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Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 12:24:16 PM   
sweetpleaser


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Status: offline 		I read somewhere once that people tend to quit having intercourse after 40. I may be asking the wrong group here (since we all seem to be pervs), but do you know of couples who stop that part of their sex life and why? I know several older couples who stopped. Is it because it doesn't work for him, doesn't work for her, or just no desire?
I am over 40 and of course I am still active but I guess I am worried about the future.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 12:52:29 PM   
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I read somewhere once that people tend to quit having intercourse after 40. I may be asking the wrong group here (since we all seem to be pervs), but do you know of couples who stop that part of their sex life and why? I know several older couples who stopped. Is it because it doesn't work for him, doesn't work for her, or just no desire?
I am over 40 and of course I am still active but I guess I am worried about the future.

*lol* my first sub was over 70 and VERY virile, quitting sex isn't something that has to happen, it is an individual choice. So, don't worry about the future, enjoy the here & now.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 12:57:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe whatever you read actually said that couples tend to stop having sex with each other; doesn't mean they aren't having sex with someone else.

Also -- did you read that before Viagra was invented?


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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 1:01:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow over 40!!! beth and I never get close to that number in a day. We're envious!

But seriously now, I think many lose the ability of using the human bodies most erotic organ - the brain. I think it's a function of forgetting to have fun, or not taking time to have fun, or all of a sudden forgetting that having fun keeps you young.

When pressed, many may still be having sex, although not with each other. Some have it alone. How many have been pushed away by a un-responsive partner, or worse, being told something they wanted to try was "perverted"? The internet has generated a whole new genre of sex. A world where fantasies can be fulfilled, in the comfort of your home, as you sit there romantically involved with yourself. The only human touch being your own. There are countless many out there who tonight will be 'one handed web surfing' under the romantic glow of their computer screen.

Some, many if you go by some of the posts here, seek it outside their partnership. I believe there are a lot of people whose sexuality develops later in life. They weren't aware of what really 'turned them on' until after they were partnered with someone incompatible with their needs. Then, for financial reasons, children, or just plain laziness, they resolve to just giving up. Thinking themselves 'too old' to change - too old to even be concerned about 'that sort of thing'.

Of course sometimes physical reasons come into play, but now there are enough pills, potions, lotions and whatever to eliminate that excuse. I'm not worried. Being a full blooded Sicilian Italian I figure to be 'perverted' well into my 90's And by the time I'm ready for Viagra, at 100 or so, they'll be selling it over the counter.


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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 1:11:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		actually, yes I did Happy (big lightbulb went off in my head). Hmmmmmmmmmmmm

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 1:18:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		IMO I think people deciding not to have sex at any age is often a state of mind - some people appear to not be very sexual beings anyway and prefer to find their satisfaction in other areas and some people i guess just cant be bothered :-)

For me however hitting 40 was a defining moment and I think it made me realise I was more sexual than before I hit 40 plus I decided at 40 if people didnt like me as I was they could take a running jump so now Im more comfortable in my own skin (even if there is more of it than i need lol)

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 1:21:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am far more sexual now than I was before. I was panicking because now that I am at my "peak" I was worried my partner could lose his, yanno.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 1:28:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps it is because by the time you hit 40 you usually have a well established life, kids and what not. You just don't have time to fill out silly polls anymore?

Women go through menopause. Loss of hormones. That could be part of the reason. Lack of sex drive, vaginal dryness. Men on the other hand. I know 80 year olds who are just as spry as they were in their 30's. No viagara needed.

Someone said sex is in the mind. It is. If you want to have sex, just go out and find a willing partner.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 2:14:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have not read that. I agree that many become a bit complacent...kids, busy lives, no time for sex and less and less a desire for it? But show Me the couple who one or the other decide to forgo sex, and 9 times out of 10, I can show you the divorce decree.
40 is a bit young for most to go through menopause...but it does happen. However, even going through the change just means a few of the inconveniences, like vaginal dryness, can be taken care of another way. And the inconveneince of tampons going away every month is definitely a plus to My mind.
I have heard of couples well into their 70's and 80's who still enjoy a lovely and regular sexual relationship. Guess none of us ever really thought about our parents "doing it".

