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Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:19:37 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		The whole "under consideration" thing has always baked my noodle. Is "under consideration" used to give a D time to think of more hoops for the /s to jump through, or is it a way to sequester an /s until the D figures out they can't do any better?

Why isn't the D "under consideration"? The /s has much more options than the D.

Maybe the D should be "under contemplation" instead.

Any thoughts?

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:31:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would rather call these individuals "potentials"...there is the uncertainty but yet there is a desire for them. I do think D's could be under consideration too...but I think most D's use it as a way to promote their dominance and to create this feeling of the unknown.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:33:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Under Consideration = It's ok to hit on them.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:40:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've always viewed the term 'under consideration' as the dom's way of cutting a good heifer away from the herd so that other bulls don't have a chance with her. (Sorry about the ranching analogy, but it fits.)

In other words, she is expected to be exclusive with him while she jumps through hoops and he tests her submission, while he gets to still be looking. I've seen this time and again online.

Although perhaps not everyone who uses the term is a douchcanoe, it's a red flag to me. At the very least it screams clueless, and at the most it screams dishonest.



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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:42:15 PM   
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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:48:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've used the term and that's exactly what it is. A period for both/all parties to be attempting to see if it's really what they want.

It's ok, though. I use that term and other ones like "training" that most people around here don't like.


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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:49:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I see "under consideration" as part of the theater of online D/s and bdsm. Under protection, asking permission to leave the relationship, Doms getting to be poly while the subs belong solely to the Dom. It's funny stuff to me, a new person starting to watch this drama a year ago. So much of it is funny, pathetic, hilarious, touching, sad, contemptible, hot. O Horatio. I am still wondering of any of it is
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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:49:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Same same for "protecting". What's THAT?
Anyone with a list of 20 people after their name is always a red flag to me.
Considering? Protecting ? Jump in the damn pool instead of dipping your toes in.

I think it's silly.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 1:53:49 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		I could go for "Under My Thumb" rather than "under consideration. It just sounds more tyrannical, and you'll all be singing the song after this, so it a sadistic bonus.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 2:54:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I've used the term and that's exactly what it is. A period for both/all parties to be attempting to see if it's really what they want.

It's ok, though. I use that term and other ones like "training" that most people around here don't like.


Same here. I consider it a pre-probationary period where he hasn't been collared yet, but we are tentatively exclusive with one another. I haven't decided yet whether he's "The One" for me.

I also believe this should work both ways. A submissive has every right to put a Dominant "under consideration" as well.

In most cases, though, a Domme is in a better position to be selective, so this is actually reassuring to a male sub that he has possibly made the grade. He is allowed to refer to me as his Mistress, and ...

quote:

ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

Under Consideration = It's ok to hit on them.

... we can talk dirty now. (NOT you and I personally )

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 3:05:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Although perhaps not everyone who uses the term is a douchcanoe, it's a red flag to me. At the very least it screams clueless, and at the most it screams dishonest.




Same here. And with the men far outnumbering the women, it should be the other way around. I never stood for the term and when I met guys, I made no bones about the fact that I was "interviewing" Dominant men.


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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 3:53:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

I could go for "Under My Thumb" rather than "under consideration. It just sounds more tyrannical, and you'll all be singing the song after this, so it a sadistic bonus.

Exiled

Haha! Fantastic! That should be a status option on that other site.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 6:52:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		If one party is under consideration, the other party should be, too. I think that's one of the biggest things that new sub-types come in here asking questions about and seem mystified about. They got the idea that they are to sit back and wait to be "chosen" by the first one that comes along instead of participating in the choosing herself. Until the commitment is established and the ground rules laid, it's a two-way street.

"Under protection". Oh lord, you should have been part of the BDSM chat rooms back in the Yahoo glory days, lol. All the subs were tiny little things wearing silk robes and little bells around their tiny little ankles. The masters sat around some big virtual room in a virtual castle with furs on the floor and the tiny little slaves constantly served beverages whilst kneeling on the furs. They "protected" the poor defenseless things who, if she felt threatened...in a chat room...would run squealing to one of the Masters and he would rise, thump his chest and roar, keeping her safe from the rogues and scalawags. And then he would hold her tiny body in his powerful arms, feeling her tiny heart beating furiously, her tiny fists clenched. It was quite the show at times. You could almost hear the thunder crashing and the swords clanging, lol.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 7:30:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: windchymes

"Under protection". Oh lord, you should have been part of the BDSM chat rooms back in the Yahoo glory days, lol. All the subs were tiny little things wearing silk robes and little bells around their tiny little ankles. The masters sat around some big virtual room in a virtual castle with furs on the floor and the tiny little slaves constantly served beverages whilst kneeling on the furs. They "protected" the poor defenseless things who, if she felt threatened...in a chat room...would run squealing to one of the Masters and he would rise, thump his chest and roar, keeping her safe from the rogues and scalawags. And then he would hold her tiny body in his powerful arms, feeling her tiny heart beating furiously, her tiny fists clenched. It was quite the show at times. You could almost hear the thunder crashing and the swords clanging, lol.


I remember those days! My eyes rolled so much back in the day reading that crap that I swear I tore both optic nerves and caused permanent damage . But that was some damned fun reading though. I've got the ultimate protection for those who feel they need it because the interwebz are soooo scary. It's called the power button on whatever computer device is being used

"Under Consideration" is just one of those phrases I personally don't use, but if a person does...it's cool by me. I figure everyone should just do their thing

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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 9:11:43 PM   
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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 11:09:01 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Exactly, dating.

What nonsense.

If someone said to me that I was under consideration, I would say not anymore. Why?

Because you are a clueless twat for saying that out loud.


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RE: Under consideration - 1/17/2014 11:36:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		What's the issue?

Vanillas use the term "engaged" for the exact same thing. It means that both parties are exploring a commitment.

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RE: Under consideration - 1/18/2014 5:53:36 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Well, generally, vanillas who are engaged have 1. met in person and 2. are planning to spend their lives together, while the same cannot be said for most who would use the term "under consideration."

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RE: Under consideration - 1/18/2014 7:25:06 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		A few years ago, I wrote this about "under consideration".


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You know... I vascillate with this term.  I understand why people want to use it, and all, but frankly I have only one litty bitty thing about it.  If I am considering an M type, does that make him under consideration too?  If it doesn't, it should... And you know why?  Because I'm still in the decision making stage...

Funny thing, I've never seen an M type have that on their profile.



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RE: Under consideration - 1/18/2014 8:22:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Under consideration:

It's a harmless bit of fluffy fantasy. Either the consider-ee buys it or (more likely) she doesn't.

Denouncing being under consideration:

It's a harmless bit of fluffy self-advertising. Either women reading it on the internet buy it or (more likely) they don't.

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