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Pictures - 1/4/2014 4:43:59 PM   
Cochrane


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Status: offline 		I have, for reasons related to work, had to remove the face pictures from my profile for a while. I dislike this, as I can see why people who be distrustful of anyone who doesn't have a face picture.

My question is, should I use this as an opportunity to post some slightly more personal shots? Is it a total turn-off for a man to have pictures of his body/cock on here? I'm aware it shouldn't be the main picture.
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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 4:49:38 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		cock shots are lame and cheesy and a turnoff to most women.

Personally I have always enjoyed just regular, normal pictures of someone doing everyday things. You don't need to show a face pic. It can be one of you doing something you enjoy...skydiving, hiking, riding, whatever with a fully clothed and normal body but without a closeup of your face.


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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 4:51:44 PM   
Cochrane


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Status: offline 		That's pretty much what I thought. I normally wouldn't (except for a slight exhibitionist desire) but having been forced to remove the normal pictures, it made me wonder.

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 4:53:32 PM   
Blonderfluff


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Status: offline 		On behalf of most of the women on here.

Please don't do the "cock pic"

Really. We don't want to see it.
We LIKE them in real life. But they are only attractive when they are attached to someone we like...

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 4:59:47 PM   
Cochrane


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Status: offline 		Yep, thought so! Thank you.

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 6:20:54 PM   
FieryOpal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cochrane

Is it a total turn-off for a man to have pictures of his body/cock on here? I'm aware it shouldn't be the main picture.

Guys who have cock and ass shots of themselves as their primary photo must think this will turn women on. Myself included, I hear most women (sub & Domme, a couple female switches) say it's actually a turn-off. I don't mind a shirtless photo as long as pubic hair isn't showing (that's too crotchy). Within the photo gallery, a partial butt shot would be all right. Really, the more artistically photos are presented, the better.

At some point if I'm interested enough to have exchanged messages with a male sub, as well as facial pics, I'll want to see a cock shot, knowing full well that it's not verifiable (yet). I've had enough unpleasant surprises in the past to incorporate this step into my screening process, but that's after we've gotten to know one another to some extent first.
I'm not the least bit interested in looking at strange naked men's private parts in photos or any other medium, not unless it's one of my favorite celebrities.

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 6:24:58 PM   
Cochrane


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Status: offline 		Yes, I think there's a difference between genders there, much as I'm loath to make such sweeping generalisations. I think I'm partly just wanting to say "there is a real person at the end of this profile." I'm also aware that there seems an emphasis on women showing naked pictures, and not nearly as much for men.

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 6:53:37 PM   
FieryOpal


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Status: offline 		Au contraire as far as this site goes. About half of what appears when I log in to my profile are nudies.... Can't speak for FL or a sex site like AFF (which I'm not on).

It's part of an exhibitionistic kink to just let it all hang out, knowing they'll be seen by other CM users, or a way to be sexually objectified.

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 6:55:37 PM   
Cochrane


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Status: offline 		I meant in terms of what women want to see and what men want to see. I suspect if I'd been female, this thread would be full of men saying "show it all!"

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 7:36:35 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cochrane

I meant in terms of what women want to see and what men want to see. I suspect if I'd been female, this thread would be full of men saying "show it all!"



I'm fond of saying if a woman sees a dick pic, she thinks 'he's a dick'. If she sees an asshole, she thinks 'he's an asshole'. We're different that way visually, and also we are much less genital-centric than men. We want to appreciate the whole person first. A disembodied penis doesn't count as 'whole person', even though lots of men want us to think so!

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RE: Pictures - 1/4/2014 7:46:03 PM   
FelineFae


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Status: offline 		A pair of sunglasses goes a long way.
Holding a book over your face is good too, as you'll hide your identity, but you can give a hint as to your interests through the book cover.

