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littlewonder -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:23:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles Really? At BDSM "gathering" nobody has any clue about who might be Dominant or submissive? Maybe you guys should wear name tags, when you get together, so you can tell yourselves apart. Dude, Master and I go to gatherings and clubs and such from time to time and I have had people stop me who think I am a Domme when Master walks away and I'm still dressed in normal clothing. Not everyone at bdsm stuff are naked with collars and crawling or holding a whip. Some of us are just sitting around in normal, everyday clothing with a soda in our hands and just chatting with others or watching what's going on. How the hell would you know I'm a slave just from looking at that??

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:28:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear Don't even ask why, I'm sticking my big toe in. I do NOT need another adult to correct my behavior should he think I've behaved in a rude manner. Or what's perceived as rude. Quite frankly, a person that does not need their behavior corrected would not be rude and a nuisance in the first place. quote: Now it may just be me, but I've noticed that all of this back and forth is addressed as a male correcting women. Are men not to be corrected also??? Honestly, since I'm a man, that is the viewpoint that I've been using but I believe that it works both ways or four ways or how ever many ways there are. ;-)

RedMagic1 -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:30:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles Really? At BDSM "gathering" nobody has any clue about who might be Dominant or submissive? Maybe you guys should wear name tags, when you get together, so you can tell yourselves apart. I've been staying far away from this thread, but I just saw this in the scroller, and it caught my attention. I added the emphasis to the quote. Mind telling me what you meant by "you guys?" It sounds as though you're placing yourself outside the group of people who engages in BDSM.

angelikaJ -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:30:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles quote: ORIGINAL: searching4mysir And you seem to be under the delusion that she cares what you think of her subjection in the first place. If she has already been rude to you, she has already decided that you are not worthy of her submission. She has written you off. Delusion? I'm sorry is there someone who actually reading this? This is a person who is being rude and a nuisance, I could care less what she thinks of me. She is being rude and a nuisance, what are you going to do about? Pretend it is not happening? Am I the only one here that is willing to do something about someone who is rude and a nuisance? Are you people actually saying that if a person is in a "relationship or dynamic" then she can dominate a whole room of people by being rude and a nuisance and not one of you would say anything? Not at all; I already said that I would treat her (or him) as a human being. And that means whether they were vanilla, a dom/me or a slave or sub of either gender, I would find a tactful way of approaching him/her. I can see from your responses that you have given a great deal of thought to this as it is now a gathering and she is dominating a room full of people with her rudeness. I wonder if this hypothetical she realises she has this much power... or such an ardent saviour. [;)]

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:41:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder If you came up to me somewhere, anywhere and chastised me for being what YOU consider rude, I would make sure that the entire room knew of YOUR rudeness and the size of your ego for thinking you know better than everyone else. You were already making sure the whole room knew you were there, so what difference would it make to me, if after I pointed out you were being rude and a nuisance, you just continued to do so? quote: Instead here's a new approach for ya dude....just walk away. Don't like what you see or hear? Leave the room or premise. Simple. Why ruin it for everyone else who are adults and don't have an ego the size of a dump truck? I care about others but if you don't, go ahead and walk away, leave them to continue making a fool of themselves, at least I tried to help. ;-)

LadyPact -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:43:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles Really? At BDSM "gathering" nobody has any clue about who might be Dominant or submissive? Maybe you guys should wear name tags, when you get together, so you can tell yourselves apart. Dude, seriously, just stop. I've been watching this shit for days and the only thing I want to ask you is if you would like a shovel to dig a deeper hole. I don't know who you are or where you come from, but Jesus Christ, even I know when it's time to shut the fuck up. Please stop doing what you are doing, for My sake.

littlewonder -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:47:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder If you came up to me somewhere, anywhere and chastised me for being what YOU consider rude, I would make sure that the entire room knew of YOUR rudeness and the size of your ego for thinking you know better than everyone else. You were already making sure the whole room knew you were there, so what difference would it make to me, if after I pointed out you were being rude and a nuisance, you just continued to do so? quote: Instead here's a new approach for ya dude....just walk away. Don't like what you see or hear? Leave the room or premise. Simple. Why ruin it for everyone else who are adults and don't have an ego the size of a dump truck? I care about others but if you don't, go ahead and walk away, leave them to continue making a fool of themselves, at least I tried to help. ;-) aahhh.....so basically another white knight to the rescue lol

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 6:51:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Dude, Master and I go to gatherings and clubs and such from time to time and I have had people stop me who think I am a Domme when Master walks away and I'm still dressed in normal clothing. What ever happened to reading? Is it a lost art? I never said I could tell without error everybody's role in the room but some people's "radar" can pick up some of the more obvious roles in the room. quote: Not everyone at bdsm stuff are naked with collars and crawling or holding a whip. Some of us are just sitting around in normal, everyday clothing with a soda in our hands and just chatting with others or watching what's going on. How the hell would you know I'm a slave just from looking at that?? I never said I could but the ones who are "naked with collars and crawling or holding a whip" seem to be giving off some signals, don't you think? ;-)

