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New and exploring polamory - 11/10/2013 6:51:12 PM

AxelandSuzanne

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New to the site, we are a couple that have discovered we are both dominant in bed after getting married and have decided that once Axel is done with college we would like to find a submissive third. So we are here right now to explore and learn.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/10/2013 11:04:35 PM

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Welcome to the boards! Lots to learn here. Check out our great poly section if you haven't already.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/11/2013 1:57:37 AM

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/11/2013 9:35:52 AM

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Welcome to the Unicorn hunt.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/11/2013 11:10:35 AM

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What's a unicorn?

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/11/2013 11:41:12 AM

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Stillspanked, the term unicorn is used for a bisexual female willing to join an existing couple as a third, because they're rare.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/11/2013 12:35:57 PM

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Thanks DarkSteven.. Why rare ? I LOVE getting involved with a couple than one person..You can never have too much love

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/12/2013 1:23:42 AM

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Welcome you guys.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/12/2013 4:23:07 AM

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Thanks DarkSteven.. Why rare ? I LOVE getting involved with a couple than one person..You can never have too much love

The simple explanation is that relationships are complicated and that three people makes for three sets of interactions instead of one as seen in monogamy.

More specifically (assuming an MF couple taking in a female):
The existing female feels threatened by the new woman.
The new woman feels she's not getting enough time from the existing couple.
The man feels two draws on his time.
The existing woman felt rushed into this, and finds out she's not as bisexual as she thought.
In some cases, the existing MF relationship hadn't been fully set up, so nobody really knows what to expect.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/12/2013 5:00:42 AM

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Welcome you two. Good luck in your learning. There is, apparently, A LOT to learn in poly given the rather dismal success rates.

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/13/2013 5:15:48 AM

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/13/2013 4:43:35 PM

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Hello everyone :)
(Not sure how to navigate through these? :)

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RE: New and exploring polamory - 11/14/2013 3:14:12 PM

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Welcome OP... I'm glad to see more poly folks!
Unicorns might be rare but they do exist!!! Communication is key!
Have fun!

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