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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 6:38:34 PM

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I think that a subjective feeling of merit is at the heart of most human interactions.

Didn't I already say that?

And thanks Dark- I hope everyone who comes here finds people they admire. I know I do.

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 6:51:04 PM

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I think that a subjective feeling of merit is at the heart of most human interactions.

Didn't I already say that?

And thanks Dark- I hope everyone who comes here finds people they admire. I know I do.

Did I violate your copyright?

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 7:24:51 PM

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And that feeling one is connected to meritorious people, can only make one feel a sense of pride and security.

I don’t see anyone as being completely meritorious or completely the opposite. People are complex and driven by many desires that don’t always make them meritorious or seek those who are.

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 7:51:16 PM

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And that feeling one is connected to meritorious people, can only make one feel a sense of pride and security.

I don’t see anyone as being completely meritorious or completely the opposite. People are complex and driven by many desires that don’t always make them meritorious or seek those who are.

But if the perception of merit slides below a certain level-the chances of desiring a connection go with it.

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 8:13:00 PM

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It depends on what "merit" one seeks. It could be that I seek and value something you would not think of as meritorious, but to me it is. People are too complex to think in terms of good and bad is my point.

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 8:15:27 PM

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It depends on what "merit" one seeks. It could be that I seek and value something you would not think of as meritorious, but to me it is. People are too complex to think in terms of good and bad is my point.

I did say that merit was subjective.

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 8:17:24 PM

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Sounds cool to me.

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RE: On Merit - 7/2/2006 8:21:45 PM

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Sounds cool to me.

let's examine two examples.

One sub likes light spankings,and then to be cuddled.

Another likes to be reduced to hamburger with a bullwhip, spat upon-and locked into a cage.

Either one, would be hell to other other.

Separately, they are paradise.

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RE: On Merit - 7/3/2006 1:44:30 AM

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Good point. How is merit earned? Of course that depends on the values of the person evaluating another person who is judging their relative merit(s).

Personally, I like -

*Open-minded people who at the same time still have a capacity to use common sense and express balanced judgment re: The behavior of others (which is also a relative judgment, so "here we go again" I guess)...

*People who would give other folks a "second chance", so to speak, if they screwed something up once or didn't meet their expectations to a tee (which doesn't in my mind, make them a "sucker") -but still know when to "call it a day" re: Someone else walking all over them (if they are).

*Somebody who keeps their word.

*I consider a sense of humor a real gift, and I always appreciate people who use it, if they are so inclined. Some folks are more serious minded, though, which is okay, too.

*Some people have real talents and it's always (I think) a real shame when they let them go to waste via laziness. Of course, some people are talented in so many areas they will maybe never get a chance to express themselves in all of those areas (that's always been my excuse anyway *joke). Plus, there are only so many hours in a day.

-Susan

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RE: On Merit - 7/3/2006 10:55:30 AM

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I agree with Susan about things that show me a person has merit.
All the definitions of merit I have found so far basically boil down to someone/thing being worthy, admirable, or deserving of praise.
That kind of makes merit (as has been said before) subjective.
Are their certain things that we *all* or as a majority believe show merit?

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RE: On Merit - 7/3/2006 11:19:38 AM

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Breathing has an undeniable, and universal merit.

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RE: On Merit - 7/3/2006 11:28:54 AM

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Breathing is a big plus for us, yes.

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