feastie
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ORIGINAL: aleshaDreams
feastie, thanks for the contribution....... the actions of the individuals inexcusable, the characters however whom are we to say. Dynamics of their lives, influences through the years that make them act and behave in the fashion they have, we have not a clue about besides what the defense and prosecution have decided to use as argument. (hell I am not saying the actions are right). A person on the street homeless, I experience many calling useless, a thorn to society, scum amounst a few character definitions. Have we looked at why the person is on the street? For the most part people do not, rather attact the character of a person prior to having any knowledge.
What I seek clarification on is why we are so quick to judge the character of individuals we have little to no knowledge of?
When one reaches adulthood, he accepts personal responsibility for his actions. Life might not be kind to a lot of people, a lot of people suffer trauma, abuse, etc.
Being an adult means that you make choices. Just because you were abused as a child, doesn't mean that you have to abuse. Just because you were raised by an alcoholic doesn't mean you have to become one as well. Just because you're downtrodden and feeling lonely doesn't mean that you sacrifice your child to end your own pain.
An example. My father was a severely abused child. I've spoken of some of the horrors he and his sisters endured as children. He became an adult and he made the choice that he would never be like his father. He never abused us. I've never seen him drunk.
I'm often lonely. It's been a long time since I've had someone in my life. I've become fairly apathetic about it these days, but at the times when it was the worst, I would never have consented to abusing either of my children to please some guy on the internet.
We don't need to know anything about those two people, other than these choices they've made. There is no excuse for what they've done, none. I don't care what kind of childhood they've had, what kind of abuse they may have suffered, their choice does not stand. God is the only one that can truly judge them. He will decide their ultimate fate. Here on earth, it's we the people. I feel no guilt in feeling or expressing my opinion of these two people.
That being said, opinions on others on the board, their situations, the information they've asked for, etc., are formed and given based on the information presented. I think a lot of times, the information we're given probably has many holes in it. The responsibility for that lies with the OP of that thread, not with those that reply.
It's also the responsibility of the OP of that thread to consider the source of the advice and act accordingly. Me, I probably wouldn't take much advice from a forum board. I may ask for opinions of others, to assist me in making my decision, but I'd not allow any comments here to make that decision for me.
I am responsible for my actions and my choices. No one else. Even if I were owned, in the end, I am responsible for my personal actions and choices.
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