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It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 9:32:20 AM

Itpleasesme

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First, I would like to thank any Mistress that is taking the time to read this message and reply to it. I am new both to the life and this site. I have posted some notes of appreciation to some of the Superior Women on this site to show my respect (to me, looking at a beautiful woman and not expressing admiration is like going to a trusted friend's home and eating their meal without praise - it is a form of theft).

I response, within a few messages - one time on the first reply - I was asked if I wished to be owned. I was invited by one Mistress to go to a paid site (I was born on a Saturday but it was not yesterday) and declined the offer. Another said that although she was in another country if I would sign a contract (approved by the BDSM Committee) she would come to me at her own expense (if something sounds to good to be true....).

Am I being overly cautious or were these the scams I believed them to be?

Let me be clear, I am not against the Superior Gender receiving whatever remuneration is mutually agreed upon. In my particular worthless case I am looking for a woman to offer myself to, while that is admittedly a paltry gift, it is what I am prepared to surrender.

Again thank you for Your Superior Thoughts.

Namaste

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 9:50:49 AM

DarkSteven

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First off, I am from the lowly Inferior Gender, so discount my post accordingly.

You're 58. You've even older than I am, and I didn't think that was physically possible. So quit acting like a teenager.

Women tend to love conversation. If it's GOOD conversation. If you tell a Domme that she's a lovely creature and a Superior Being, she'll roll her eyes. You may think it's respectful, but they'll think it's noise.

The wimmins here are not superior beings. They're women. They work, and when they get home, they want to go out for a night on the town. Or they want to stay home. They're just people. The only difference is that they like to be Dominant. And that's not such a huge thing as you think - it doesn't define them.

Try striking up a conversation about something aside from their purty pics or how superior their gender is. Read their (*&!(@*&ing profile and see what kind of person they are. If you'd like to talk with someone with that profile, write them and try to give them enough conversation to engage them. If it's LadyPact, talk about wax play, for example.

Even better, get off the computer and go to events. I've been active locally for several years and have slowly built up a reputation and am known at local parties. I played with two women at a private party Thursday night and two others at a party Friday night, and then I topped my sub last night. I met my sub at a party three years ago, by the way.

Also, your post here says unequivocally that you're a sub. Your profile says that you're a switch with strong Daddy tendencies. What are you?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 9:56:08 AM

Itpleasesme

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Thank you for your unsolicited response. As I posted this in the "Ask A Mistress" forum I expected to get a response from a woman, not another man.

May I politely invite you to Piss off?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:00:37 AM

Rawni

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Would you prefer to hear from me?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:01:25 AM

shiftyw

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Anyone can post anywhere on this forum.
And DarkSteven was VERY polite.

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:04:00 AM

SylvereApLeanan

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rawni

Would you prefer to hear from me?

LOL, I would! Does that count?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:04:54 AM

Rawni

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Itpleasesme... you have been rude, while asking some very victim, helpless questions. Superior women get your respect? I doubt that.

First of all... not all of us women want to be placed in a kinky vision of what you think it's all about. You can believe what you want, but when you put us all in a kinky place and start from there, then you start questioning things a ten year old could see through... really... what do you think to accomplish with that?

Anyone may post anywhere and respond as long as it is within Terms of Service.

Chill and yeah.. if you haven't gotten a clue by now... its a scam.

< Message edited by Rawni -- 1/19/2014 10:05:20 AM >

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:08:23 AM

Itpleasesme

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I do not dispute free speech.

I respectfully disagree that he was polite.

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:09:51 AM

Itpleasesme

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Thank you for your input. As I stated I am new and am willing to accept counsel.

Your thoughts are appreciated.

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:11:18 AM

VideoAdminRho

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Itpleasesme

Thank you for your unsolicited response. As I posted this in the "Ask A Mistress" forum I expected to get a response from a woman, not another man.

This is a reminder that anyone is allowed to post anywhere as long as they do not violate ToS or the guidelines.

quote:

May I politely invite you to Piss off?

No, you may not.

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:21:58 AM

DarkSteven

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Itpleasesme

May I politely invite you to Piss off?

Nope. You can ask me to Piss Off, or you can be polite. One or the other.

Lemme explain how this site works. The topics in each forum are indeed related to dynamics, in this case femdom. The answers are expected to conform to the same dynamics, but can come from any gender and any orientation. So I was entirely following the forum rules when I responded.

Calm down and read what I wrote. And then quit getting aggravated because I'm male, and READ it. I'd be very surprised if any of the ladies here would disagree with what I wrote. If you'd feel better about hearing it from them, perhaps you'd ask them if they agree with what I wrote.

Edited to add: Also, I apologize for not directly answering your questions.

Yeah. Anyone asking if you want to be owned without getting to know you - scam. Anyone directing you to a website - scam. Anyone wanting you to sign a contract before getting to know you - scam. Your spidey sense was on target.

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 1/19/2014 10:24:48 AM >

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 10:42:26 AM

LafayetteLady

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"Approved by the BDSM committee?" Really?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 12:01:23 PM

playfulsub213

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BDSM committee? While that I must admit is a first for me, unfortunately I have heard a lot worse lol. Someone on this site said they required me to send them 3,100 dollars by the next day.... This kind of thing happens a lot.