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:33:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 I've been staying far away from this thread,(probably a good idea) but I just saw this in the scroller, and it caught my attention. I added the emphasis to the quote. Mind telling me what you meant by "you guys?" It sounds as though you're placing yourself outside the group of people who engages in BDSM. Since you are new to this thread, what has happened is it appears that no one agrees with me on a number of points. One of those points is that I feel that at a BDSM gathering a person should be able to tell the roles of some of those there but it seems that everyone in this thread feels that a BDSM gathering is like a game of "What's My Line?" and everyone is hiding who they are so no one can guess what their roles are. Whereas, I'm not going to run around the room shouting I'm a Dom, I'm a Dom, I'm not going to waste a lot of time concealing either. So long story short, the "you guys" are those in this thread who feel that at a BDSM gathering it is impossible to tell a Dom from a Sub etc. That is is why suggested they hand out name tags to eliminate the confusion in a gathering that has no reason to hide who they are. ;-)

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:50:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ Not at all; I already said that I would treat her (or him) as a human being. And that means whether they were vanilla, a dom/me or a slave or sub of either gender, I would find a tactful way of approaching him/her. Thank you for this example of what you mean when you say; "treat her (or him) as a human being." That is what I have been trying to say. There many ways to handle any situation and I run several though my mind to pick the one that seems best for all concerned. quote: I can see from your responses that you have given a great deal of thought to this as it is now a gathering and she is dominating a room full of people with her rudeness. I have not ever encountered this situation in a BDSM setting and have been working through my thinking on the matter with the help of those who have responded. (I wonder how some might feel about helping me?) quote: I wonder if this hypothetical she realises she has this much power... or such an ardent saviour. [;)] Thanks for your sense of humor, it's refreshing. ;-)

MisterP61 -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:51:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear Are men not to be corrected also??? Fuck no!!!! (looks around to make sure LP is not about... ready to duck)[sm=couch.gif]

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:54:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Dude, seriously, just stop. I've been watching this shit for days and the only thing I want to ask you is if you would like a shovel to dig a deeper hole. I don't know who you are or where you come from, but Jesus Christ, even I know when it's time to shut the fuck up. Please stop doing what you are doing, for My sake. Well, this adds absolutely nothing to the dialog, why did you waste your time? ;-)

MisterP61 -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:55:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Dude, seriously, just stop. I've been watching this shit for days and the only thing I want to ask you is if you would like a shovel to dig a deeper hole. I don't know who you are or where you come from, but Jesus Christ, even I know when it's time to shut the fuck up. Please stop doing what you are doing, for My sake. Well, this adds absolutely nothing to the dialog, why did you waste your time? ;-) Dude... I live with the lovely LP. I have no pity for you now.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:56:23 PM)
Because she's actually interesting to listen to. You, on the other hand...not so much

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 7:57:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder aahhh.....so basically another white knight to the rescue lol Nothing wrong with acting the white knight from time to time, as long as you don't take yourself to seriously. ;-)

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 8:00:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 Dude... I live with the lovely LP. I have no pity for you now. Thanks for the warning. ;-)

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 8:02:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Dude, seriously, just stop. I've been watching this shit for days and the only thing I want to ask you is if you would like a shovel to dig a deeper hole. I don't know who you are or where you come from, but Jesus Christ, even I know when it's time to shut the fuck up. Please stop doing what you are doing, for My sake. Well, this adds absolutely nothing to the dialog, why did you waste your time? ;-) Dude... I live with the lovely LP. I have no pity for you now. I live in Canada, almost halfway across the country. I am heading as far East as my car will take me. Stopping along the way to pick up MM. I just have this sneeeeeaaaky suspicion this will reverberate far and wide. [:D][;)][sm=car.gif]

Milesnmiles -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 8:03:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity Because she's actually interesting to listen to. You, on the other hand...not so much This was interesting to listen to? quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Dude, seriously, just stop. I've been watching this shit for days and the only thing I want to ask you is if you would like a shovel to dig a deeper hole. I don't know who you are or where you come from, but Jesus Christ, even I know when it's time to shut the fuck up. Please stop doing what you are doing, for My sake. All I can say is you must lead a very sheltered life. ;-)

MisterP61 -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 8:14:42 PM)
Glad this is a topic on respect... you sure have none, but coincidentally the more I read here, the less I have for you. That My friend has to be earned... And She has more then earned Hers. Just saying.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Respect ..... (1/29/2014 8:17:19 PM)
Yes, it's true. You haven't been interesting to listen to. And yes, it's true that you have been digging a hilariously deep hole for however many pages you have now been prattling on. It's been enjoyable to watch you sell yourself out as far as the whole "respect for all" principle went.

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