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Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 6:59:14 AM

Serenebreaths

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Hello Ladies,

I have been reading and trying to understand my own tendiences. I have a very Dominating side, Yet I am quite submissive. However I find it very rewarding when in a relationship with a male to have his complete submission. How does one balance these? And be a wonderful Mistress at the same time? Any help, advice etc... I would so very much appreciate.
Thank you again.

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 7:11:53 AM

Destinysskeins

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Greetings,

Have You ever thought to find company with a switch or a submissive that also enjoys exploring the Top side from time to time?

Well wishes

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 6:08:31 PM

ShadeDiva

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No, she wasn't.

Could you at least be remotely civil if you are going to post?

Sheesh.

She gave an excellent answer.

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 7:30:51 PM

Gem

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Brightest Blessings

Well what worked for me was finding a Owner who not only understood my dual selves but was confident and strong enough to live with them and be truned on by them. Man owns me very much so, and we co-dom others together. Both sides of my self are fed completely.

Or as another suggested you could find a switch who would enjoy switching with you.

Bottom line don't feel like you are the only one out there or that you are not normal because you are a round peg that folks are trying to fit into a square hole.

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 8:15:03 PM

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quote:

are you fucking kidding or what

That's at least the third post like that i've seen from you mimd. What is your purpose? Why say anything if you can't contribute to the discussion?

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 8:21:06 PM

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I don't see what the big issue is MIMD this is a classic example of a switch. Let us be reminded that Switches are a fact of life not everyone is extremely one thing or another. As for how MIMD responded I found the response to be rude and obnoxious but from the looks of it being vanilla with 3 post he/she hasn't taken the class on posting etiquetted yet.

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/18/2004 11:13:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

That's at least the third post like that i've seen from you mimd. What is your purpose? Why say anything if you can't contribute to the discussion?

Mimd isn't here to contribute, it's a troll. Look at it's profile and read the journal entries it's made. Why it still has an account here, I can't understand.

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/19/2004 12:35:12 AM

BlkTallFullfig

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I'm with Destiny...
Find a sub, who is also able to top on occasion.
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RE: Advice Please. - 11/19/2004 1:41:03 PM

Serenebreaths

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You all have been wonderful and I overlook the other........ Heeeeeeheeeeeeeeee I will try to do as you advise......... Thank You again for you help..............

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RE: Advice Please. - 11/27/2004 7:25:03 PM

MsHoney2you

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Serenebreaths,
I find many character traits in myself. As I recognize them surfacing I allow these tendancies to have credance, see them as the reality they are and thoughtfully explore the 'right and wrong' for ME in my feelings about them. NOT allowing others their say until I believe I have thought through the issue as far as I can, then only to ask those that will give me honest responses, not ones they think I want to hear.

ie; My topping 99.9% of the time, yet loving the feel of my own toys used on myself, or the feel of a friends new flogger on my back. Does that make me less Dominant? Less able to be followed by a worthy sub/slave? IMO no, it's simply part of MY Whole.

I tend to be a well rounded/balanced person. When I recognize a need in me, one that causes me concern until it is dealt with, I seek the best person to help me fulfill that particular need. Same thing I would do if the doctor told me I were unable to drive, I would ask my friends to drive me.

What I have found is that many subs are unable to see their Mistress 'sub' to another as it causes them distress. My suggestion is for you to find a safe partner for you to visit this need when it surfaces, yet without having to be public about it (many subs and Dom/mes alike are not able to see you 'submitting' to another even if what they see is you bottoming, not submitting, the act itself is seen as submission for many) this way you will be able to remain in 'place' in your subs minds and serve your personal needs as well.

I hope my ramblings did not confuse,
Ms Honey

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