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When dealing with a female sub what is your approach? W... - 10/25/2013 11:18:15 AM

PrincessNubienne

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I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/25/2013 12:11:56 PM

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I have found little difference between male and female subs. The subs I take on all tend to be highly intelligent, service oriented, and very capable leaders if they happen to take on a leadership role for something like work or volunteering. What few differences I've found between groups, as opposed to individuals, consist of how they perform tasks rather than what tasks I give. Men tend to be more focused on fixing problems and like to be active, while women seem to focus more on making sure they anticipate possible future issues and resolve them before they become problems. Other than that, there's no one-size-fits-all solution. Each person is so different, with different aptitudes, it's impossible to be more specific.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/25/2013 1:15:54 PM

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I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Lol, I've never had a male sub, but I've thought about it from time to time. I will say I've noticed the following kink differences. (These are general principles, there are always exceptions, your mileage may vary, etc.)

Lots of male subs love body ugliness humiliation. Most female subs consider that a hard limit, even if they like being humiliated. For example, stick a naked woman in a corner during a party, she might be soaking wet because she's naked in "public," but tell the same woman her labia are ugly (the way you might tell a man his penis is small) and she might scream RED.

Scat, and analingus in general: almost exclusively male.

Women are more likely to want forced orgasms than long-term chastity. (Men are, too, but the chastity crowd is much larger than it is with women.)

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/25/2013 5:58:55 PM

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I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Exactly the same way you deal with male subs, as unique individual persons.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/25/2013 6:21:04 PM

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I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Strangely enough, they're people. Just like with vanilla folks, there isn't any one particular thing that makes them tick. You're going to have to put in the work of getting to know the person in order to find out what makes them tick. There are no shortcuts.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/25/2013 9:42:29 PM

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I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Online: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

Offline: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

(Did that help?).

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/25/2013 11:10:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: PrincessNubienne

I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Online: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

Offline: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

(Did that help?).

You forgot the all-important "Make me a sammich" line, or the sure-to-please "Make me turkey pot-pie and pick out the peas", always a heart-warmer.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/26/2013 6:41:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: PrincessNubienne

I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Online: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

Offline: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

(Did that help?).

You forgot the all-important "Make me a sammich" line, or the sure-to-please "Make me turkey pot-pie and pick out the peas", always a heart-warmer.

Surely a true sub would know to not put peas in your pot-pie to begin with?

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/26/2013 7:37:32 AM

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It was said earlier that males seem to be more problem solving and I've found that to be true but when there is not really a "problem" just a task they seem to get distracted and want to do things their way. Not always but it has happened quite a few times. Even as subs female tend to still remain more nurturing.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/28/2013 7:46:26 PM

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Surely a true sub would know to not put peas in your pot-pie to begin with?

A true sub would skip the peas, yes. But a really great sub knows that pealess pies taste funny. So, she'll make the pie with peas, and then pick them out...

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/29/2013 12:24:10 PM

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^ this is my philosophy about mushrooms, for which I like the flavor, but not the texture.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/29/2013 12:46:10 PM

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But a really great sub knows that pealess pies taste funny. So, she'll make the pie with peas, and then pick them out...

I prefer my pies pea-less since I hate peas. But, since himself likes peas, I make the pie with peas and pick out the peas in my serving.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/29/2013 12:48:00 PM

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You forgot the all-important "Make me a sammich" line, or the sure-to-please "Make me turkey pot-pie and pick out the peas", always a heart-warmer.

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RE: When dealing with a female sub what is your approac... - 10/29/2013 1:30:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: PrincessNubienne

I have never fully had a female sub.
Wanted to know what makes them tick and how you deal with them both online and off.

Online: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

Offline: "Hey....get me a fucking beer".

(Did that help?).

You forgot the all-important "Make me a sammich" line, or the sure-to-please "Make me turkey pot-pie and pick out the peas", always a heart-warmer.

Surely a true sub would know to not put peas in your pot-pie to begin with?