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novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 2:41:29 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		What is the primary reason for having a sub? -a domme? What do you get out of it?
What is usually expected of a sub that is accross the board an a common expections ?
What is your top and most important rule ?
How detailed and extensive is your contract?
What criteria do you look for in a sub?  A - domme?
Are your sub/domme relationships romantic above and beyond the Domme / sub dyanmic ?
What is your most servere punishment ?
What is your most favorit eritic punishment ?
How long did you know your domme before you were collared ?
How long did you know your sub before you collared her ?
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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 2:56:16 PM   
Samwhiplash


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Status: offline 		wow..... talk about a few questions ;-)

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 3:11:24 PM   
jamesthehumanrug


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Status: offline 		dear novice,aka
v my eyes,
i thot you were collared first time ,or first sign you were finally accepted and ,leashed, in public(collar put to use,in the streets) ,if the top is happy, if not ;well.... why answer anymore of these questions

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 3:18:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: vmyeyes

What is the primary reason for having a sub? -a domme? What do you get out of it?
What is usually expected of a sub that is accross the board an a common expections ?
What is your top and most important rule ?
How detailed and extensive is your contract?
What criteria do you look for in a sub?  A - domme?
Are your sub/domme relationships romantic above and beyond the Domme / sub dyanmic ?
What is your most servere punishment ?
What is your most favorit eritic punishment ?
How long did you know your domme before you were collared ?
How long did you know your sub before you collared her ?



Sounds like some one is doing a Theses for their Masters and wants us to do all of their home work for them?



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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 3:20:58 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		no i have not yet been collared but very much wish to be. i have these questions because i wish to know more before i go any further, in fact it was hope to soon be mistress that wished that i come on here to ask others there stories to get more of an input and know for sure this is what i want. i think she is very kind in haveing me ask others what it is like for them. we are in a trial period to see if this is what i want, same goes for her. so thats why i ask these questions......

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 4:22:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		It depends on the person doesn't it, each experience is a unique experience, an experience for one is a different experience to another...etc

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 4:43:09 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		yes i understand that missyrane thats what i want to know about

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/2/2006 7:40:00 PM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		Alrightythen, vmyeyes, since you've deftly defended this post, I will attempt to give you a brief response:

What is the primary reason for having a sub? -
 
A long time ago I realized that I was unhappy in any relationship where a man made all the decisions, initiated conversation, romance, contact of any kind, controlled the finances, ran the household.  I wanted the freedom to be Myself, when I wanted, how I pleased.  I wanted a partner who was happy with Me being Myself, not one who constantly gave Me his expectations of what he wanted Me to be and then demanded that I meet those expectations.  I wanted to be able to ask a man to do a given something for Me and have him happy to oblige My request, rather than bristle and snarl because he thought I was 'demanding'.  I realized, many decades ago, that a man who was gentle and noble and gallantly submissive to Me by nature was the sort of man I was happiest to be with.  That's why I have a sub.
 
What do you get out of it?
 
Happiness and fulfillment.

What is usually expected of a sub that is accross the board an a common expections ?

I'm not certain that I understand your question so I'll attempt to answer what I think this asks:  I usually expect a sub to be gracious, well mannered at all times, never hostile, and above all willing.  Willingness to please is an innate quality, either a man has that quality or he does not.  Whether I ask him to help Me paint the house, wash windows, mow the yard, maintain a vehicle, whether I ask him to run My bath, dry My back, wash My feet, or stand in a corner tied from head to toe with ropes, I want him to be willing to do so.  Whatever I ask, whenever I ask, and if he's a jewel enough to anticipate My wants before I ever ask him, so much more precious is he!

What is your top and most important rule ?

Be truthful with Me at all times, about all things.

How detailed and extensive is your contract?

Very detailed and very extensive.  A sub who is not willing to review it, discuss it and hammer out the details will never serve Me.

What criteria do you look for in a sub? 
 
My profile gives a pretty good outline of what I look for.

Are your sub/domme relationships romantic above and beyond the Domme / sub dyanmic ?

Absolutely.

