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this site sucks - 12/23/2013 11:25:01 PM   
cowboy01


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Joined: 9/18/2013
Status: offline 		hello it really sucks here sorry you write to some one and no answer you see slaves?? who say do not write me then why are you here? i have seen site but this one really beats the cake you have no chance in hell here
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RE: this site sucks - 12/23/2013 11:30:40 PM   
DaddySatyr


Posts: 9381
Joined: 8/29/2011
From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky
Status: offline 		You're abso-fuckin'-lutely right. if I were you, I'd demand my money back and then, flounce off in a huff.




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RE: this site sucks - 12/23/2013 11:31:17 PM   
myotherself


Posts: 7157
Joined: 3/9/2006
From: The cold bit of the UK
Status: offline 		I'm here for the forums.

And you have diminished your own chances of finding someone because your profile says exactly nothing about you. You've ticked a few interest/fetish boxes and ... well, that's not nearly enough.

There are a lot of awesome people on here. I have met several people who have been r/l friends for many years. I enjoy online banter with people who are smart, funny and great fun to chat with. I met Master, who I've been with for more than 3 years and plan on being with for many years to come.

This site only sucks if you don't make the effort to make the most of it. You reap what you sow.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/23/2013 11:32:30 PM   
Rawni


Posts: 1175
Status: offline 		This may be your own experience, but many have connected here.

This isn't only a hook up site. There is far more to it. You might fair better with an attitude adjustment, be open and try getting involved rather than expecting miracles to just happen. A bit of work on your communication skills might assist you as well.

When a woman looks for a partner... they want someone that they can fit with and do well with. Show them you are worth their attention. It can't always be the other guy or gals fault, nor the sites.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/23/2013 11:52:48 PM   
stef


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cowboy01

hello it really sucks here sorry you write to some one and no answer you see slaves?? who say do not write me then why are you here? i have seen site but this one really beats the cake you have no chance in hell here

Hey there Pardner, can you try that again in 'Merikan?

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 12:44:56 AM   
lizi


Posts: 4673
Joined: 2/1/2009
Status: offline 		If you're not getting any answers, then if it were me I'd wonder what I was doing to make that happen.

Are women not interested in what you are offering - what are you offering?
Are you approaching them in a way that doesn't get their interest?
Are you approaching women that would be interested in someone of your age/location/interests?

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 1:32:08 AM   
jlf1961


Posts: 14840
Joined: 6/10/2008
From: Somewhere Texas
Status: offline 		Give me a break.

First, it is the internet, not a bar. They do not have to answer you. Of course this also means they cant knock the bejesus out of you with a pool cue either.

Second, CM does give the user a way to filter their email. Your stuff may have gone to bulk.

Third, grow a set, act like you have some reasonable amount of social acceptability, and quite whining.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 1:38:53 AM   
Kirata


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Joined: 2/11/2006
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Ah, another 'we should be nice to newbies' thread.

K.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 1:48:47 AM   
needlesandpins


Posts: 3901
Status: offline 		the thing is this; slavery don't actually exist until someone gives themselves to you after you've both decided what you want. this is not a slavebay with auctions and 'buy it now' buttons because slaves don't actually exist anymore. they are real people with wants, and conditions of their own. if their profile tells you not to contact them then show some respect and move on to the next profile. it's really no big deal.

I know it doesn't make sense in your world that slaves get to choose whether you are the right master for them, have a right to their own preferences, get to say no, but you were born a 150 years too late.

in reality this site doesn't suck. most of the women on it do, but only if you speak to them nicely, and they like you of course

needles

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 2:05:25 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		This is pretty much a duplicate thread. My comments on the subject are here. http://www.collarchat.com/m_4604071/tm.htm


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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 2:18:11 AM   
petitespot


Posts: 288
Joined: 7/3/2006
From: Surfside Beach, SC
Status: offline 		My kiddo could write a more coherent sentence than that when she was in first grade.
If that's how you email someone, I wouldn't respond to you either.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 2:46:55 AM   
DomKen


Posts: 19457
Joined: 7/4/2004
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		One of my female friends used to forward me some of the mail she got here and the OP reminded me of a lot of it.

