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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 6:55:18 PM

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Considering she's just closed her profile so none of the rest of us can check her forum posts, I wouldn't be surprised. But with a new sock next time.

You can search on this side. Just plug her name into the author slot. All of her posts pop up.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:21:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Considering she's just closed her profile so none of the rest of us can check her forum posts, I wouldn't be surprised. But with a new sock next time.

Since she is posting after I checked her profile and nothing showed up, I think its just a hidden profile, and maybe, just maybe because she is listening to some of the advice and trying to keep the 5000 mile long cyber penis wankers at bay until her head is sitting right. God knows I have been wrong before, but I am also not really getting the socky feel vibe either. Still wish the OP much better luck. Someone mentioned it. There are some really good people (men and women). Unfortunately the twatwaffles (yeah my new favorite phrase along with vagina pastry (ty Lucyclastic

)) outnumber us.

ETA seems to be a lot of these. Not the best typist. That is My story and I am sticking to it.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:33:09 PM

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:41:26 PM

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I just don't understand how people can get soooo attached after only on-line and phone calls. Is it just me?? Am I missing something here ? I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:44:33 PM

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FIRST OF ALL...MY PROFILE IS HIDDEN FOR A REASON. I'M TRYING TO TAKE EVERYONE'S ADVICE. ...it has been hidden for many , many weeks...I DID NOT DELETE IT.
i have read everyone's thoughts/advice...so, thank you!!

..and....sorry that i haven't been on CM forever and have it all figured out...but i am trying to move forward a better woman and a smarter woman and ..i have no idea what a "sock person" or whatever that was even refers to....just learning as i go here, folks. that's all it is! i'm not perfect and don't proclaim to be. ... :)

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:46:05 PM

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blonderfluff---you are correct. very correct. :) lessons i'm learning along the way.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:51:15 PM

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FIRST OF ALL...MY PROFILE IS HIDDEN FOR A REASON. I'M TRYING TO TAKE EVERYONE'S ADVICE. ...it has been hidden for many , many weeks...I DID NOT DELETE IT.
i have read everyone's thoughts/advice...so, thank you!!

..and....sorry that i haven't been on CM forever and have it all figured out...but i am trying to move forward a better woman and a smarter woman and ..i have no idea what a "sock person" or whatever that was even refers to....just learning as i go here, folks. that's all it is! I'm not perfect and don't proclaim to be. ... :)

Please do NOT take these responses as we are expecting perfection. I really do not think that the majority of us have that expectation. I don't have this shit all figured out either, so join the club.

However, most of the regular posters here have seen this time and time again, and truthfully, you have received all the feedback rather well. Online predators get under My skin, and when someone finally sees someone as what they are, yeah it can be painful, but do we not learn from those experiences all the more because of that pain?

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:51:39 PM

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misterp61--
thank you. exactly. ;)

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:52:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff
I just don't understand how people can get soooo attached after only on-line and phone calls. Is it just me?? Am I missing something here ? I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

Some people are extra-attracted to verbal cues, or to the act of being obedient to someone else. So it's more important than smell, or nonverbal body language.

Beyond that, though, a lot of people dating online want to feel young again, or want to date like a teenager for the first time in their lives. I didn't mention this next thing before, because I didn't want to kick the OP while she was down, but, hell, here goes. She is "slowly putting herself back together" after a cyber-only relationship that lasted two whole months. Well, there's only two words for that: HIGH SCHOOL.

But just because it's immature doesn't mean it's unimportant. A lot of subs are actively looking for relationships where they can feel free to be emotionally juvenile, whether they want to be diapered, or whether they want a Daddy.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 7:55:13 PM

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I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

I have forumed an incredibly strong attachment to this forum.

And well, since you asked...
I look at you with one eyebrow raised and a slight smirk on my lips in anticipation of your next fabulous post.
I treat others with kindness and respect. Except for when I don't, which is rare.
I don't know about the others here, but I smell with my nose. If you were to sniff me, you would smell Sephora's Tokyomilk Dark.
I smile with my mouth, and often!

To the OP, I'm sorry this fella wasn't the man you'd hoped they were. Good luck in your future searches.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 8:02:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: poise

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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff
I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

I have forumed an incredibly strong attachment to this forum.
And well, since you asked...
I look at you with one eyebrow raised and a slight smirk on my lips in anticipation of your next fabulous post.
I treat others with kindness and respect. Except for when I don't, which is rare.
I don't know about the others here, but I smell with my nose. If you were to sniff me, you would smell Sephora's Tokyomilk Dark.
I smile with my mouth, and often!

To the OP, I'm sorry this fella wasn't the man you'd hoped they were. Good luck in your future searches.

Damn! I HATE when I miss a spelling error! Good one.
Tokyomilk Dark is fab.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 8:27:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff
I just don't understand how people can get soooo attached after only on-line and phone calls. Is it just me?? Am I missing something here ? I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

Some people are extra-attracted to verbal cues, or to the act of being obedient to someone else. So it's more important than smell, or nonverbal body language.

Beyond that, though, a lot of people dating online want to feel young again, or want to date like a teenager for the first time in their lives. I didn't mention this next thing before, because I didn't want to kick the OP while she was down, but, hell, here goes. She is "slowly putting herself back together" after a cyber-only relationship that lasted two whole months. Well, there's only two words for that: HIGH SCHOOL.

But just because it's immature doesn't mean it's unimportant. A lot of subs are actively looking for relationships where they can feel free to be emotionally juvenile, whether they want to be diapered, or whether they want a Daddy.

