FieryOpal
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If you want to expedite your search for a Mistress, please correct your profile's misuse of the words "dominate" with "Dominant," two references to "new toy" to that of "boytoy" instead (which often accompanies wanting to be treated like a "pet," however I don't know what Rawni's opinion of petdom - or boytoyness - is and this term might rub some Dommes the wrong way). Thank you for not referring to yourself as a slut, anal slut, or sissy slut.  But what, pray tell, does being a "very clean bad attractive person" signify? You are "bad" and therefore need to be punished? Are you "bad" because you think you masturbate excessively, and/or "bad" because as MsMJAY inquired, you are married and intending to cheat on your wife while you're busy working "out of town," or else attached and going behind your girlfriend's back?
Further, having "69" contained in your user name will kill it for you, and I'll tell you why. Vanilla, vanilla, vanilla. If I understand you correctly, you say "I am really a virgin when it comes to this but have always been very intrigued by it." There's no Domme in hell gonna train you in 69, buddy. WTH are you thinking? In which porn did you see Dominant women performing 69? Short of a miracle, it ain't happening. You'll be lucky to ever get your d!ck sucked, and that would only be to tease you and make you beg.
You do list as bisexual, and that could be problematic. I know, I know, you're new and inexperienced and you have never acted upon these fantasies of "forced" bi, yada yada yada. Unless you truly are bi, don't classify yourself as such--that will only hurt your chances. You've been watching too much FemDom porn featuring cuckolding. There aren't a whole lot of Dommes who are into that sort of thing, not even the FLR-Female Led Relationship Domme Wife/sub husband couples I know. Even if they are, there isn't necessarily bisexuality incorporated within that lifestyle dynamic. You hint at wanting to be "forced" to act out because you use the typical newbie male sub tagline that "I love not having a choice of what is going to happen."
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ORIGINAL: MsMJAY
My immediate feelings about someone who offers themselves as a "toy" is that they do not want a relationship. They want a kinky friend to fool around with, no strings attached. I avoid those types like the plague. You should be more precise about what it is that you are seeking. If it is a longterm relationship then say that. If it is just a play partner or no strings fun, you should say that as well. Personally, a slave who travels a lot and works a lot would not be a good slave for me because he would not be able to devote the kind of time I would need him to devote towards developing a good relationship with me.
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Furthermore, the fact that you "do work a lot and travel for my work" greatly diminishes your chances of being considered seriously as a slave, much less your prospects of "mak[ing] a great slave." Mistresses require devotion. Devotion denotes presence and regular accessibility at HER (reasonable) convenience, not at YOUR convenience. Your best bet right now is to find a pro-Domme to hire. Don't expect any actual sex. Like most kinds of hourly sessions, expect it to last roughly 45 minutes, 50 tops (no pun intended). Depending on the area, you're looking at about $200, $300-400 if she's really good at it. A specialist in certain fetishes/kinks may charge as much as $500. Just because one charges a higher price doesn't make her more experienced either. Longer sessions will cost you more, obviously, but at a slightly lower pro-rated rate. Be wary if you get a bargain-basement rate of $100 in a feeble attempt to save yourself some money. You won't get a *real* provider or a *real* Domme at that price.
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ORIGINAL: Tryanything69
What do you mean on the profile side?
Your log in will automatically bring you to the default profile side. Message Boards button takes you to this discussion forum side, which is separate from the profile-seeking side.
I hope you will see my comments as being helpful, along the lines of constructive criticism.
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