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looking - 10/25/2013 1:58:31 AM   
tallwithblueeye


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Status: offline 		looking for a real mistress in Fl so far found fake one. How can this be done.
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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 2:26:58 AM   
lizi


Posts: 4673
Joined: 2/1/2009
Status: offline 		You've been on here about a week and a half, it takes a little time to find someone. Keep writing people and plugging away at it, do some work. It isn't the kind of thing that happens instantly.

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 2:44:48 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		What have you tried so far?

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 7:22:11 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Don't you guys know? All it takes is creating a profile on a kink site and the Dominant women are just supposed to fall into someone's lap. Five minutes worth of typing things on a profile should have Dominant women rushing to anybody who checks the submissive box. A whole week and a half must mean something is wrong because there's definitely a lack of instant gratification going on around here.


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Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 7:43:59 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Now now Lady Pact, perhaps he's also been going to munches and events in his local area.

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 7:46:45 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		What kind of odds do you want to give on that? I'd like to place My bet now.


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The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 9:21:49 AM   
Rochsub2009


Posts: 2536
Status: offline 		Firstly, you need to fix your profile. It doesn't say anything about you other than that you want to spend your day kissing a woman's feet (which isn't realistic, BTW). Make your profile more thorough. Talk about who you are and what you enjoy. Focus on those things that make you unique and interesting. Try to avoid focusing on kink. You're on a kink site, so everyone knows that you're kinky. But who are you as a person? Remember, there are thousands of men just like you here on CollarMe. So what makes you stand out from the crowd? Why would a woman choose you over all of them? Think of your profile as if it were your resume, and then sell yourself.

Secondly, fix the spelling and grammar in your profile. It reads like you're a Nigerian scammer and/or English is a second language for you. You never get a second chance to make a first impression, and the first impression that you're making is TERRIBLE.

Lastly, join Fetlife. It's a free site. I'm providing a link from Fetlife for Clearwater, FL. There are 1,600 kinksters from Clearwater on Fetlife. It also lists upcoming BDSM events in your area.

Clearwater link on Fetlife

I hope this helps.
-Roch


< Message edited by Rochsub2009 -- 10/25/2013 9:23:00 AM >

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 9:30:23 AM   
Lynnxz


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From: Atlanta
Status: offline 		What color is your other eye OP?

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 10:22:02 AM   
stef


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

What have you tried so far?

He's posted two poor personal ads and has a profile that says nearly nothing about him. Clearly, this site sucks because he hasn't found anyone yet.

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 11:04:59 AM   
lizi


Posts: 4673
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Status: offline 		Although it pains me to do this, I have to say I give the guy credit for actually showing up here in the forums- hardly anyone from the other side does. He also posted an intro instead of simply lurking, that's rare, and still went on to come here to ask a question instead of coming to bray about the fat Dommes who won't give him the time of day or their feet. Small things, but they're all out of the norm.

He doesn't seem to have taken anyone's profile suggestions yet or be invested in supervising his thread....we'll see.

Lynnxz....holy cow, I christened my laptop screen.

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 12:34:32 PM   
DomMeinCT


Posts: 2355
Joined: 5/5/2005
Status: offline 		He was given advice in his intro thread to come here and read the FAQs. Instead, he posted asking for others to tell him what to do.

In answer to your question, OP, the very FIRST thing that's going to make you more attractive is to convey a sense that you're not helpless and willing to put some effort into things, not just ask others to do it for you.


(Lizi, that wasn't directed at you....thought I used Fast Reply.)

< Message edited by DomMeinCT -- 10/25/2013 12:35:10 PM >

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 3:02:46 PM   
servuspet


Posts: 67
Joined: 2/3/2006
From: Detroit, MI
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Don't you guys know? All it takes is creating a profile on a kink site and the Dominant women are just supposed to fall into someone's lap. Five minutes worth of typing things on a profile should have Dominant women rushing to anybody who checks the submissive box. A whole week and a half must mean something is wrong because there's definitely a lack of instant gratification going on around here.




Dang. I've been going about this TOTALLY wrong.

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 5:51:02 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

What kind of odds do you want to give on that? I'd like to place My bet now.


I'll take a piece of that action. As long as you're betting that he is. Say, two to one against?

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 5:53:53 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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quote:

He was given advice in his intro thread to come here and read the FAQs. Instead, he posted asking for others to tell him what to do.


So, asking women to tell him what to do in order to find a woman who will tell him what to do is the wrong way to do it?

Damn, what's a guy to do?

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 6:49:47 PM   
igor2003


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

quote:

He was given advice in his intro thread to come here and read the FAQs. Instead, he posted asking for others to tell him what to do.


So, asking women to tell him what to do in order to find a woman who will tell him what to do is the wrong way to do it?

Damn, what's a guy to do?


New person after new person comes here and is told this is the DISCUSSION side; people come here to DISCUSS; this is where we DISCUSS. So someone actually asks a question to start a DISCUSSION and they are told to go read the FAQs and do their own research. New people can't win.

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D - 10/25/2013 8:22:48 PM   
peppermint


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

looking for a real mistress in Fl so far found fake one. How can this be done.


Go to a munch.
Present yourself as a reasonably normal and intelligent person.

To find your nearest munch

1. Google your city or state and the word munch
2. Go to the FAQ's (those stickies you were told you needed to read) to discover how to find your closest munch
3. Join Fetlife.com and use the search feature to find your closest munch.

Go to munch
Go to munch
Go to munch

To find real people who do this stuff for real you need to go to the places where those people hang out. Lots of them hang out at munches. If you go to a munch you will meet people. You might even meet the Mistress of your dreams if you don't blow it.



< Message edited by peppermint -- 10/25/2013 8:23:06 PM >

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 9:40:59 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tallwithblueeye

looking for a real mistress in Fl so far found fake one. How can this be done.


Well, first, punctuation is always your friend.

Secondly (the most important aspect); How?

You seek.

(It's fairly simple actually).

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RE: looking - 10/25/2013 9:41:21 PM   
DomMeinCT


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quote:

ORIGINAL: igor2003


quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

quote:

He was given advice in his intro thread to come here and read the FAQs. Instead, he posted asking for others to tell him what to do.


So, asking women to tell him what to do in order to find a woman who will tell him what to do is the wrong way to do it?

Damn, what's a guy to do?


New person after new person comes here and is told this is the DISCUSSION side; people come here to DISCUSS; this is where we DISCUSS. So someone actually asks a question to start a DISCUSSION and they are told to go read the FAQs and do their own research. New people can't win.


Yes, they certainly can win - and MANY do - by reading the FAQs instead of expecting to have the answers to the most basic questions spoon fed, then returning having educated themselves in those basics and elevating their questions above "HOW FIND I DOMME?"

Inability to follow basic directions and unwillingness to differentiate oneself from others too lazy to innovate their conversation in even small ways are sure paths to failure.

< Message edited by DomMeinCT -- 10/25/2013 9:42:50 PM >

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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 5:02:52 AM   
tallwithblueeye


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Status: offline 		All right I need a new profile. can any help with that. thank-you

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RE: looking - 10/26/2013 5:09:44 AM   
tallwithblueeye


Posts: 8
Joined: 10/16/2013
Status: offline 		Looking about 5 month. Play two time. need full time

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