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daddytrace -> luck on here. (1/29/2014 4:15:27 AM)

Just curious, how many masters found slaves on here?



altoonamaster -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 4:19:42 AM)

have found many but most quit after a few months



searching4mysir -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 5:38:08 AM)

FR

My Master found me here (on the profile side though, not the discussion boards).



Toysinbabeland -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 5:48:06 AM)

We happened to realize we were both on here after meeting each other by chance.




RedMagic1 -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 5:48:57 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: daddytrace

Just curious, how many masters found slaves on here?

Dating sites tend to follow what mathematicians call a "power law," as do other forms of social interaction, like respiratory infections (bleh but true). In lay terms, there are a few people who get great results, some people who get decent results, and a lot of people who get no results.

So the answer to your question is: maybe 10% of dom guys with profiles here. It might be less (5%) or more (20%), I don't know the specifics. But I'm certain it's well under 50%.

There is a lot written about how to improve your odds. You could ask about that if you're interested.



daddytrace -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 6:17:03 AM)

Thanks RedMagic, how do I increase my odds?



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 6:18:46 AM)

Those that have the best luck are those who look for friends first, a relationship partner second, and who keep their expectations realistic.

You want a cute young hottie and seem to think that's easy to find b/c you checked off dom in the drop down box.

That's not reality, that's fantasy.

You also appear to think that anyone you converse with should be in a sub mindset even though they are not *your* sub.

Based on your profile you appear to have limited experience and knowledge about BDSM, and I most strongly suggest you learn a lot more before you decide you're capable of leading someone.

Calling yourself old guard is just laughable.

BTW: In a previous post you asked how to include that you are married in your profile, but I don't see it there. Even if your wife approves this is a huge deal breaker for many. Not having it in your profile makes you look deceptive.

I don't know how close you are to Phoenix; there is a public dungeon there called Apex along with a very active kink crowd. Get out into the community and learn something (please).

This post is not to make you angry, but to open your eyes as to how you appear to others.



kalikshama -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 6:58:22 AM)

I met lots of great guys on here but none of them shared my relationship goals, which included having a man all to myself, IOW, I wasn't interested in married guys.



FieryOpal -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 7:00:43 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: daddytrace

Thanks RedMagic, how do I increase my odds?

If you don't mind some input from the ladies, your target audience ultimately, I would like to touch upon the following:

1. The fact that you have included "Male-Dom Couples" in your Actively Seeking category might signal a red alert to a prospective femsub, in terms of possibly questioning your sexual gender orientation if she is strictly hetero and/or seeking an exclusive D/s relationship with you. (You do not specify whether you are straight. It doesn't help to also include "Submissive Trans.")

2. There really is no such thing as a "part-time sub/slave" unless she is only your piece on the side you want to behave like your slave. There is nothing part time about a D/s dynamic because the power exchange that takes place is not a partial commitment, not unless you are switching back and forth with one another in your D/s roles. The relationship dynamic itself, however, is not a slice taken out of the whole pie. I see that you mean this in terms of availability, but your prospective sub is not applying for a job. Item 3 below covers your limited availability, as well as your truck-driving profession, the combination of which provides limited accessibility.

You say you want a "long-term, regular" sub, so in essence you are asking for someone to commit herself to you, but you yourself cannot reciprocate to the same degree. You want your cake playing the part of a Master and eat it, too, without actually assuming the full responsibility this position requires.

3. You say in your profile that you have an open marriage with you vanilla wife and why you are seeking sexual relief elsewhere. While you may consider this to be an open marriage, it is not an open-ended marriage because the straying is one-sided, whether your wife chooses to look the other way or not. Don't expect a single female sub to be willing to go along with this kind of arrangement. Why should she become your BDSM mistress and limit her opportunities to a play partner who has no future to offer?



daddytrace -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 7:08:36 AM)

Chatte, thank you for your help, over the next day or two i will take your advise and rewrite my profile (originally it was done over a year ago)



Blonderfluff -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 7:15:51 AM)

I also looked at your profile. It looks like you are asking for the moon, and offering a slice of cheese.
Let me tell you what I got out of reading your profile. Keep in mind, I am an un partnered female sub. Other than being your age , and not younger, I'm pretty much your target audience.

