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Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/29/2013 11:46:49 AM

Eroticchocolate

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Hey there,

I'm pretty excited about the whole BDSM scene and keen to discover new ways of kink as well as meet similar minded people!

Just a question for those of you who've been in the game a while: what kind of extremes are subs expected to to go? I think i'm game for most things!

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/29/2013 8:57:29 PM

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Hello and Welcome EC, its nice to have you here with us.

I tend to be to honest at times or so people tell me....so being honest I have put off saying hi to you because I was not sure how to answer your

question. I am still not really sure I can answer for you but I did want to make sure that you at least felt welcomed here. Okay here is my

thought and it is that only my thought others will have theirs.....for me the extreme I am willing to go has been that of what the Dom I am with

and I have agreed it will be or in my case was. With them both it was different as they where different from each other. Sorry not sure if that

helped or not.....but it is what it is

Hope you enjoy your time well here and Happy New Years to You and Your.

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/29/2013 10:00:45 PM

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Welcome...some of the more sadistic Dommes will have you mowing their lawn, fixing broken toilets (& THEN cleaning it) and cooking dinner...

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/30/2013 1:32:26 AM

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Welcome to the forums. The most extreme thing I had to do was learn to give IV antibiotics through a PICC line. I'm not a nurse or a health care worker, but I learned to do that because it was needed.

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/30/2013 6:19:06 AM

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I gotta say, you sure picked a name that will have women noticing!

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/30/2013 9:11:31 AM

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Thanks for the replies! Yeah well mowing the lawn would be a fairly good workout! But mending and cleaning a toilet would definitely push me to my limits!

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 12/31/2013 9:16:48 AM

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Those are all serious answers to your question. I'm guessing you were a little suprised and might have meant sexual limits in your OP (original posting.)

Well, this is where negotiation comes into play. As a sub you ALWAYS have the right to say, "No." But maybe saying, "Not at this time, since I'd like to learn more about that," would be better than just flat outright refusal. As a slave, you probably should have a written contract and the negotiation of that contract was the time to express your limits.

In either case, you can ALWAYS walk away if your limits are not respected. (And SHOULD walk, BTW.)

All BDSM and I mean ALL is based on trust and honesty. Trust is built slowly. Maybe the first sexual session is hot and heavy, but it will only go to that level if the trust has been put in place with a previous non-sexual discussion. Get it? The trust is the important thing. Hence, "stop words," so that if it's going too far (based on the trust, and NOT the negotiation) you can stop the scene without breaking the trust. Of course, stopping is always followed by discussion (and that only after after-care.)

It is ALWAYS better to have a scene that ends with both wanting more than it is to end a scene badly since you went too far.

Just my 47 cents worth.

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 1/1/2014 1:11:40 AM

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Thanks Lance,

Indeed I was referring to sexual limits in my OP. Cheers for picking that up!

I was always of the assumption that the agreement was tacit, which you kind of implied in your post.

I'll be honest, given some of my fetishes..'STOP' shouldn't be a regular word in my vocabulary :) but then again, I'm still a newby!

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 1/1/2014 7:51:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Welcome...some of the more sadistic Dommes will have you mowing their lawn, fixing broken toilets (& THEN cleaning it) and cooking dinner...

It's like you're inside my head.

Welcome, OP. You and your prospective Domme will have to sort out what both of you want.

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RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM - 1/1/2014 8:57:43 AM

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LOL, count Me as one of those, but I'm far more Sadistic than that. I make Mine snowblow the yard and split firewood.

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Welcome...some of the more sadistic Dommes will have you mowing their lawn, fixing broken toilets (& THEN cleaning it) and cooking dinner...

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