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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 6:32:05 AM

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Haha thank you all for your replies.

I'm just interested in how everyone lives their lives and how they fit it all into their everyday lives

I clearly am dominant in my relationship. I cant stand someone telling me what to do.

However in th bedroom I don't mind being quite submissive.

Is that normal? Wanting a hit of both worlds?

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 6:39:09 AM

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Yes, totally normal. Whatever is making you both happy is the right way to do it.

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 6:39:53 AM

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How loose?

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 6:42:58 AM

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How loose what?

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 7:14:53 AM

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Sunshine Miss was pointing out that you should have said that you are looking for a "loser" and not a "looser" (which means to become more loose)

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 7:58:13 AM

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Sunshine Miss was pointing out that you should have said that you are looking for a "loser" and not a "looser" (which means to become more loose)

I make that mistake ALL the time. I have a total mental block between lose/loose and chose/choose. I never mix them up when I'm reading but I have to check every time when I'm writing. And I have a fricken English degree.

That said, OP, I just read your profile - do you think you're in a position to be advertising as a financial domme when by your own admission you're very new and learned about it from fifty shades? If I were browsing for a findomme, I think your OP in this thread might put me off since your profile makes no hint that you're still finding your feet. Just something to consider.

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 8:06:21 AM

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I didn't mean I had learnt from fifty shades lol altho I did read fifty shades before it became the hype.

I'm fairly new to all this as I've only been doing it for almost two years. So compared to others im new. But do have experience .

I know there are people with more experience but everyone starts somewhere :)

And I ment lose!! I'm such a looser ;) haha looooser

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 10:15:14 AM

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To paraphrase RAH;

Sometimes you want to restrain em and rip the clothing off with your teeth.
Sometimes you like to be tripped and beat to the floor... a spanking for pouncing is not out of the question. <grin>

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RE: How often? curious - 12/30/2013 9:23:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: CandiDanielz

So after making this profile I've come across some rather interesting things that never really crossed my mind.

My boyfriend likes to be dominated every so often and I only really found out about the best world thru fifty shades of grey ((im sorry don't hurt me!!))

My question is how often do you act this out? Is it how you live your life of very minute of the day or do you have set times where you be the normal equal couple?

Sorry if I'm not making any sense

You can pretty much find any permutation, from 24-7 folks to those who just throw some light, kinky escapades into their love life now and then. In my experience, the people who most frequent this board tend to be on the heavier end of the spectrum when it comes to BDSM. But there is no right or wrong - just whats best for you.

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RE: How often? curious - 12/31/2013 1:28:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: humblegrateful

You can pretty much find any permutation, from 24-7 folks to those who just throw some light, kinky escapades into their love life now and then. In my experience, the people who most frequent this board tend to be on the heavier end of the spectrum when it comes to BDSM. But there is no right or wrong - just whats best for you.

Although I haven't been on this board very long, I have tentatively found this to be so also. But factoring in that those with more BDSM experience would be the ones who are more likely to come forward to express an opinion or be in a position to give advice on a given matter than those who are less heavy into it, would make sense.

So CandiDanielz, you said you've been a Domme for less than 2 years and you "can't stand someone telling [you] what to do." Welcome to the club, because neither can I. One way or another, I find myself dominating all my relationships in terms of the authority dynamic. Nonetheless, there are women who are otherwise dominant-appearing or not submissive on the job or around other people who are sub/slave to their SO. If you are finding yourself wanting to be submissive in the bedroom, but still in charge of the scene, then you are wanting to bottom. This doesn't necessarily make you less dominant in your relationship overall. Now, if you find yourself wanting your boyfriend to take charge of the whole enchilada (other than when he wants to be dominated), then you are more of a submissive.

Having switch tendencies is normal, and is often contingent upon the person you're with, how intimate and trusting your relationship is with that person. The exploration stage doesn't ever have to end, and labels are just that--labels, not to get hung up on, and it's a private matter between you and your chosen partner. Do whatever works for the both of you, whenever, wherever, and however it works. If being in girlfriend-boyfriend mode around others suits you and doesn't feel fake or forced, then allow yourselves that latitude.

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RE: How often? curious - 12/31/2013 5:43:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CandiDanielz

So after making this profile I've come across some rather interesting things that never really crossed my mind.

My boyfriend likes to be dominated every so often and I only really found out about the best world thru fifty shades of grey ((im sorry don't hurt me!!))

My question is how often do you act this out? Is it how you live your life of very minute of the day or do you have set times where you be the normal equal couple?

Sorry if I'm not making any sense

:)

Keep asking great questions :)

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RE: How often? curious - 1/1/2014 5:35:18 PM

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He's the boss of me 24/7. He listens to my input but ultimately I do what he says. Always.

Sex is when he wants it, how he wants it. Same with kink.

This is so perfectly us.

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RE: How often? curious - 1/1/2014 8:01:30 PM

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Our situation is somewhat different. Hubby and I are a dominant couple. We have owned separately and together. We all live pretty much vanilla, with the understanding of what we say goes. We do consider the opinions and wishes of our girls, but ultimately we have final say. And that's 24/7.

As far as bedroom activities, well....they're slaves. So, yea....

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