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RE: Power Exchange (How is it done?) - 1/6/2014 7:21:34 PM

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The only constant in all your relationships is you. Fix yourself.
Before you can enter into a power exchange relationship you have to have power to give over. Since you insist you have none to give, then how can he take it?

Got to like this. Unfortunately the OP shows me with her words that she really is not ready to take steps towards recovery and healing. Even her last statement in this thread was giving her wiggle room from taking action and there is countless issues with a lot of what she is stating. 'I will look for them' instead of I will get them leaves her a door open not to read them, get them or even try to heal herself.

Frankly, i was rather close to the number suggestioning much earlier in the thread that the OP might need therapy. I think I should of been less politically correct and say the OP needs therapy and is no where near ready or maybe even capable of having a functional power dynamic relationship.

I suspect we are not going to hear much from the OP now that everyone seems to be going in a direction she really doesn't want to go.

OP... I really strongly suggest that you step away from the computer and get professional help.

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RE: Power Exchange (How is it done?) - 1/7/2014 1:50:36 PM

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Dr. KnightofMists,

Your capacity for clinical diagnosis is astounding.

Master and I are greatly encouraged in our efforts to gain wisdom and direction from the BDSM community at large. While some of it was clearly given from honest experience and determination to aid those struggling in their journey. There are those who have distilled our request down to a spitting contest.

Those, including the advice from the expert doctor above affirms our decision to continue to come here for suggestions.

Your admonitions based on your vast volumes of knowledge both of Master and I are entirely embraced and will be employed to the fullest of our capacity.

Thank you.
OP, LCPC, CADC, CSAT

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RE: Power Exchange (How is it done?) - 1/7/2014 3:46:20 PM

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Just so you know, some of the responses you received are from mental health providers, and even more important people who have been through very similar things as you, and for both your posts are setting off tons of red flags, and we can only reply based on what you write.

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RE: Power Exchange (How is it done?) - 1/7/2014 4:48:35 PM

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Just so you know, some of the responses you received are from mental health providers, and even more important people who have been through very similar things as you, and for both your posts are setting off tons of red flags, and we can only reply based on what you write.

Sadly her sarcastic passive aggressive behaviour only reinforces the concerns.

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RE: Power Exchange (How is it done?) - 1/7/2014 5:04:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: sheisreeds

Just so you know, some of the responses you received are from mental health providers, and even more important people who have been through very similar things as you, and for both your posts are setting off tons of red flags, and we can only reply based on what you write.

Sadly her sarcastic passive aggressive behaviour only reinforces the concerns.

YUP, and I ain't on the clock right now, and I'm thankfully not on call this week.

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