're pissed at your dominant? I tell him. And then he tells me I'm not allowed to be angry at him :) And then we dissect it. quote: Mine has decided I should do something today that I totally don't want to do, and I frankly think he is being insensitive to me about it. And? There may be reasons for it beyond your scope of vision. That's why he's the dom :) Sensitivity is something bestowed out of kindness, but we are not entitled to it. quote: Normally he is beyond wonderful to me and I know I shouldn't feel pissy about this... Then be grateful for how wonderful he has been, inviting you and your little one to live with him and taking care of you. quote: He knows there is something wrong and has been very sweet and asking if there is anything he can do. More reason to be grateful. He is trying to remedy the problem. quote: But, I'm not going to come out and tell him that the "thing" he is having me do is the thing that is making me grouchy. He wants you to do something, he is trying to resolve a problem, and you are responding by playing games. As Celeste said, submitting is easy when we want everything that is required of us. As Master says, "If it was easy, anyone could do it." Submitting means doing what you're told, even if you don't want to. It means trusting in his decisions, even if they seem skewed to you. It means coming to him with your concerns, and ultimately obeying his final word. quote: I personally think he knows very well what it is and it purposely ignoring it. He may be waiting very patiently for you to come to him and be open and honest about your concerns. This may be his way of teaching you to do so. I know it can be frustrating, and difficult, and you just want to stomp your feet! If it helps, remember how much you missed him when he was away, be grateful that he is home and even giving you instructions (the alternative would be horrible), and let him know your concerns. If he still wants you to do it, then say no more about it and do it. Edited: Oh. Well you just posted while I was typing. So....never mind!

Bearlee -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 10:53:50 AM)
A few weeks ago, someone started a similar thread. I say 'similar' because the OP was trying to accomplish the request and was finding it difficult to complete; but she had started it. I found many of the posts there very helpful and interesting...some not so much; but all in all good food for thought: http://www.collarchat.com/m_429087/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm I agree "communication is imperative." Sometimes the Dom requests difficult things for a reason…sometimes maybe he just didn’t want to do it either, but had no idea you may have an aversion to it yourself. edited to add: I see your Dom rescinded his request…I hope you're good with that.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 11:36:57 AM)
well since you have not mentioned what it is that he is having you do I really have no comment. All I can say is that any time you start feeling pissy about your relationship with him remember the days when you had that little meter on your signature line that counted down the days until you two were together.

Curiossdragnlily -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 12:15:14 PM)
i am not going to say suck it up...Even though i would like to..lol...you say He know you don't like it...Are you sure?? Are you sure that this isn't something He is asking you to do for several reasons...Reasons known to Him and not you....Could talking to Him help clarify that?? There are things that Master asks me to do that i don't "want" to do....He has never and will never ask me to do something He knows i "can't" do..With "can't" being the operative word here...i may feel i "can't" but He has proven to me time and time again tht i "can" do many things i thought that i "couldn't"...i know He knows me better than i know myself....That is where your trust, respect, and communication come into play in the relationship....Good luck with it.. with respect, lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios srn 308-692-331

Curiossdragnlily -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 12:17:17 PM)
just a side note i forgot...i also have IHM days....i hate Master...lol....so take heart....it happens to us all.... with respect, lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios srn 308-692-331

