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Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 1:02:45 PM

JohnyWalker

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New trying to meet people, are most Dommes on here against forced fem and sissies, and if they aren't would they rather them already be a sissy or still new to the whole idea?

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 1:09:39 PM

AthenaSurrenders

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Hi, Johny! Welcome to the discussion forum.

Forced fem is a controversial topic here. Common objections are that it isn't really 'forced' if the submissive wants to do it (and potentially morally wrong if the submissive doesn't), and that many women feel that it's insulting to women because it implies that being feminine is a bad thing. If you use the search function I'm sure you can find some lively threads about it! That said, I wouldn't say all dommes are against it, it's all about finding someone compatible.

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 1:13:41 PM

Blonderfluff

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Athena is absolutely right. You are not likely to get many responses about it on yet another thread.

But. JohnnyWalker is quite a brilliant moniker!! Welcome

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 2:29:50 PM

DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: JohnyWalker
are most Dommes on here against forced fem and sissies,

Most Dommes on here like or dislike people, not fetishes. If they like a guy and he's got specific fetishes, they'll explore with him.

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and if they aren't would they rather them already be a sissy or still new to the whole idea?

Nope. Reread what I said above. If some guy is looking for a Domme to meet his fantasy and could care less about what she's like as a person, it ain't gonna fly. Not only are you envisioning a Domme who is more into your kink than you as a person, you're thinking she cares about experience in that kink.

She doesn't. She wants a man. (All right, the straight Dommes do.) Try to be that man.

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 7:38:11 PM

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Hello and welcome, its nice to have you join us here.

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 9:13:17 PM

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Cute dog!
Welcome to CM

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 9:35:44 PM

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Welcome to the forums, Johny. You should remember that Dommes do not want to be thought of as merely some guy's free fetish delivery system. Remember that a Domme is a woman first and foremost. Treat her and think of her as a woman and not a delivery system.

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 9:41:15 PM

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Welcome to the boards, Johny. To answer your question, if a would-be sissy had a relationship with me as a person and we cared about each other, I would probably indulge his desire occasionally even though it's not a 'hawt button' for me in the least.

Sissification is a bread-and-butter item for professional dommes. Those wanting a quick sissy fix without investing in a relationship can expect to pay for the experience.

Best of luck to you! Hope to see you around the boards, and enjoy the journey :-)

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/28/2013 9:41:45 PM

Toysinbabeland

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Welcome to the forums.

A good Domme will serve her own needs by learning how you tick and exploring how it will please her without harming you in the long run.
Good luck.

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/29/2013 4:44:07 AM

VideoAdminChi

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quote:

are most Dommes on here against forced fem and sissies, and if they aren't would they rather them already be a sissy or still new to the whole idea?

Here's a recent discussion we had on that issue:
Forced fem - Dommes what do you like about it??

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RE: Hi everybody submissive here - 12/29/2013 6:04:48 AM

FieryOpal

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnyWalker

New trying to meet people, are most Dommes on here against forced fem and sissies, and if they aren't would they rather them already be a sissy or still new to the whole idea?

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

To answer your question, if a would-be sissy had a relationship with me as a person and we cared about each other, I would probably indulge his desire occasionally even though it's not a 'hawt button' for me in the least.

Sissification is a bread-and-butter item for professional dommes. Those wanting a quick sissy fix without investing in a relationship can expect to pay for the experience.

It's not a turn-on for me either, but I know a Domme who does and a female Switch who did have sissysubs. The Switch wanted an effeminate sub because she thought he'd be easier to control. She was wrong. (He wasn't more obedient and as a cross-dresser, he kept wanting to "borrow" her stuff, which ended up getting on her nerves.) The Domme started from scratch and feminized her sub on occasion, sent him out to the store on errands dressed as a girl.

If I were into this, I think I would want to start from ground zero as well and sissify a male sub the way I wanted, not have him be pre-sissified.

I once almost took on a sub who liked to be humiliation-sissified in ladies undergarments while getting an OTK spanking. Unfortunately, years of using a vibrator on himself gave him a gaping you-know-what and it was singularly unattractive. I would have rather he had pretty much left that alone for me to work with. Just thought I'd mention that as well.

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