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 2:35:45 PM   
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Guess none of us ever really thought about our parents "doing it".


When I was a teenager once. I was about to knock on mom and dads door. Before I had the chance I heard. Take it deeper, deeper into your mouth. I held back my vomit right there and then. Never spoke of that moment to them. Immediately forgot what I wanted to ask as well. Never did get around to knocking on that door.

Mom was 32 when she had me...Dad was 33. They were well into their 50's at that point.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 3:17:15 PM   
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Guess none of us ever really thought about our parents "doing it".


When I was a teenager once. I was about to knock on mom and dads door. Before I had the chance I heard. Take it deeper, deeper into your mouth. I held back my vomit right there and then. Never spoke of that moment to them. Immediately forgot what I wanted to ask as well. Never did get around to knocking on that door.

Mom was 32 when she had me...Dad was 33. They were well into their 50's at that point.



There ya go! *laffing* although I am sure it was difficult for you to hear or imagine. Perhaps I should have said that most of us didn't *want* to think about our parents doing it. Just not a normal train of thought for most. But I was also raised with some strict privacy rules (on their side...the same courtesy was not extended to the children, of course!) With all that necessary privacy, I guess they musta been doin' somethin'!


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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 3:24:51 PM   
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I was about to knock on mom and dads door. Before I had the chance I heard. Take it deeper, deeper into your mouth.


Gloria,

I'm sorry, but I have to ask, was it your mom or dad speaking?

Merc
(Wanted to make sure you knew beth wasn't involved with that answer. Expecting to have to block a shin kick when I see you next.)

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 3:37:06 PM   
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I was about to knock on mom and dads door. Before I had the chance I heard. Take it deeper, deeper into your mouth.


Gloria,

I'm sorry, but I have to ask, was it your mom or dad speaking?

Merc (Expecting to have to block a shin kick when I see you next.)




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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 8:38:36 PM   
sub4hire


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I'm sorry, but I have to ask, was it your mom or dad speaking?


STOP MAKING ME RELIVE IT. STOP IT STOP IT.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 11/19/2004 11:54:53 PM   
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I read somewhere once that people tend to quit having intercourse after 40


I am 58 and Hubby is 62. We quit having intercourse about 4-5 years ago but our sex life is better than ever. We quit because He has a bad hip and knee and i have a bad knee and it was just too hard to find a comfortable position. We still enjoy oral and love toys and are always trying and learning new things.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 12/17/2004 4:17:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am 49 and my g/f is 60 and she wants it way more than I do. It just don't tally out lol lol

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RE: Sex over 40 - 12/17/2004 10:14:38 AM   
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I read somewhere once that people tend to quit having intercourse after 40


OMG! I hope not! I'm not willing to give up that part of my life just yet.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 12/17/2004 2:27:26 PM   
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Take it deeper, deeper into your mouth.

s4h ..... but who was doing the talking, and who was doing the taking? ((Sorry ... blame it on my bad sense of humor))

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RE: Sex over 40 - 12/17/2004 2:27:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I taught "Sociology of Family" for 26 years. I used to have my students do this exercise. Close your eyes...stay very quiet. Now imagine your parents having sex.
Very little time would pass before the first snicker would appear and then the entire class would be howling with laughter.
I am 60. My wife is 40...2 yrs youger than my daughter. My sub turns 20 in January; 3 yrs younger than my granddaughter. My oldest slut is 57... All are EXTREMELY sexy and active. So age has little to do with it. I think the post that posited that some people are just not very sexual pretty much summed it up.

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RE: Sex over 40 - 12/17/2004 6:40:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh my! I cannot imagine losing interest. I have enjoyed an insane sexual appetite from a young age and it's done nothing but grow more intense. I've just turned 40 within the last month and have to say there is no end in sight to the light of my fire. Yay!

But this topic does raise a funny memory from a year ago when I went out with a pretty funny guy. On our first date I asked him, provacatively, "So.. tell me what you'll do with this tiger you have by the tail?" *grin* His response, "Oh I don't think I have much to worry about, you'll turn 40 next year and I won't have to worry about the wild cat for long." Needless to say, it was doomed from the first date. *lol*

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