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 12:25:52 PM

ResidentSadist

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Despite the embarrassing behavior of the OP and his insane rudeness, I am gonna' answer this one anyway. Here is your meme.

Attachment (1)

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 12:30:13 PM

xxblushesxx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: playfulsub213

BDSM committee? While that I must admit is a first for me, unfortunately I have heard a lot worse lol. Someone on this site said they required me to send them 3,100 dollars by the next day.... This kind of thing happens a lot.

Dude, I told you I was willing to wait a week. *sheesh* Everyone is so touchy these days!

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 1:59:14 PM

MissKittyDeVine

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Sheesh. I hesitate to speak for every dominant female on this site, but ... oh hell, responding like that seems a pretty good way to ensure that we would all immediately rule you out. That you can speak so rudely to someone does not paint you in a remotely positive light.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Itpleasesme

Thank you for your unsolicited response. As I posted this in the "Ask A Mistress" forum I expected to get a response from a woman, not another man.

May I politely invite you to Piss off?

< Message edited by MissKittyDeVine -- 1/19/2014 2:00:23 PM >

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 6:18:31 PM

Delilya

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*Poof*

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 7:20:35 PM

SeekingTrinity

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I actually find myself agreeing with DarkSteven...and I'm your target gender. I also found you incredibly rude and highly disrespectfully, which would put me in agreement with Rawni.

First of all, the whole "superior women and their superior thoughts" versus "worthless you" would have had me rolling my eyes. That smacks of someone who is freshly fallen off the turnip truck as you hit the speed bump designating the border between FemDom Pornland and Realityland. I may have a vagina and yes...it's awesome, but that hardly makes me superior to anyone else. And I hated hearing it from submissives. I'd tell mine to stop talking like that because I wasn't having it.

Everything DarkSteven talked about is quality material. He didn't type it with his penis either. He used his mind and spoke from a dominant perspective. What's wrong with the suggestion to attend actual BDSM events? What is "piss off" worthy about the advice to actually read a woman's profile and comment on things she is interested in? Seriously...this was how you responded??? Perhaps you should pay less attention to gender and more attention to the words being spoken. It will get you farther and you won't come off sounding like you sounded. Rudeness to others by their submissive is an embarrassment to a dominant. Is that really how you want to market yourself? All it takes for a potential Domme is to click the link on your profile to view your forum posts and there you have it. When I was seeking as a single, that's what I did and Id keep on walking if I saw out of a potential what I saw above from you. Just sayin'

Other than that, common sense is the way to go. If it smells like shit and sounds like shit, gues what? It's shit. BDSM Committee? If you took that as serious, I've got beachfront property in Arizona and a few bridges in New York I can sell you for dirt cheap. BDSM Committee...and you are asking if you are being overly cautious?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/19/2014 8:17:19 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Itpleasesme

First, I would like to thank any Mistress that is taking the time to read this message and reply to it. I am new both to the life and this site. I have posted some notes of appreciation to some of the Superior Women on this site to show my respect (to me, looking at a beautiful woman and not expressing admiration is like going to a trusted friend's home and eating their meal without praise - it is a form of theft).

I response, within a few messages - one time on the first reply - I was asked if I wished to be owned. I was invited by one Mistress to go to a paid site (I was born on a Saturday but it was not yesterday) and declined the offer. Another said that although she was in another country if I would sign a contract (approved by the BDSM Committee) she would come to me at her own expense (if something sounds to good to be true....).

Am I being overly cautious or were these the scams I believed them to be?

Let me be clear, I am not against the Superior Gender receiving whatever remuneration is mutually agreed upon. In my particular worthless case I am looking for a woman to offer myself to, while that is admittedly a paltry gift, it is what I am prepared to surrender.

Again thank you for Your Superior Thoughts.

Namaste

Notice any pattern here bub?

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RE: It is normal to be offered ownership? - 1/20/2014 3:53:11 AM

LadyPact

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I'm the targeted gender. I'm even going to answer the question in the original first because I want to make sure I stay within the side of the line about on topic and off topic.

OP, if you were on another site and after a single message or maybe after just a few, the other person said they wanted to marry you, how legitimate do you think that would be? It's pretty much the same thing. Just because folks are kinky around here and/or are interested in alternative lifestyles doesn't mean that the common sense of the vanilla world doesn't apply.

I'd highly suggest that you do some reading about common scams. The site even helps you with a section regarding such.

While you're reading, you might want to take a spin through the forum guidelines, too. Rho was good enough to highlight that for you about the fact that we don't do that here based on gender. I don't even think that card should have had to be played because it was a damned good response in the first place. If a person would look at Steven's posts on this section of the forum or any other, they'd catch on real quick that he's spot on with a very high majority of his posts and absolutely worth the reader's attention. Personally, I'm very glad that he posts in this section and I hope that doesn't end anytime soon.

In the meantime, thanks for showing those Dominant women that you would like to hear from where this was on the rudeness scale.

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