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Caretakr -> RE: scared of fantasy (7/6/2006 8:00:41 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MHOO314
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ORIGINAL: slavejali
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I dont think he needs therapy because of the diaper thing.
It's not just the diaper thing. Putting the whole scenario together, 37 years old, still a virgin, wanting to wear diapers, yet feeling digusted, not being able to process his feelings appropriately, emotionally immature..and thats just what we know about.
dear slavejali, most of the time your insight is right on, however, this time I am going to disagree and this time from a gender perspective---in this life, I see men---submissive, TG, CD men wrestle with real issues--the tug of war between what society says they should be--"be a bloody man, boy" and the inner callings that range from fetishes to kink to submission to the ultimate manifestations of their feminine feelings---personally I see him quite in the "mainstream" of the men in this life---they wrestle with acceptance and validation---IMHEO his desire is no different than a man who wants to wear stockings under his slacks---it is what it is---I agree with some of the responses that if She hides it, it will validate his guilt, but if She embraces it, lets him know he is still normal---then he will "come out" and feel less guilt, more acceptance and more completion.
I find the dynamics of submissive, slave men to be very very different with its own unique mental issues----blanket statements at times do not work--and in this case, She has the chance to help him come to terms---
Nodding, I see women struggling with the same sterotypes.
But the men have it so much worse,and the condtioning and lack of support is MUCH stronger in society overall. This place is just as bad-watch a male get torn to shreds at expressing any sign of "weakness". Happens ALL the time.
"Suck it up buddy, you act like a girl." "Be a man, yadda yadda, phhhttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!"
I wonder at our own conditioning-shouldn't we know better?
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