What is your most servere punishment ?

That depends. For some, it is cutting off all contact with Me.  For others, it may be whipping the bare soles of the subs feet with a dressage whip until I feel the boy has learned his lesson.  For others, it may be a session with Mister Paintstick, or My bullwhip. It is entirely dependent upon the personality of the sub.

What is your most favorit eritic punishment ?

Personal. Not posting it here.

How long did you know your sub before you collared him ?

I do not have a collared sub.  I have a sub, who once wore My collar, until I withdrew it from him.  He is still My sub, for now.
 
Good luck with this quest,
 
TexasMaam


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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 6:43:44 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		i want to say thank you so much for your answers it helps.

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 6:47:01 PM   
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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 7:07:29 PM   
Evanesce


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Status: offline 		What is the primary reason for having a sub?
 
I don't want a sub.  I want a slave.  Why?  Because my life is all about control and who has it.  I have an Owner, who has control over me; but we also seek another slave, over whom I will also have control, because without an outlet for my dominant side (which is the majority of my personality), most of who I am is stifled.
 
-a domme?
 
No Domme here.  I only do men.
 
What do you get out of it?
 
Fulfillment, enjoyment, companionship, comfort, and a few other less noble, but oh, so enjoyable, sensations.

What is usually expected of a sub that is accross the board an a common expections ?
 
Obedience.
 
What is your top and most important rule ?
 
Never lie to me.
 
How detailed and extensive is your contract?
 
I have never had a contract.  Not as a slave; not as a Domme.
 
What criteria do you look for in a sub?
 
Intelligence, honesty, willingness to serve, a sense of humor, a sense of adventure, flexibility (and I don't mean physically), the ability to work independently, and a demonstrated willingness to obey.
 
A - Dom?
 
Honesty, consistency, strength of character, a sense of humor, intelligence, creativity, and he MUST be more dominant than I am.
 
Are your sub/domme relationships romantic above and beyond the Domme / sub dyanmic ?
 
It's not out of the question, but it's not a requirement in my relationships.
 
What is your most servere punishment ?
 
That depends entirely upon the infraction and who is inflicting said punishment.
 
What is your most favorit eritic punishment ?
 
There is no such thing as a "favorite" punishment.  Punishment is not fun.
 
How long did you know your Dom before you were collared ?
 
Eighteen months.
 
How long did you know your sub before you collared her ?
 
Don't have one yet. 


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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 8:01:03 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		thank you for your side i like to see other people sides i am a lesbian an looking to start this life style an finding myself along the way
thank you

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 8:19:57 PM   
gypsyssoul


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this was insightful ...
and interesting to read ...
more questions then i have come up with
in 3 years ..
but interesting ..
 


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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 8:29:37 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		another question for every one ..... Does your friends an family know of your life style or do you keep it a quite only between you an the other person? the reason i ask is do i mention this to my friends an how will they react to it or do i keep it quite like dont ask dont tell kind a thing an how much of your life style affects you out side like work, friends, family ? how does this all work its like i felt like when i was first comming out the closet being a lesbian an that in its self is a life style. do i treat this the same or cuz i dont want to be ashamed of who i am becoming an what i am finding along the way that i like. its like just so confusing,,,,, please inlighten me its not that i would ever share the stuff thats behind closed doors but how much of this life style will affect my life out side the home.....

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 8:47:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I cant speak for anyone else, but quite a few of my friends know about my lifestyle.  With my personality, it hasnt really come as  surprise to any of them either. I prefer it that way, so that when I am out with them and my boy, I dont have to "remember" what I am supposed to be that night.
As fr family, my parents are clueless... but my younger brother knows and has known since I started in the lifestyle.  He isnt into it, but he and I are going to be living together and he is OK with my having a livein with me. My only request from him ..."no hairy boys in french maids outfits dusting things when I get home from work... mkay?"

