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When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 6:08:05 AM   
newbiesubcanada


Posts: 9
Joined: 11/11/2013
Status: offline 		Hello and thank you for reading my question. I am new to this site and am sub and bi curious, if someone has viewed my profile is it my responsibility to contact that person, is it expected of a sub.
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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 6:16:53 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Not unless they seem interesting to you and you want to.

Being a "sub" means being yourself... acting like you! Would you feel like you *must* respond to someone on okcupid or match.com? No? Same here. Being a "sub" only means that you choose to submit to *one* person (or more if that is your choice). It doesn't mean that you are expected to be or behave in a submissive manner to others.

The only rules are:

1. be safe.
2. have fun.
3. take everything you read with a healthy dose of salt
4. don't wear white after Labor Day (northern hemisphere, USA-specific).

:)

best,
sunshine

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 6:22:18 AM   
newbiesubcanada


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Status: offline 		Thank you, I didn't want to offend any one by sending them a message if they have viewed me.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 6:22:48 AM   
petitespot


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From: Surfside Beach, SC
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quote:

ORIGINAL: newbiesubcanada

Hello and thank you for reading my question. I am new to this site and am sub and bi curious, if someone has viewed my profile is it my responsibility to contact that person, is it expected of a sub.



You are exactly the naive fresh meat that users look for.
I'm not even going to look at your profile because then you'd have to write to me. 8)
I'll assume you're 18, but you're most likely in your 40's and have left common sense at the door.



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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 6:26:56 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: newbiesubcanada

Hello and thank you for reading my question. I am new to this site and am sub and bi curious, if someone has viewed my profile is it my responsibility to contact that person, is it expected of a sub.


God no. You're not even obligated to reply to people who message you, unless you want to speak to them.

Message people who interest you.

Viewing your profile means nothing except they looked at you. If you were in a bar, would you feel it was your duty to introduce yourself to everyone who looked at you?

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 6:45:20 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		Please read the responses you got to your question over and over until your brain is ready to accept what has been said to you. Then spend some time pondering these responses until you can adequately answer this question:

Why on earth would you think you had to do that?



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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 7:01:25 AM   
newbiesubcanada


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Status: offline 		understood thank you. Perhaps my question was worded incorrectly. If I have viewed a Master or Mistress and they have viewed me, is the sub expected to make first contact? Or is it proper to wait on their decision. Does that sound more resonable, I wouldnt contact someone unless I was interested. I am 50, male

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 7:06:55 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		We're all just people. Including you. Until and unless you decide to serve a particular person, you're just a regular guy hanging out... deciding whether you want to have a date with another person. All standard dating rules apply.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 7:12:13 AM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: newbiesubcanada

understood thank you. Perhaps my question was worded incorrectly. If I have viewed a Master or Mistress and they have viewed me, is the sub expected to make first contact? Or is it proper to wait on their decision. Does that sound more resonable, I wouldnt contact someone unless I was interested. I am 50, male


Until someone collars you, you don't have to do anything you don't want to. If someone interests you then contact them.

Oh and you might want to fix your profile, it says your 40.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 8:35:20 AM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Especially on this side, people will view your profile to be able to tailor a response. Are you male or female, young or older, as frequently that will change what we write. With your name, people may also just be curious as to where in Canada you are. Or they may like your picture and want to see what other pictures you have up.

If you get a missed call from an unknown number, do you feel obliged to call them back and ask what they want? Because that's the same thing.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 8:38:44 AM   
newbiesubcanada


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Status: offline 		Thank you all, advice appreciated and understood

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 10:04:07 AM   
kalikshama


Posts: 14805
Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline 		I'd like to hear from the Dommes - if you a view a sub's profile and don't contact him, does that mean you are not interested?

I'm a femsub and felt it was safe to assume that if a Dom viewed me and did not write, he was either not interested or lacked the assertiveness/aggressiveness I sought. I'm wondering if there are gender differences.

When I first joined the site, one of my first profile views was from a man with a very intriguing profile. I did write him, and we did become involved in various ways until I moved back home, but we weren't what the other sought. It was certainly a learning experience, though.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 10:31:23 AM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Status: offline 		If I view someone's profile it's usually just out of curiosity, either due to their photo or something they've posted, or I could be hopping from one profile to the next via Friends lists. If the mood hits Me I My might leave a comment or a hello.

Some people are just casually perusing profiles. It doesn't mean they would or wouldn't be interested if you struck up a conversation. The best way to find out is to say hello.
Certainly if you've seen someone show up on your Viewing Me page and they INTEREST you, then contact them even if they said wrote nothing. There are no rules written in stone.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 10:54:09 AM   
MasterRazz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
God no. You're not even obligated to reply to people who message you, unless you want to speak to them.


Which is why society has gone to hell in a handbag. I was always told to reply to every communication, even if it is a polite "fuck off"!!

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 11:09:05 AM   
DarkSteven


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Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline 		If I view a profile and choose to not contact that person, why would that be taken as interest?

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 11:11:51 AM   
Moonlightmaddnes


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Status: offline 		I can't tell you the number of times while cruising the forums I accidentally click on someone's name instead of the thread. I usually back out without ever looking at the profile, so no do not message everyone who looks at your profile.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 1:30:06 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		OP, you're not required to initiate contact with anyone and certainly not on the basis of just because somebody looked at your profile.

quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama
I'd like to hear from the Dommes - if you a view a sub's profile and don't contact him, does that mean you are not interested?

Pretty much. I'm more likely to look at someone's profile for at least sixteen other reasons than I was interested in them.



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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 2:01:19 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRazz

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
God no. You're not even obligated to reply to people who message you, unless you want to speak to them.


Which is why society has gone to hell in a handbag. I was always told to reply to every communication, even if it is a polite "fuck off"!!


Even 'fuck off' is more polite than is deserved by some of the unsolicited messages I've had on this site.

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Upon the hours and times of your desire?

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 2:15:56 PM   
OsideGirl


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From: United States
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRazz

Which is why society has gone to hell in a handbag. I was always told to reply to every communication, even if it is a polite "fuck off"!!



Start a female submissive profile here and respond to every email with a polite "No, thank you" and watch what you get back. I dare you.

The women here have learned that not responding is better because typically the response is to either insult us, tell us we're fake or try to pressure us. So, if you wish to blame someone, blame your fellow male Dominants for teaching us that to ignore people means a far happier inbox.

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RE: When my profile has been viewed - 11/18/2013 2:58:53 PM   
popeye1250


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Joined: 1/27/2006
From: New Hampshire
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quote:

ORIGINAL: newbiesubcanada

Hello and thank you for reading my question. I am new to this site and am sub and bi curious, if someone has viewed my profile is it my responsibility to contact that person, is it expected of a sub.


Absolutely.
And if you're a male send them dick pics, they love that!

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