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justheather -> RE: Behaving 'as if' you feel submissive when you really dont. (7/17/2006 9:19:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
Faking submission is the D/s counterpart to a vannila faking an orgasm. You do it for the same reason.
Get 'er done,
Lotus :)
Im not sure what you mean by "faking submission".
I regret the fact that I faked many an orgasm when I was younger. It was a matter of my not wanting to continue whatever act we were doing, wanting to avoid the other person feeling inadequate, or even worse, avoid wanting to be told there was "something wrong with" me. When I submit to my dom out of something other than joy, enthusiasm, or even an acute sense of "feeling submissive" it is not in the least bit like faking an orgasm because it does not involve pretending, not even a little white lie.
It simply involves my submitting regardless of the way I feel. Submission is a choice, not a feeling.
If my dom asks if Id like to do something I dont want to do, or have something done to me I dont particularly want done, I can say one of two things:
I can say "Yes, Daddy" or I can say "I want to make my Daddy happy." Both of these are true.
If I dont want to do something but I do it anyway, Im still submitting.
AND (here's the reason I love D/s!) I can still find some degree of joy in doing the thing that I dont want to do by reaching deeper and focusing on the meaning behind what I am doing. It could be the fact that it is an act of service that pleases my dom..or even deeper, if need be, to the fact that what Im doing at that moment is a living representation of the dynamic that is the core of our relationship, or that in submitting my will to him I am opening myself up to the spiritual growth that is made available through sacrifice and suffering... I can go as deep as I need or want to go to find meaning, or I can not go deep at all and say "I dont want to do this." but do it anyway and STILL not be "faking submission" because when it comes right down to the bottom line, submission is the bending of my will to his.
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