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Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 2:24:07 AM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		I'm not sure if there's a full moon or something but I think a lot of people are forgetting the fact that porn isn't real life. In the past day I've had a handful of potential subs get very angry because I explained to them that there fantasies were not realistic. One wanted to buy me a pair of heels and I sent him over to my wishlist. Now I'm one for a pretty hair heel, I usually rock a 5-6 incher. And he was mad because the heels I had "weren't high enough." He then sent me a link to a pair of nine inch heels. I told him unfortunately I had no use for those as they weren't practical. He explained he wanted me to wear them out one night and send him photos of me wearing them. I told him there was no way I was going to maneuver my way around a crowded nightclub in nine inch heels and he got all mad ranting how "girls in videos wear them all the time." Next I had another potential submissive I was supposed to meet for coffee at a local mall try to completely change the terms of our meet. He now wanted me to parade him around the mall with a collar and leash while he was shirtless on his hands and knees. I'm pretty sure mall security would have me thrown out 30 seconds in. His reasoning? He had "seen it on a video and wanted to try it." Anyone else get frustrated by the amount of people who completely unrealistic and don't understand the difference between porn and real life?
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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 7:36:46 AM   
MercTech


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Status: offline 		He should meet a girl (fellow tech) I work with on occasion.
She has a passion for the ugliest shoes in creation and even got a pair of paisley high heel steel toe work shoes and wore them to work.
I still think 6 inch stacks with a 9 inch heel in multiple neon colors are ridiculous with any outfit.. she wore them to a company picnic.

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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 7:44:27 AM   
Greta75


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Status: offline 		Wow!
Although they are asking alot, but I am sure they can find someone who would be willing to do some of that, if they keep looking.
I think no matter how crazy the kink is, there is always someone out there that would share the same and be willing to do it. But that is just trying to spot a needle in the haystack, so it takes continuous looking and patience.
Anyway, are sub males always so demanding and whiny? I prefer to take care of a real baby than a full grown man who acts like one.

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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 8:11:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Greta75

Wow!
Although they are asking alot, but I am sure they can find someone who would be willing to do some of that, if they keep looking.
I think no matter how crazy the kink is, there is always someone out there that would share the same and be willing to do it. But that is just trying to spot a needle in the haystack, so it takes continuous looking and patience.
Anyway, are sub males always so demanding and whiny? I prefer to take care of a real baby than a full grown man who acts like one.


This was kind of my thought too - were they paying to see you? Seemed odd they would be so demanding... I can't imagine treating any prospective partner that way

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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 9:56:04 AM   
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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 10:19:11 AM   
lovmuffin


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Status: offline 		I had a mistress who wanted me to do something that could get me arrested. She was on the phone telling me this so it wouldn't have affected her other than a thrill. She really pushed it too so I can imagine there is someone out there who would do the mall scenerio or something similar. I have also experienced things right out of the porn storybook.

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RE: Porn isn't real life.w - 1/17/2014 12:51:19 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		I do indulge in findom so they were potential fin subs but no they weren't paying me for the coffee meet or to wear the shoes. And yes I do find a lot of males subs try to top from the bottom or have a very specific idea of how a Domme should act but that's just my experience. The first one I spoke of with the heels was unbelievably pushy too.

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RE: Porn isn't real life.w - 1/17/2014 1:15:56 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Nine inch heels? They had to have a pretty big platform on them, right? Cos my whole foot is barely eight inches long, even in ballet boots a nine inch heel would be impossible for me.

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RE: Porn isn't real life.w - 1/17/2014 1:16:48 PM   
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RE: Porn isn't real life - 1/17/2014 1:53:14 PM   
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I do indulge in findom so they were potential fin subs but no they weren't paying me for the coffee meet or to wear the shoes. And yes I do find a lot of males subs try to top from the bottom or have a very specific idea of how a Domme should act but that's just my experience. The first one I spoke of with the heels was unbelievably pushy too.


When a customer intends to pay for a service, he gets to negotiate for what he wants or not buy the service.

For example, I like really deep massages. I specify this upfront. If the masseuse doesn't deliver, I give her less of a tip than I normally would and don't go back.

Now, if my man were to give me a crappy massage, I'd kiss him and say "Thank you, honey."

What percentage of your clients are actually interested in submission, rather than a fetish delivery service?

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RE: Porn isn't real life.w - 1/17/2014 3:27:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Anyone for nine inch nails then? 



