GoddessManko
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I think society is to blame for the quandary people often face about self image.
I personally live an unusually fit lifestyle. I weigh 125 lbs at 5'9 and can legpress 450 lbs. My entire mantra about life circumvents self improvement and discipline.
If I want to eat ice cream, I eat it and I do it guilt free because I know overall I work those calories off at the gym.
Now as earlier posted, a person who's overweight may have underlying issues, self esteem, hormones, genetics etc. Some people naturally are endomorphs.
I am naturally an ectomorph because my muscles are elongated due to my height.
Therefore a shorter person may have a higher chance of being endomorph(naturally less able to gain muscle and more able to retain fat) or mesomorph(naturally muscular) not to say that's the universal rule, only in comparison to myself.
Therefore should said individual try to attain an unrealistic aesthetic goal merely because society has one believe that having softer curves or a larger nose, or thinner lips and so on makes an individual less beautiful than any other? We all know that self esteem is the basis of not only self love, but also for always trying to be a better person to oneself and others. Things like caring about one's health derives from that same basis, including if possible becoming a more fit and healthier you, just the best you that you can be.
We have all met people in our lives who thought that looks or money were the only qualities that matter therefore they lack in other areas and can be extremely degraded in character and morale. They can possibly be narcissists who treat others poorly and fail to see the profound flaws within themselves (since in their minds they have none).
However I think if let's say you are a sub and your Dom uses your weight as a form of degradation and it really does affect you that you should let it be known when limits are discussed because I use terms like "piggy" affectionately.
For those who think that fitness is for this class of elite athletes however, let me tell you it is not.
I went through the same thing, the weight gain, the pains etc once I hit my mid 20's due to lack of exercise. My self esteem was down and I didn't think I would ever be the person I am today.
I met a friend who was really into fitness. Bodybuilding really (no, not the steroid fueled muscle heads you see on TV) but essentially building your body. Increasing strength, agility, balance, stamina, endurance, all of these different things. He inspired me to work out when I saw before and after pictures of people and Insanity was my starter workout.
At the time I was a smoker and hadn't done a push up in my life.
Needless to say I still couldn't but even so, I tried...I stayed in plank position and tried.
I had back pains and knee pains and ankle pains due to being stationary most of my adult life but those soon went away. Week one was awful, week two was an AMAZING IMPROVEMENT. Mainly because I kept pushing myself. By week two I was just so determined and had this whole "bring it on" attitude.
THE BIGGEST ASSET I HAD WAS MY CALENDAR.
Being able to tick off the days you stuck with it and feeling that sense of accomplishment will be a person's biggest catalyst to embracing this lifestyle. Eating healthy and all those things come along with it naturally, you want those things eventually.
In my first round of insanity I still ate chicken nuggets at midnight but eventually that stopped too. Now I have probably less than 10% bodyfat and people are always amazed by what great shape I'm in.
When I go to the gym, we have guys who are endomorphs who are powerlifters, they are the strongest guys in the gym because they have that mass and it's incredible to watch them and people respect them.
I no longer smoke, fitness is now my life and I can run an 8 minute mile for the first time in my life. Crossfit is another great place to go if you want to get fit because the energy there is so amazing. It's all about teamwork and people keep supporting each other with the high 5's and "way to go!". People are genuinely proud of you and it's almost a family type of atmosphere. YOU WILL GET BETTER AND BETTER. I SWEAR. DON'T GIVE UP.
To people who have gym fear because of people like me who look incredibly fit.
We were ALL there, every single one of us. No one judges anyone in the gym, we LOVE seeing people come in and dare to challenge themselves as we had and still do. We're all rooting for you.
For those of you who are rotund and happy, good for you! I'm all for being healthy, happy and loving oneself, like I said, the MOST impressive guys at our gym are rotund so don't think you're being judged by anyone but the silly media who shove celebrity gossip down our throats.
Anyway I hope this was helpful and insightful and didn't offend anyone in anyway.
I actually love the softness of a woman though I myself am not so much. Very much actually. ;)
Cheers!   
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