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 1:31:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: Littlepita This is a little rant and just meant to hog some CM space and get it off my chest! What do you do when you're pissed at your dominant? I tell him. And then he tells me I'm not allowed to be angry at him :) And then we dissect it. quote: Mine has decided I should do something today that I totally don't want to do, and I frankly think he is being insensitive to me about it. And? There may be reasons for it beyond your scope of vision. That's why he's the dom :) Sensitivity is something bestowed out of kindness, but we are not entitled to it. quote: Normally he is beyond wonderful to me and I know I shouldn't feel pissy about this... Then be grateful for how wonderful he has been, inviting you and your little one to live with him and taking care of you. quote: He knows there is something wrong and has been very sweet and asking if there is anything he can do. More reason to be grateful. He is trying to remedy the problem. quote: But, I'm not going to come out and tell him that the "thing" he is having me do is the thing that is making me grouchy. He wants you to do something, he is trying to resolve a problem, and you are responding by playing games. As Celeste said, submitting is easy when we want everything that is required of us. As Master says, "If it was easy, anyone could do it." Submitting means doing what you're told, even if you don't want to. It means trusting in his decisions, even if they seem skewed to you. It means coming to him with your concerns, and ultimately obeying his final word. quote: I personally think he knows very well what it is and it purposely ignoring it. He may be waiting very patiently for you to come to him and be open and honest about your concerns. This may be his way of teaching you to do so. I know it can be frustrating, and difficult, and you just want to stomp your feet! If it helps, remember how much you missed him when he was away, be grateful that he is home and even giving you instructions (the alternative would be horrible), and let him know your concerns. If he still wants you to do it, then say no more about it and do it. Edited: Oh. Well you just posted while I was typing. So....never mind! Not nevermind!! Everything you said was completely valid and should be absolutely listened to. I can't believe you flat out lied to your dom and then came onto the boards with your problems! You totally know better! This time might have worked out ok, but there WILL be another time. What will you do then?

CrappyDom -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 5:02:13 PM)
Says nothing but arches his eyebrows and glares at her.

desertdancer -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 5:30:35 PM)
Master has this totally annoying habit of making me tell him exactly what I am feeling at any given time that he asks, which is normally right at the time I am normally feeling at my worst, or most humiliated or pissy or frustrated, and though at that moment I HATE that he demands me tell him, later I am always glad that I have. I am very blessed to have a Master who cares so much about what I am thinking and feeling and it sounds like you have one who cares a lot about what you think and feel too Pita. I have to agree with the others who've posted before me, it's easy to submit to things we want to do, its MUCH harder to submit to doing things we don't want to do. Pita I think you want to please your Master and I think you want your master to find you pleasing, is dragging your feet over a task and acting pissy being pleasing to him? When I have to do things I don't want to I often feel the wanting to pout, but I also feel this stronger need to make the one I am with proud and to be graceful to his eyes and pouting and being pissy isn't being graceful or pleasing. good luck to you Pita, sometimes submission is a struggle, and mmm how much sweeter submission can be for feeling that struggle. ~dancer

babysburnin -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 5:43:20 PM)
Now I'm curious...what was this "Task"? I know it doesn't matter (and everyone else, don't pretend you don't want to know what has gotten Littlepita's "panties in wad". He asked - it hurt you - he did it instead. That says a lot....

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 6:42:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom Says nothing but arches his eyebrows and glares at her. The good glare or the bad glare?

CrappyDom -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 6:45:47 PM)
The one nobody wants to see.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 6:46:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom The one nobody wants to see. WHy the glare then?

desertdancer -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 6:47:51 PM)
The glare sure scared me! And I wasnt even the one being glared at! * shivers*

Taylore -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 9:16:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Littlepita This is a little rant and just meant to hog some CM space and get it off my chest! What do you do when you're pissed at your dominant? Mine has decided I should do something today that I totally don't want to do, and I frankly think he is being insensitive to me about it. Normally he is beyond wonderful to me and I know I shouldn't feel pissy about this, but I DO!! He knows there is something wrong and has been very sweet and asking if there is anything he can do. But, I'm not going to come out and tell him that the "thing" he is having me do is the thing that is making me grouchy. I personally think he knows very well what it is and it purposely ignoring it. Men....Doms....is there is a difference. Not always!! [:@][:(] This slave has to agree with bandit25. As said 'suck it up and get it done' There are sometimes that Master has me do something that I just do not want to do, and he knows it; yet, I do it. I have found that pouting, and getting angry will not get the job done, just prolong that agony that is felt within.

LadyHugs -> RE: Pissed at Dom (7/2/2006 9:49:14 PM)
Dear desertdancer, LuckyAlbatross, Ladies and Gentlemen; I would be happy to pass out sunglasses as to 'cut out the glare' but, alas I cannot fit them through the screen and or the blindfolds to block the glare entirely. Respectfully submitted with a bit of humor, Lady Hugs

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