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youthinkso121 -> RE: What are your thoughts (12/28/2013 8:23:45 PM)
I'm not reading anything that says this is her idea... I haven't read his profile, but this seems to be all his idea.

RedMagic1 -> RE: What are your thoughts (12/28/2013 8:45:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youthinkso121 I'm glad in your world, every single mum made bad choices. It couldn't be an accident, or the father died. It must make her a slut who had a one night stand. Or she might have been raped!!! That's a bit strident. The OP would probably have included something like death or rape in the conversation, because trauma would be an important factor in assessing the situation. It's almost certain that either the child was unplanned, or the mother thought the guy would be around for a while, at least economically, and he isn't.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: What are your thoughts (12/29/2013 2:03:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youthinkso121 I'm glad in your world, every single mum made bad choices. It couldn't be an accident, or the father died. It must make her a slut who had a one night stand. Or she might have been raped!!! Perhaps she has become a single mother through some unfortunate and unpredictable turn of fate. If her partner has recently died, leaving her a widow with a baby, or if she became pregnant through rape, all the more reason the OP should slow the fuck down and consider how these huge traumatic events might impact their relationship. And I have to agree that regardless of the decisions that went into conceiving the child, the fact that she is considering moving herself and her six month old in with this guy right away - despite the fact that she is looking for a dominant and he is a submissive - means she may not be making good choices right now. OP - It might be a match made in heaven, but for goodness sake, take your time. Date her for a long time. Try being her dom without moving in and see if you are both satisfied, before making big commitments. Show your worth as a potential dominant by being cautious and sensible with her life and that of her child.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: What are your thoughts (12/29/2013 2:01:36 PM)
Have read all of the responses, carefully. And to be honest, I posted this question because I honestly felt the need for insight, and trust many of you will share excellent insight. This is one of those matters that I can be confused by. Am just too close to it and emotionally involved. That said, From Dark Steven though AthenaSurrenders, there is a common theme, that IS spot on! I have been moving too fast. Way too fast ... You are right, I never even thought to ask about the child's father, or why she became pregnant to begin with ... You are right, I was being moved by physical attractiveness, enhanced with intelligence, and flattered by her youth ... You are right, I do need to date her and get to know her. She could be coming from any direction. And I could be subconsciously moved by the memory of a Lady from my past (actually, a beautiful Lady with a beautiful 2 year old. and the husband/father was killed in a tragic car accident.) The point is my judgement is bad and clouded. So I really appreciate all of the insight! For this I really appreciate each and every response. Will read through them again soon. Yet for now, I thank you all. You have proven these forums do have value! :-) And this is the greatest asset of all! Wishing You all, a Happy and Prosperous New Year, Patrick

DarkSteven -> RE: What are your thoughts (12/29/2013 6:44:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo Have read all of the responses, carefully. And to be honest, I posted this question because I honestly felt the need for insight, and trust many of you will share excellent insight. This is one of those matters that I can be confused by. Am just too close to it and emotionally involved. That said, From Dark Steven though AthenaSurrenders, there is a common theme, that IS spot on! I have been moving too fast. Way too fast ... You are right, I never even thought to ask about the child's father, or why she became pregnant to begin with ... You are right, I was being moved by physical attractiveness, enhanced with intelligence, and flattered by her youth ... You are right, I do need to date her and get to know her. She could be coming from any direction. And I could be subconsciously moved by the memory of a Lady from my past (actually, a beautiful Lady with a beautiful 2 year old. and the husband/father was killed in a tragic car accident.) The point is my judgement is bad and clouded. So I really appreciate all of the insight! For this I really appreciate each and every response. Will read through them again soon. Yet for now, I thank you all. You have proven these forums do have value! :-) And this is the greatest asset of all! Wishing You all, a Happy and Prosperous New Year, Patrick If things don't work out, send her here. [8D]

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