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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/2/2013 7:16:08 PM

xxblushesxx

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Did YOU read any of the post where I said they took my stuff when I was in a rehabilitation facility after a spinal surgery??

You really seem to be harping on the fact that I didn't learn anything, well yes in fact I did,,, Like I said in another post,,,

" it taught me that when someone is in a rehabilitation facility they should take the risk of having their things stolen there rather than leaving it at home with people they thought they could trust "

I didn't do credit checks on these people before I got involved with them, they seemed stable when I got there, they seemed loving and caring.. just like normal every day people!

lesson learned, so please stop harping on it!

Sheesh!

I think you should allow Master to read your posts here. Not being bratty should perhaps be something you should strive for with everyone you interact with; not just one special person.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 1:15:51 AM

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Most of the people here have made some kind of fucking-up-their-lives monumental mistake.

Hopefully we learn.
Not all of us learn the first time.

There probably isn't anyone here who hasn't done that.

This might make sense to you, and if it doesn't, copy and paste it and see if it doesn't down the road.

Autobiography In Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson

Chapter I

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in... it's a habit... but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 5:14:35 AM

xxblushesxx

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That's awesome, Angelika, thanks for sharing!

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 5:24:03 AM

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That's great Angelika. Thanks for posting it.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 9:41:55 AM

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That is fabulous. It makes me wish yet again there was a way to save favorite posts on here, other than cut and paste the link and save it elsewhere. Anyone know a better way?

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 12:10:01 PM

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Yes thank you very much.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 1:19:31 PM

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Your post just slapped me in the face, in a really really good way. Thank you for sharing Portia's words.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 2:03:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

That is fabulous. It makes me wish yet again there was a way to save favorite posts on here, other than cut and paste the link and save it elsewhere. Anyone know a better way?

I have a (small) folder in my Bookmarks, primarily for keeping track of threads that I thought were a real cut above.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 3:25:23 PM

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A safe word is only effective if the person who you are safe wording to acknowledges it.

Do you have the right definition for topping from the bottom? IMO topping from the bottom is a deliberate undermine to get what you want...example...purposely disobeying an order just so you can be punished. In the situation you gave, it could be simply a mistake and not a deliberate act of disobeying; especially if you have a habit of saying something where it was acceptable and now all of a sudden it is not....it IS hard to unlearn a habit. In that case, I would think he would be a bit more tolerant to it since it sounds like a habit and not see it as topping from the bottom unless you are doing it just to get a rise out of him...and if you are doing it to get a rise out of him...he is enabling you by making your bottom pink because it sounds like that is what you wanted in the first place.

I kept reading and everyone gave you amazing advise no matter how much you think they were being mean. I would like to say...a REAL DOM would have not put on the white knight act in an attempt to get a little pussy...he would have said...you have potential...come seek me out after you get your shit together...because let me tell you something....no one can change your life and train you to make it better except you and if you are depending on someone else to do that for you...sorry it isn't going to work.

This whole thread made me really really sad....ick...my partner just called said he was on his way home....I'm off to take a bubble bath and when he comes through the door...I am going to hug the shit out of him because I am blessed to have him...and he is not a REAL Dom...but we have a REAL relationship...with a whole lot of love...a whole lot of trust...and nope we don't have a safe word and I DO TOP FROM THE BOTTOM quite often...but whether my topping works or not is totally up to him....because he is still in charge.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/3/2013 3:44:24 PM

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My new Sir has given me two tasks the first being why we are to have safe words, and why we are to call them, i never was allowed before to have one because the so called "dom" was more of a user/abuser than anything else. Sir gave me a wake up call on why we do have safe words and even though i have them i was too proud to call it because i had always been told that to use a safe word was to disappoint your Master, when it was all said and done i was sobbing.

My second task being why topping from the bottom is a very bad idea, i had just gotten a pink bottom for this and apparently without thinking did it again, i think it's because i was allowed to say just about anything in my past relationships and got away with it, and Sir is a oh HELL NO kind of Dom.

Any help or comments would be appreciated, thank you in advance if you wish you can email me directly at [contact info removed by Moderator] if you just put homework in the subject line it would be great!

thank you

pet

I am neither here nor there on relationship dynamics outside of my own so safe words are fine for those who use 'em and fine for those who don't. That said, if you
have one, then it's pretty fucking selfish not to use it when you need it. That can fuck with a dom's head space and that doesn't sound very submissive to me.

Topping from the bottom:

If your dom allows it, then he allows it. Maybe you are actually amusing him.. who knows. I'm all for poking the bear but only to the growling stage. Hell, it's half
the reason I get the kicks I do.. but I know when to poke and when to pray. Personally, I think it's okay to tread the line right there because it's part of the fun
and that's the bottom line for me. I'm having fun. If you're having fun, you're doing it right and don't let any ol' Dom, Dick or Hairy till ya different.

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RE: Homework assignment's - 12/7/2013 12:51:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: pet1964

Did YOU read any of the post where I said they took my stuff when I was in a rehabilitation facility after a spinal surgery??

You really seem to be harping on the fact that I didn't learn anything, well yes in fact I did,,, Like I said in another post,,,

" it taught me that when someone is in a rehabilitation facility they should take the risk of having their things stolen there rather than leaving it at home with people they thought they could trust "

I didn't do credit checks on these people before I got involved with them, they seemed stable when I got there, they seemed loving and caring.. just like normal every day people!

lesson learned, so please stop harping on it!

Sheesh!

I think you should allow Master to read your posts here. Not being bratty should perhaps be something you should strive for with everyone you interact with; not just one special person.

I agree with this response, your Master should read this thread in my opinion, so that he can see how you interact with others. Maybe he will see a teaching opportunity. I am a little unclear if your Master was wanting you to think about safe words and tfb and let him know your beliefs or not. If so, you would benefit more by telling him YOUR thoughts, so that he can know where you are coming from. Don't underestimate the teaching that can come from a good Master.

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