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Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:06:15 AM   
Theservileone


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Status: offline 		For my Mistresse's birthday I want to tattoo "I am a slave to Mistress _______." on my back. Though I think my gesture might be taken as a bit extreme. But for her birthday I want to do something personal and romantic ideally something that shows how much I like serving her. Any thoughts or do I have the right idea?
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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:12:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think getting a tattoo without her knowledge is foolish.
There are plenty of other ways you can show her you are committed without marking yourself permanently. However, if it is something that you think she would like, buy her a gift certificate to a nice tattoo place, write a lovely note about going together to choose something she would like to see. I think that would be a much better way to go about it.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:18:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps for your birthday you could ask for her permission to get that tattoo.

I don't know how far away her birthday is but maybe you could take a massage class and then give her one?

Edit to add: I am sure you could go on-line and find links for how to have a spa-day at home.
Then you could give her that, which falls in line with your being service oriented.


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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:29:22 AM   
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For my Mistresse's birthday I want to tattoo "I am a slave to Mistress _______." on my back. Though I think my gesture might be taken as a bit extreme. But for her birthday I want to do something personal and romantic ideally something that shows how much I like serving her. Any thoughts or do I have the right idea?


Yes, it's too extreme. I would be horrified if someone got that tattoo with my name in it.

This is the sort of 'gift' that she needs to be aware of and in agreement with. By all means, offer to pay for such a tattoo, but she should get right of refusal.

Even if she's the type of person who loves tattoos, and has told you repeatedly you'd suit one, and is certain this relationship is forever (you have been together for a long time, right op? this is a marriage level committed relationship, right?) it still doesn't mean she'd like it. She might want to choose herself. She might hate the wording, the font, or the placement. She might have plans that involve you being somewhere shirtless (the beach, the pool, couple's spa day) and not want to out herself courtesy of your body. She might think tattoos with names are tacky. Even if she loves the idea, she might want to be present for a significant relationship moment.

I do see your logic, but to be honest unless she has explicitly told you that she wants that exact tattoo, it seems to be less about serving her and more about getting something you would like. Kinda like buying her season tickets to your favourite sports team.

Romantic and thoughtful are good. Keep thinking. There are lots of ways you can show that you love serving her that are less permanent, in case she doesn't like it.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:34:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, but I don't like ink, so I'm probably not the right person to ask. I think tattooing someone's name on your back is just plain crazy.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:37:13 AM   
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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:42:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, I think that's a great idea. But do a temporary one, like henna. It will show your devotion without making a permanent commitment. And if I were her, I'd give you a flogging after, and aim for specific letters. Target practice.

A permanent tattoo? Nope.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:45:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		they have some great looking temporary tattoos. Why not bedazzle temporarily. Permanent tattooing of a name is extreme, and if you are superstitious they are claimed to be bad luck.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 8:12:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's just a very bad idea. A tattoo with a name on it is always a bad idea unless the person is your child or your parent. I had a friend who got a lovely heart tattoo with his wife's name. They had been married 30 years so he felt pretty safe doing that. They were separated and on their way to a divorce before anniversary 31. Also it would seem that you getting a tattoo would be something for you, not really for her. Wouldn't a nice personal gift to her be more to her liking?

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 9:02:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would be absolutely horrified if my sub got a tat with my name on it. What it would say is, I've made a commitment and I need you to make a permanent commitment too because this isn't going to wash off! I would see it as a very self indulgent act and seriously re-consider the relationship.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 4:04:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wouldn't do it for me because I think wordy tats to be unattractive. If I want to read a bunch, i'll pick up my kindle.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 4:30:34 PM   
JetOnly


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Status: offline 		If she has ever said she would like you to do something like that then fair enough
Otherwise no, dont do it. Its not really a gift for her now is it??

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 5:19:06 PM   
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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/16/2014 6:11:07 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		why not instead make her a nice romantic dinner with the lights turned down low, candles lit, soft music playing. Run her a bubble bath, rub her feet, give her a massage, clean up the dinner and kitchen and anything else you can find while she's taking that relaxing bubble bath. When she comes out, ask her if there is anything else she would like for her birthday, that you are there to serve her and you would like her to have the perfect day, and then hopefully at this point she'll be so enamored by you that you both will be heading to the bedroom for a little this and that.

I don't know of any woman who wouldn't love something like this on their birthday or hell, any day.


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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/17/2014 2:27:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I know if I got a tattoo--any tattoo--without my Master's knowledge and permission he'd be horrified, incredulous, and very disappointed.

Think about it. A tattoo is essentially permanent. You are going to put something permanent on your body (which you are saying belongs to your mistress, yes?) without knowing in absolute that she wants that permanent something there. That's incredibly presumptuous, and not a decision you can just "take back" if you find out it's not well received. Just doesn't seem smart to me, and feels as though you are disregarding her by deciding to permanently alter yourself on your own without any input from her. Use your head!

That being said, I know you probably are just thinking about how it would be a big, romantic gesture of your commitment and dedication to her, which is sweet. But it would be a much smarter and more respectful idea, in my opinion, to do as Blonderfluff suggested (getting a gift certificate for her for a nice tattoo place and telling her you'll get whatever she wants on you.) Or even just offer to her that if it's something she wants, you'd be willing to get a tattoo of her choosing, and you'll pay for it to be done.

Alternatively, if not a tattoo, you could think of something else personal and romantic and service-oriented for her birthday, like what littlewonder suggested. Be creative!

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/17/2014 9:55:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree any tattoo with a name on it can be troublesome, unfortunately this day in age relationships rarely last. For a romantic idea there is many things you can do, it mostly depends on your price range. Littlewonder has a good idea about making a romantic dinner or you can treat her to a spa day. There are many things you can do, like bringing her to a bed and breakfast for a long weekend. It all depends on what see likes to do, people always drop hints on what they want you just have to pick up on them. You know your Mistress better then the rest of us go with something that you know she will like/been wanting to do and that won't cause any trouble. You could also experiment with new kinkier toys or what not. If your still thinking of the tattoo idea you can do body paint instead and she can spell out what ever she wants on you, it's not permanent and its sexy fun as well. Don't do the Tattoo unless your 100% sure she wants you to and your willing to live with it forever.

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/18/2014 4:21:42 AM   
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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/18/2014 4:29:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with most other posts. No, not too extreme but HORRIFIC you would do it without permission. I have done WAY more permanent things to my subs but it was MY DECISION and they were eager to comply. It's kind of like redecorating her entire house without permission, I mean...why would you think it's OK?


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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/18/2014 4:57:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I forget which poster said this, but it was to get a voucher and choose something that she would want to see. I know if I got a tattoo saying Slave to my Sir, he would kill me!

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RE: Is my gift too extreme? - 1/18/2014 3:48:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Theservileone

For my Mistresse's birthday I want to tattoo "I am a slave to Mistress _______." on my back. Though I think my gesture might be taken as a bit extreme. But for her birthday I want to do something personal and romantic ideally something that shows how much I like serving her. Any thoughts or do I have the right idea?


Ever hear of Vincent Van Gogh, he made a similar "no take backsee's" move.

Jus sayin
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