1. You want Me to be dedicated to you, available for meals and sex whenever YOU have time.
2. I have to take care of myself 100% percent because you have a job that takes you out of state, a sick wife, and a son.
3 you want someone younger , in shape and attractive when you already have a family, are overweight and not in shape yourself.
4. You claim you want to train me to serve, and yet you have no experience with this in real life.
5. You are seeking women, men, couples and transgender. Not really all that discriminating.


So. Lemme sum up. You want the most treasured prize out there, and yet offer very little.

No IDEA why you are having a hard time finding it.

I only came here to post because you asked what you could do to increase your odds. In my opinion. Not a lot.



HipPoindexter -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 7:31:19 AM)

quote:

So. Lemme sum up. You want the most treasured prize out there, and yet offer very little.

No IDEA why you are having a hard time finding it.

I only came here to post because you asked what you could do to increase your odds. In my opinion. Not a lot.


What are you talking about? He's a self-taught guitarist AND grill master and all he's looking for is a gorgeous, much younger woman who will cater to his every whim, be cool with his open marriage, has a "genuine submissive" personality and won't mouth off or talk back to him. Seems totally reasonable.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 7:39:46 AM)

Your very welcome. I hope you take my suggestion and get out into the kink community.



Arturas -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 7:40:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: daddytrace

Just curious, how many masters found slaves on here?



Hello. Here is what I did.

I wrote her here. She gave me her number. I called her. I simply asked her out. I met her. I charmed her and she me. I held and kissed her that night. I took her out again and we walked and talked in the soft warm summer moonlight. Soon she was mine and she gladly wore my marks, my collar and now my ring.

Recognize this process? It might only work with the woman of your life, I don't know, but I do know luck and honest desire equals success.

You make both your luck and success here.



myotherself -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 10:10:58 AM)

I met Master on here. We communicated online for quite a while, talked about everything except the kinky and sexy stuff. We met, liked each other and dated. We gradually moved to D/s and then to M/s over a period of a couple of years.

Now we've been together nearly 4 years and will be moving in together. But before I met Master I met about 10 guys, none of whom had that 'spark' I was looking for. Or they were cheating on their partner.

Of the 10 or so guys I met, I must have talked to 50 or 60 online over the period of 4 or 5 years. Most of those never got to meet me because their online persona ultimately turned me off.




DarkSteven -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 4:28:19 PM)

While both Arturas and myo have success stories (and I do as well), I believe that online is not the most effective way. I've been involved in the local community and could probably start up relationships with three or four available or semi-available women if I was single. I'd advise going to munches and parties over online any day.



DesFIP -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 5:37:48 PM)

You say that it's an open marriage. But you're carefully looking for someone who doesn't live near you. So your wife isn't willing to meet her. Without that, without her knowing what your wife is and isn't okay with, from her own mouth, nobody will believe you.

You come across as looking for someone to cheat with. And you're not offering anything that would attract someone to do that. You want to stay for free in her home, have hot sex, and then go back to wifey. God forbid she's ill and needs to go to the hospital, you won't be there for her.



littlewonder -> RE: luck on here. (1/29/2014 6:06:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: daddytrace

Just curious, how many masters found slaves on here?


Master found me here over 8 years ago. I met quite a few other men before him from here and other bdsm sites online.

Instead of looking for someone here, why not pay attention to your wife and give her the love she probably deserves for putting up with you? You might find your marriage takes a turn for the better.



WorldsWorstMan -> RE: luck on here. (1/30/2014 3:06:10 PM)

Take your time man, and be honest about what you want, if it is cheating and to use some poor women then thats totaly all right, but it will take some time to find her. And the kind of woman who would put up with it will not be found on these message boards, probably not too often among the profiles either. So get ready to dig deep.

Have some fun with it though, dont let frusteration seep in.



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: luck on here. (1/30/2014 5:47:35 PM)

I met both of my masters on here- the first emailed me when I was still new...the second I chased down.mysllf[sm=evil.gif]nd one or two FWB type of things..this is my primary "hunting ground"[:D]



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