Kat713
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt So in your view a switch is someone who lacks commitment? Hhhmm, I've been with my husband for 15 years and my sub for nearly 7. In my view that displays a level of commitment. But of course *you* meant 'commitment to the role' -- and there's where you and I depart in our understanding. I don't play a role. I just am. How dominant or submissive I am is dependent on who I am interacting with. Do I think that makes me a more flexible, fluid and volatile partner? Yes I do. Some people are like that. That you propose 'one true way' will not get much traction here. It my very well be the way for YOU, but judging strangers you don't even know b/c they don't adhere to your way shows an extreme level of arrogance and inflexibility. These are not good personality traits for anyone, most especially for someone seeking to control another. The good news is that this post can easily be read by anyone who may have an interest in you. Wow. ++1 Thank you! I consider myself a Switch and pretty much have since I joined this site and had to choose something haha. I do tend to lean heavily towards my submissive side, almost to the point where I would just consider myself a submissive, but like you, depending on the person I am with or the situation I'm in, I might find myself leaning towards the other way (usually if that person happens to be more submissive). Hm but wow, I am so surprised to discover I'm not actually into BDSM but am just some kind of imposter on this site. -_- Mr.Buck, everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I think it's a little unfair and hurtful for you to just say Switches aren't really into BDSM or are 'muddying the waters'. Also, some people are actually into other things you might not be into, such as professional domination, and that doesn't mean they are fake or something either. For example, there could be someone who is truly dominant and has been for years and then found that subs were very willing and wanting to pay for her to spank them or something. In this example, does that mean the Domme or the sub is being fake or are not 'really into bdsm?' It seems they are both happy so what's the problem? Or how about the times I visited Tokyo and hung out in fetish bars through the night, talking with others about kinky interests, getting tied with rope or playing in other ways ;), and sometimes even getting partially nude or changing into a sexy outfit... But when I got on the subway the next morning or went other places, of course I wore clothes and no one knew where I had been or what I was into. Does that mean I'm fake or don't belong here? Everyone has their own kinks, and yes some people are even into financial domination or enjoy going to the local club on Saturday and getting a nice spanking or chatting with others before going back to their own personal life/work the next week. This is also just my opinion, but I think the "true" way in this lifestyle is to be true to yourself. Welcome to the forums and good luck with what you are looking for.
< Message edited by Kat713 -- 10/21/2013 5:06:53 AM >
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