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/3/2006 9:01:29 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		see thank you . i dont want to have to remember what i am supposed to be an if i say girlfriend like my mistress says then that implyies thats there more too it an if i am comanaded to do something in front of a friend i dont want my friend looking at her wrong an disrespecting her in any way for telling me to do something.... i know my friends they treat me like i am the baby an if anyone of my lovers speak to me in a way they dont like they will on there own take matters in there own hands an thats not something i want to have happen..... i dont want to do anything that will disrepect my mistress in anyway..... 

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/4/2006 8:37:39 AM   
Evanesce


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quote:

please inlighten me its not that i would ever share the stuff thats behind closed doors but how much of this life style will affect my life out side the home.....


As much as you allow it to. 
 
My family and friends are fully aware of my lifestyle.  They don't necessarily get to hear the details of what goes on behind closed doors, but the power dynamic between the Kaptin and myself is evident in everything we do.  My family's biggest concern was that I be happy and safe, which I am.  Friends just accept it as me being me.
 
In your situation, I would probably not "tell" these friends about my lifestyle, but I wouldn't "hide" it from them, either.  If you're being true to who you are, and can demonstrate that you are happy in serving someone else, then your friends, if they are really friends, will accept your choices.  If they express concern and start asking questions, then you can decide how much information they need in order to ease their concerns.

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/4/2006 9:34:08 AM   
DivaZya


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Status: offline 		: vmyeyes asked these questions:

What is the primary reason for having a sub?
 I 'own' Mine. to  just 'have' seems too temporary and I don't care to put so much time & attention into someone who's not as dedicated to Me.. temporary = bottom = test drive to Me.

 -a domme? What do you get out of it?
Satisfaction from simply knowing the submissive is confident in Me and has the opportunity to BE submissive. Satisfaction in knowing I am beyond a 'special friend' - I am the great part of their life that I influence and encourage to get better.
Oh and they are so helpfull that My life is better for allowing them into My Dimension.

What is usually expected of a sub that is accross the board an a common expections ?
Communication, honestly and openness. be usefull to Me.

What is your top and most important rule ?
Communication, honestly and openness. be usefull to Me.
  ** you should look up the 9 levels of submission.  see where you feel most comfortable. **

How detailed and extensive is your contract?
We cover what-if situations and actually write it together - since I like to own those from far away as well as part time, it MUST be specific to each personality and needs.

What criteria do you look for in a sub?  A - domme?
What we are looking for should be Explicite on our profiles, do the research yourself.

Are your sub/domme relationships romantic above and beyond the Domme / sub dyanmic ?

what do you think the Domina/Submissive dynamic is?

What is your most servere punishment ?
Most severe while still retaining the submissive?
  an activity that the submissive does NOT list in as a turn on or willign to play at. Most often something usefull yet horrible, like crawling under the house to make sure there's no dead animals there...

What is your most favorit eritic punishment ?
 sheesh, kinda defeats the purpose of "punishment' neh?
. . get out and play some so you'll know why We tell you that.

How long did you know your domme before you were collared ?
How long did you know your sub before you collared her ?
The shortest time was a month. We met  this year through collarme. he lived relatively near, a couple of cities north of Me. his good attitude shined through in his words..after chatting, many calls and several meetings.  Including meals out together with My primary, (Must care for every one involved) to make sure they get along.
Right now he's under My consideration with a reminder collar on, and when he returns from the family crisis, I'll take up from where we left off.



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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/4/2006 10:31:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SirDaniel

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ORIGINAL: vmyeyes

What is the primary reason for having a sub? -a domme? What do you get out of it?
What is usually expected of a sub that is accross the board an a common expections ?
What is your top and most important rule ?
How detailed and extensive is your contract?
What criteria do you look for in a sub?  A - domme?
Are your sub/domme relationships romantic above and beyond the Domme / sub dyanmic ?
What is your most servere punishment ?
What is your most favorit eritic punishment ?
How long did you know your domme before you were collared ?
How long did you know your sub before you collared her ?



Sounds like some one is doing a Theses for their Masters and wants us to do all of their home work for them?




I think we have a winner on intent here,,,,,,

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RE: novice seeks answers - 7/4/2006 1:01:07 PM   
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sorry had to try this one out. Couldn't resist.

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