I guess I can understand wanting an on-line connection if all they want to do is live it in their head. And I DO love these Forums.
But, having already had rt relationships, I think I just see initial CMails as introductions that will lead to meetings if there is enough commonality.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 8:38:33 PM

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blonderfluff--
yes, i was under the impression that our online interaction would lead to a real time relationship. also, i've never actually had a r/t relationship yet. i'm excited for that journey to begin..and i think thru what i've learned online so far, in the farce that just was, i will be much better prepared for the real thing. ..and i'll be able to snoop out more quickly what ins't ever going to really lead to the real thing. progress!

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 8:39:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

I just don't understand how people can get soooo attached after only on-line and phone calls. Is it just me?? Am I missing something here ? I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

Yeah, you do miss out on touch and all, but on the flip side, you don't have the problems with reality either. Online there are no money problems, no screaming kids, and your focus is entirely on someone with no distractions.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/6/2014 11:28:54 PM

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FIRST OF ALL...MY PROFILE IS HIDDEN FOR A REASON. I'M TRYING TO TAKE EVERYONE'S ADVICE. ...it has been hidden for many , many weeks...I DID NOT DELETE IT.
i have read everyone's thoughts/advice...so, thank you!!

..and....sorry that i haven't been on CM forever and have it all figured out...but i am trying to move forward a better woman and a smarter woman and ..i have no idea what a "sock person" or whatever that was even refers to....just learning as i go here, folks. that's all it is! i'm not perfect and don't proclaim to be. ... :)

While your reaction is understood, I think the intention of anyone offering their thoughts here is to help. Keep that in mind and do not get agitated. As I said in my message earlier, time will heal and we all learn from our fall. Chill, have a martini or whatever rocks you and sit next to a fireplace if you can because it is COLD out there.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/7/2014 2:27:29 AM

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Your profile could not have been hidden for many weeks. I went and read it just 2 days ago. I checked out your previous posts using your profile. I copy and pasted a reply I made to a post you did 2 1/2 months ago as it still applied to this situation.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/7/2014 4:05:26 AM

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I just don't understand how people can get soooo attached after only on-line and phone calls. Is it just me?? Am I missing something here ? I need to know how someone looks at me. How they treat others. How they smell. How they smile. Without all of that, how is it possible to forum such a strong attachment??

It's very easy, if you want to.
If you take them at face value, and they're charming and say kind and funny things and sound like they're looking for the same things as you. There are gaps but it's easy to let your imagination fill them in. You imagine they smell good and the tone of their voice is pleasant. When they're online they're totally focused on you, no distractions, which feels really good and flattering. You never see them clipping their toenails or picking their nose, never smell the bathroom after they've been in, never see that they drive like an asshole. It's easy to fall in love with this person who is 50% your own imagination, especially if you're a bit lonely, or a bit horny, or your self esteem is low, or you're a bit naive about the internet or you're new to being open about your kink and this is the first person who seems to understand.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/7/2014 5:34:50 AM

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Peppermint. When I look at my profile it says (hidden) next to it. I have been seeing that next to my profile since before thanksgiving or so...i am not sure then why you were able to view it? I just checked again...it says hidden next to it as it has for quite some time.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/7/2014 6:24:53 AM

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Peppermint. When I look at my profile it says (hidden) next to it. I have been seeing that next to my profile since before thanksgiving or so...i am not sure then why you were able to view it? I just checked again...it says hidden next to it as it has for quite some time.

I really do not see this as a problem, especially for a new person to the site and to the lifestyle RE: My cyber penis comment. If you look at My profile it says exactly this and nothing more "These would be just words to most. If you want to know Me, then do so by interacting with Me". I firmly believe this. I could write what a super duper twuely amazing Domly Dom man I am, and all they are is words. It is the online interactions with Me, and either My inconsistencies or consistency in what I post that will shine through.

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

It's very easy, if you want to.
If you take them at face value, and they're charming and say kind and funny things and sound like they're looking for the same things as you. There are gaps but it's easy to let your imagination fill them in. You imagine they smell good and the tone of their voice is pleasant. When they're online they're totally focused on you, no distractions, which feels really good and flattering. You never see them clipping their toenails or picking their nose, never smell the bathroom after they've been in, never see that they drive like an asshole. It's easy to fall in love with this person who is 50% your own imagination, especially if you're a bit lonely, or a bit horny, or your self esteem is low, or you're a bit naive about the internet or you're new to being open about your kink and this is the first person who seems to understand.

Truer words cannot have been written here. No matter what, at the end of the day, we all are human, and yeah My shit stinks in a very real and mostly unpleasant way. Bottom lines is there are certain realities that come with any BDSM relationship, and you can never know if these are things you can live with until you actually experience them IRL.

ETA don't rush into the IRL thing until you know exactly what it is you are really looking for.

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RE: being ignored by master?? help!? - 1/7/2014 8:37:22 AM

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UPDATE:

...so i took the advice of someone on the replies...... i went back thru all of our emails and compared what he wrote on collarme at the beginning of our chats to what he had said on the phone to what he had written to me on gmail....this took a ton of time and was painful--but also i have found it to be helpful, too!...
one thing stands out...some of his dates/times don't match up...for instance...in one email on CM in the way beginning he said he'd been to south africa/tanzania last summer...then on the phone last week he said he hadn't been back in 3 years....didn't even think of that, actually, and didn't hit a nerve until i took the time to re-read the emails and look for inconsistencies...

so there we have it. you were all correct. thanks for the advice and thoughts and for the time you took to really offer thoughtful tips/rules/tricks. i will be using them and once i do re-post my profile, i'm sure it will be evident that i took much of your advice.

warm regards, have a great day, i know i will!

K.

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