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 12:13:02 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Take a close up picture of your eyes. Post that-chicks dig eyes

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 7:16:31 AM   
orgasmdenial12


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Status: offline 		I don't mind a cock shot, if it's a nice cock. Makes a change from all the boring black and white bondage tits and twat shots :-)

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 7:22:00 AM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Yeah...we "chicks" dig eyes!!!

There is nothing worse than the cock shot (except Hilly's because it is SOOO big!!). My policy is that I won't respond if you have ANY cock shots or photos of women "servicing" you... Why would I want to be dominated by a man that is DOMINATED by his cock?? Yes..most men think with their "little head" but I want the guy who is smart enough to not LISTEN to everything it says!

Far away, blurred, overexposed photo (the kind where you are too dark to see...not the other kind of overexposed),turned away from the camera..all ways to prevent yourself from being recognized.

BTW... Alt site allows for primary cock shots...when you look at them in a list type thing...they all look alike...What? Am I supposed to go down the list and say..."oh I want to meet the guy attached to that!!"??? Much quicker to throw out all the men with the cock shots and sift through the 5-6 men smart enough to know not to post that.

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 7:22:18 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		Please don't post cock shots or nude pics of yourself, even if you think they're attractive. It sends a message that you're only interested in the physical.

I like the eye pic idea from Kana.

There are many other things you can do to show how you look without revealing yourself. Stroll through some of the forum member's profiles and you might find some.

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 7:27:01 AM   
SweetAnise


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Status: offline 		I do think cock pics are poor taste especially as a primary photo HOWEVER- I like penis photos from time to time. But most of the penis and even ass pics I have seen on CM are horribly disgusting. Trifling. Distasteful without integrity. Just completely a turnoff. When I do see a penis pic (that is not their primary photo) I will compliment the person sometimes but not very often.

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 7:34:23 AM   
petitespot


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Joined: 7/3/2006
From: Surfside Beach, SC
Status: offline 		Don't listen to these foolish people. Post lots of cock shots and make sure the background is really messy too.
Dirty bathrooms. Sinks full of dishes. Laundry all over the floor.
Couple of scabs on the cock is effective also...

Don't forget the required shot of all your toys laid out on a bad hotel comforter. Especially insertables.

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 7:41:33 AM   
MisterP61


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Status: offline 		As one who does not have any face pics on My profile due to the nature of My work, I can relate. I also do NOT have cock shots. As a man I find that distasteful. Yeah there may be those who don't trust Me, but I really know My give a fuck meter is broken on that one. Those who interact with Me, and those I have met IRL know I am who I say I am.

Advice time lol. Keep reading the posts and forums. Do not be afraid to ask these questions, but keep in mind that all advice will not always be good advice. Take what you need and leave the rest.

ETA brain activity is low this early on a Sunday

< Message edited by MisterP61 -- 1/5/2014 8:11:28 AM >

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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 8:53:53 AM   
Kana


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss
Yeah...we "chicks" dig eyes!!!

I'm so sorry. I forget chicks was offensive. Please accept my apology and note that I really intended to write "'slutcunt fuckmeat crawling whore holes worthless cumbuckets."

I will do my utmost to ensure that such a drastic error never happens again


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RE: Pictures - 1/5/2014 9:08:24 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Seeing your cock when I don't even know you does NOT make me want to get to know you. I don't see it and think, "Wow!!! That one's special!!! I want it for my own!!!" The mere sight of it doesn't make my panties even the slightest bit damp. And no matter how special any man thinks his is, it ain't any more special than anyone else's. And after I've seen a few dozen of them when trying to read profiles, yours does NOT stand out in any way, shape, or form. It just fades into obscurity with all the others.

Don't get me wrong, I like them, but only after I've gotten well-acquainted with it's owner :)

If you write a good profile that is interesting with the promise of a "normal" photo of yourself via private email, wearing clothes and not looking like someone pissed on your new car....in other words, smile!.....that is enough to at least start a conversation. It won't guarantee anything, but dick pics and grandiose talk will almost guarantee no responses.

If your profile turns YOU on, it probably won't turn women on, lol. Only other men posing as women.


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