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MariaB -> RE: -=Now y'all wannabes can "play like Grey"=- (11/10/2013 11:40:56 AM)
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Its interesting how we work out the blame for shit.
London has become a bit of a nightmare when it comes to BDSM clubs. A city that not so long ago, had several regular clubs going on every Friday and Saturday, has dwindled down to a couple of clubs a month. The fetish scene however, has taken off in all its glory and although a fet club doesn’t put its highest priority on dungeon space, your guaranteed a good night out in a packed club with a big crowd of young and very open minded people.
As an ex promoter of a large and very successful BDSM club in the heart of London, I will openly admit that to survive, we had to have fetish attractions. There just weren’t enough BDSM people wanting to come out and spend money. They always verbally supported us, they always told us they were coming along but over all it was the fet crowd who we relied on to make up the numbers. Having worked closely with both the fet crowd and the BDSM crowd I will say this, fet people tend to look at a night out as something exciting, new, fun and friendly. For them its all about the dressing up, the carnival atmosphere and being gregarious. Many BDSM folk (generally an older crowd) complain about entry fees, complain about the price of drinks or how other players are playing and doing it all wrong. They complain that the music is too loud, too soft, not their cup of tea and they complain that someone is sitting at the table they normally like to sit at. In all honesty I find many of the BDSM crowd stuffy and boring.
The younger crowd, at least in London, are now setting up their own private nights. They don’t want a club full of old fogies, they don’t want the rules set in place and have to follow club standards. We have been to some of these parties, even though we are considered ‘old’! and they are absolutely not our thing because it seems to me, what the younger crowd like is, extremely hard core BDSM without limits and then a big gangbang to finish the night off. Even the fetish crowd are more hardcore than most of my generation BDSMers.
The new crowd is coming through, like it or not and gradually the older, perhaps more sensible crowd are being pushed to the outer corners. We can’t fight that, I doubt we can change it and if we don’t want to join in, then we must accept that pure BDSM clubs will get more and more diluted.
This has nothing to do with 50 Shades or any other raunchy novel that's hit the shelves. Its all to do with a new generation of kinksters who think our rules are antiquated and because this new crowd has hit us on mass, we are looking in every direction to pin blame. Nobody is to blame, it is what it is because times just change with the years.
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