Why would anyone expect a response from a misspelled and grammatically incorrect mail? Shouldn't a person try to make a good first impression when trying to make a connection?

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 3:14:30 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


Posts: 1054
Joined: 9/24/2011
Status: offline 		Maybe Santa will bring OP just what he's looking for this year. Looks like the sense of entitlement was last year's gift.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 4:10:14 AM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cowboy01

hello it really sucks here sorry you write to some one and no answer you see slaves?? who say do not write me then why are you here? i have seen site but this one really beats the cake you have no chance in hell here



Well, personally (for me) it starts with grammar, syntax and proper punctuation.

(The capacity to understand what the other person actually just said is a smidge paramount).

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 4:25:06 AM   
MsLadySue


Posts: 2254
Joined: 12/18/2004
Status: offline 		OP you have already been given some good advice.

* Complete your profile with details about you as a person.
* Provide info about who/what you seek.
* What do you, as a dominant, have to offer?
* Use a picture without all the clutter in the background.
* Proper spelling, grammar and punctuation are important as your mail is your one opportunity to make a good first impression.
* No response IS a response. Women's inboxes are deluged with mail so they respond to the ones of interest.


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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 4:47:06 AM   
angelikaJ


Posts: 8641
Joined: 6/22/2007
Status: offline 		I was here for 18 months before [my] Master found me.

He was so new (2 days) He really didn't have a His profile text written yet.
You have been here since September; what is your excuse?

So without profile text, He managed to capture my interest.
How did He do that?

He wrote me a nicely worded cmail (that wasn't overly long) that asked interesting and thoughtful questions about my profile.
It was way, Way, WAY above the norm.

I answered back because His message engaged my attention.
In His reply he asked other interesting questions and He showed He had a sense of humor.
We have been together for almost 5 years.

You need to put some effort in if you are planning on roping yourself a slave.

Your post here is so hard to read that had I gotten a message from you then, I probably wouldn't have answered it either, and I answered just about everyone (just not with the enthusiasm I had for thoughtful messages.

You want success or do you want to complain?

Grammar does count.
Punctuation is your friend.


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hello it really sucks here sorry you write to some one and no answer you see slaves?? who say do not write me then why are you here? i have seen site but this one really beats the cake you have no chance in hell here


It would be easier to read this way:
"Hello,
It really sucks here. Sorry, but you write to someone and you don't get answers.
You see slaves say "do not write to me" then why are you here?
I have seen sites but this one really beats the cake. You have no chance in hell here."

It would be much better written this way:
"Hello.
I am having a hard time getting any replies to my messages.
Can you give me some advice so I have better success?"

You don't have success with your messages because you aren't putting any effort into making yourself look like a master who is a good catch. What do you have to offer?

In this message you are coming across as lazy, impatient and petulant and as someone who has a sense of entitlement.
You are a master so therefor slaves should answer is the gist of what you have written.
It just doesn't work that way the majority of the time.
We are slaves but we are not your slave and we don't owe you anything.

We are women first.
How do you approach a woman?

Also, your photo makes you look unkempt.
Shave.

Who are you writing to?
Older women (50-60+) or younger?
Are you reading their profiles first to see what they are looking for; what age they are seeking and if your interests are compatible?

The site doesn't suck, but your attitude kinda does.

Edit: clarity




< Message edited by angelikaJ -- 12/24/2013 5:39:55 AM >

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 4:59:36 AM   
Blonderfluff


Posts: 2253
Joined: 10/9/2013
From: Down the Shore
Status: offline 		I've been here for a few months now. I've met 2 men for coffee. One i dated for a short while.

This site is difficult at times. If you are serious, it can be worthwhile. However, it takes patience and a sense of humor.
I joined to find a larger pool of Doms that are looking. I'm staying because there are some great people on THIS side who's opinions and sense of humor I have grown to really enjoy.

I'm still looking. But I'm not in a rush.
As Angelika pointed out. It may take some time, and a bit more of a serious effort on your part.

Expand your profile. And your vocabulary.