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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 5:05:55 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I'm not sure if there's a full moon or something but I think a lot of people are forgetting the fact that porn isn't real life. In the past day I've had a handful of potential subs get very angry because I explained to them that there fantasies were not realistic. One wanted to buy me a pair of heels and I sent him over to my wishlist. Now I'm one for a pretty hair heel, I usually rock a 5-6 incher. And he was mad because the heels I had "weren't high enough." He then sent me a link to a pair of nine inch heels. I told him unfortunately I had no use for those as they weren't practical. He explained he wanted me to wear them out one night and send him photos of me wearing them. I told him there was no way I was going to maneuver my way around a crowded nightclub in nine inch heels and he got all mad ranting how "girls in videos wear them all the time." Next I had another potential submissive I was supposed to meet for coffee at a local mall try to completely change the terms of our meet. He now wanted me to parade him around the mall with a collar and leash while he was shirtless on his hands and knees. I'm pretty sure mall security would have me thrown out 30 seconds in. His reasoning? He had "seen it on a video and wanted to try it." Anyone else get frustrated by the amount of people who completely unrealistic and don't understand the difference between porn and real life?


Not me.

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RE: Porn isn't real life - 1/17/2014 5:44:35 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

quote:

I do indulge in findom so they were potential fin subs but no they weren't paying me for the coffee meet or to wear the shoes. And yes I do find a lot of males subs try to top from the bottom or have a very specific idea of how a Domme should act but that's just my experience. The first one I spoke of with the heels was unbelievably pushy too.


When a customer intends to pay for a service, he gets to negotiate for what he wants or not buy the service.

For example, I like really deep massages. I specify this upfront. If the masseuse doesn't deliver, I give her less of a tip than I normally would and don't go back.

Now, if my man were to give me a crappy massage, I'd kiss him and say "Thank you, honey."

What percentage of your clients are actually interested in submission, rather than a fetish delivery service?



I am a financial Domme not a pro Domme. I don't have clients. I specify this up front always so there's no confusion. I'd rather not turn this into a financial domination debate but there is a difference. I don't just do anything that's requested for money. I do what I enjoy and if that's what a sub also enjoys then that's awesome but I don't do things I'm not interested in to make a buck. So I don't have "customers" the financial exchange is the fetish. Anything else is an added bonus.

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RE: Porn isn't real life.w - 1/17/2014 5:48:03 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Anyone for nine inch nails then? 


The Downward Spiral is my personal favorite.

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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 6:13:26 PM   
MissToYouRedux


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

Anyone else get frustrated by the amount of people who completely unrealistic and don't understand the difference between porn and real life?


Not me.


Yes, not me either. It's the internet. Anyone can ask for anything. Asking isn't getting. "Next in line."



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RE: Porn isn't real life.w - 1/17/2014 6:18:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Anyone for nine inch nails then? 

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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 6:51:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Isn't that what Folsom Street Fair etc. is for?



quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I'm not sure if there's a full moon or something but I think a lot of people are forgetting the fact that porn isn't real life. In the past day I've had a handful of potential subs get very angry because I explained to them that there fantasies were not realistic. One wanted to buy me a pair of heels and I sent him over to my wishlist. Now I'm one for a pretty hair heel, I usually rock a 5-6 incher. And he was mad because the heels I had "weren't high enough." He then sent me a link to a pair of nine inch heels. I told him unfortunately I had no use for those as they weren't practical. He explained he wanted me to wear them out one night and send him photos of me wearing them. I told him there was no way I was going to maneuver my way around a crowded nightclub in nine inch heels and he got all mad ranting how "girls in videos wear them all the time." Next I had another potential submissive I was supposed to meet for coffee at a local mall try to completely change the terms of our meet. He now wanted me to parade him around the mall with a collar and leash while he was shirtless on his hands and knees. I'm pretty sure mall security would have me thrown out 30 seconds in. His reasoning? He had "seen it on a video and wanted to try it." Anyone else get frustrated by the amount of people who completely unrealistic and don't understand the difference between porn and real life?



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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 6:55:10 PM   
LadyPact


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Isn't that what Folsom Street Fair etc. is for?

Have you been there? Have you walked among the streets?

Have you seen what they do? What the organizers do????

I'll bet that they raise more money for AIDS awareness than some keyboard commandos do in a lifetime.


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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 7:56:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: EdBowie

Isn't that what Folsom Street Fair etc. is for?

Have you been there? Have you walked among the streets?

Have you seen what they do? What the organizers do????

I'll bet that they raise more money for AIDS awareness than some keyboard commandos do in a lifetime.



True dat. And many other good causes as well.

Having seen it myself last fall, Folsom can make people's eyeballs fall out. Huck and I gave it about an hour and a half before we'd had enough. I guess we're just not into public displays.

Still, I haven't a clue how some of those guys could continually stand on some of those SHOES!

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RE: Porn isn't real life. - 1/17/2014 9:38:02 PM   
dcnovice


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Porn isn't real life.

Well, damn. There's my reality shattered.




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