Best

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 5:41:20 AM   
CynthiaWVirginia


Posts: 1915
Joined: 2/28/2010
From: West Virginia, USA
Status: offline 		I hate to say this, but...your typing is difficult to understand.

If you're going to leave this site without giving it a fair chance then nothing I will say can be helpful.

If you change your mind, know this...every last person I've ever topped or owned has been from CollarMe. I stopped counting over eight years ago, after the first four dozen. I found my lifemate/slave here at CM.

Your profile is working against you. Most of the fem subs I've known will ignore letters from men who have "blank" profiles. You check marked your lists but the essay area is completely blank.

Also, a common mistake guys make is...not reading a woman's profile before writing to her. My mentor used to have a huge profile and buried deep within it was a sentence that said letters will be deleted unanswered if the man didn't mention "purple crayon" within the first few sentences. It was her way of making sure she wasn't sending letters to spammers.

If you read profiles it might save you from having some of your time wasted. Some people won't relocate, some people want a partner to be close to their own age, etc. (My profile says I'm not looking, am straight, monogamous, etc., and still I get inappropriate offers. I use my block and delete buttons.)

Reasons why a slave might be here but not looking for a partner:

1) They're collared already, or interested in someone else who is still courting them.

2) If their profile spells out very clearly what they are looking for and you're not it because of age, sex, location, etc., and yet you wrote them anyway, your letter might be deleted.

3) People come here to learn, to cyber, for friends, to arrange meetups, to help educate newbies, to wind down after a hard day's work...in a place where no vanilla will have a stroke if someone types in a chat "BRB, I have to phone my Master to ask permission to stay up for another hour." This place is my kink version of hanging out in that bar on tv called Cheers.

4) Submissives/slaves/bottoms at this site do not have to be roleplaying, "acting like a slave/servant" to every dominant that says hello. Slow down, talk to them like they are a person you might like to get to know better, and see if they will meet up with you in some public place for coffee.

5) My slave still keeps his account active here. He doesn't serve anyone but me...unless I choose to loan him out for something specific. Other slaves might be here to socialize and not to be of service to anyone, not even for fantasy type wank fodder or for some Second Life type roleplay. (In other words, do not expect slaves you do not own to treat you as a Master.)

Good luck with your search.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 5:43:29 AM   
Ladytisha


Posts: 112
Joined: 6/3/2013
Status: offline 		I checked out your profile and I see why you're not receiving any responses. If a slave is searching through profile of Masters who are also looking for slaves your profile doesn't set you apart from the rest. Take some time and put down what type of relationship you seek, age range (if any). Just because you have a profile doesn't mean slaves will flock to you.

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RE: this site sucks - 12/24/2013 6:20:59 AM   
TieMeInKnottss


Posts: 1944
Joined: 9/6/2012
Status: offline 		I guess I will reiterate what others have said. The first thing I do when I receive an email is read someone's profile. To me, it is how you conduct a conversation with someone...the profile gives a little info for someone to ask questions or, to know right away if you are compatiable. I don't take seriously those who are looking for "Dom women" "sub women" "switch women" between the ages of 18-99" because that tells me they are looking for ANYONE not me nor do I respond to those with blank profiles because I assume they are, again, casting a wide net for ANY woman to respond..not just for someone like me. Women...whether vanilla, dominant, submissive, foreign, local...want to feel SPECIAL and desired for themselves... Make a woman think you are interested in what she thinks and feels and you will see the light switch on from "another guy looking to get laid" to "I want to be with this man!" Many seem to believe that those of us who are submissive or slavish don't want or expect the same thing...we DO!! The difference is how we RESPOND...we become devoted, helpful, loyal, respectful to the nth degree!!!

Also, because of your age you must be realistic. Over 50 is hard enough but you are a Senior Citizen and hopefully are looking for women in the same stage of life... I am over 40 so I understand. I may want the hot buff 25 yr old hard body Dom guy but...I have 2 kids, a mortgage, a career. How long would it really last?

Good luck in your search!

EDIT-been here a little over a year and have been involved with 2 doms I met here plus have met several more for first dates just no chemistry but some became good friends!

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