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MisterP61 -> RE: luck on here. (1/30/2014 6:45:53 PM)

Just to answer, even though I do not believe you will be back. I would not be looking here to find what I wanted. I would be doing this in My local community. Meeting people IRL is way better then on a computer screen. We have met some really great people across the country from this site, and We will meet many more before all is said and done. Any /s type is before anything else a human being, with feelings, wants, needs and everything else that goes with that.

My wife and I are poly, A DD couple, and any potential /s who is married would have to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt their SO is OK with what they are doing, and quite truthfully the reverse should also be true. As a male, who is married, this search will take a long time, and I haven't even started yet. I won't until I retire, and that is a self imposed thing due to the nature of My job. It will take a long time because most /s females are looking for more then I am willing to give (marriage, 100% of time (they don't want to share)etc). I am not leaving LadyPact for anyone. She is My wife, My soul mate, My best friend, My lover, the person whom I want to live My life with.

These types of relationships take a lot of time (well what relationship doesn't). They deserve honesty, respect, caring communication etc, etc, etc. In other words you have to work for it, invest in it. There is no submissive/slave tree where you can pick one when they are ripe and dance off into the sunset with them.

Very good advice on this thread, especially from those who would be your target audience. Work on your presentation of yourself, read some books on the subject (links at top of some threads), go to munches and learn from those who do have the experience. I wish you the best of luck.



daddytrace -> RE: luck on here. (1/30/2014 7:50:47 PM)

Thank you knotts.



windchymes -> RE: luck on here. (1/31/2014 6:58:25 AM)

I think there are plenty of slaves in here wanting to be "found" and many of them do get found. It's what happens after they're found that makes the difference. I liked Arturus's post because he described acting like decent human beings: asking, accepting, charming, being nice, spending quality time together, being open to taking the relationship to where most people want a permanent relationship to go and doing what they had to do to get to that place.

The problems lie with those, slaves and doms alike, who have trouble separating CollarMe/Planet Gor/Castle Realm fantasy from reality.



NuevaVida -> RE: luck on here. (1/31/2014 7:22:29 AM)

What wyndchimes said. I met him on the other side. We've been together nearly 5 years and just moved in together. I wrote our story in "Positive Experinces" just the other day.



smileforme50 -> RE: luck on here. (2/1/2014 6:16:45 AM)

I haven't found the Master I'm looking for yet.....but I have made lots of great friends and a few great FWB.

I think the key is to just be honest and be yourself. Pretending to be something you're not is just a waste of time for everyone all around. I don't come on here with the mindset of "I'm here to find a Master". I'm simply here to talk to different people from all over the world who have opinions and experiences that I have never imagined or considered, and learn something from what they say.

If I happen to get lucky and find someone who turns out to be extra special....then that's just going to be the icing on the cake.



Lynnxz -> RE: luck on here. (2/1/2014 6:28:59 AM)

I find that the other side isn't policed heavily enough. Combine that with the cumbersome search feature, and I never did have any real success. However, I found my s/o of 6 years through an erotic services ad on Craigslist, so I suppose I can't really fuss.



ResidentSadist -> RE: luck on here. (2/1/2014 6:40:47 AM)

It's not "luck", it's skill. You have already gotten some nice replies about making a good profile. Think of it as your brochure and give a sense of who you are, what you seek and what you offer. Make them want to join you in the fun, romance or whatever it is that you are 'selling'.

As far as success goes, I have found many partners on CM and made some real life local friends. Including my current slave wife.



Kana -> RE: luck on here. (2/1/2014 6:51:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: daddytrace

Just curious, how many masters found slaves on here?

Raises hand



Cdub2U -> RE: luck on here. (2/3/2014 11:30:03 AM)

I've been lucky enough to find two slaves on CM, both around the same time and we all ended up living together for several years. I will admit I was on here looking for nothing, I spent most of my time on the forums.



angelikaJ -> RE: luck on here. (2/3/2014 12:53:36 PM)

[My] Master found me here just over 5 years ago.
He cmailed me within a few days of joining and hadn't even written a profile yet.
He hooked me by wrting a compelling cmail that was not at all pushy and did not discuss kink but instead asked me interesting questions about my profile content.

I answered which led to more interesting questions.

The rest of the story is in my sig-line.

[:)]



MarcEsadrian -> RE: luck on here. (2/3/2014 3:36:41 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: daddytrace

Just curious, how many masters found slaves on here?

I found a few females on Collarme, back in the day when it wasn't overrun by "Nigerians" and porn marketers/gay men/trolls/sock puppets pretending to be hot chicks (or hot cam whores pretending to have interest in anything remotely resembling BDSM, much less master and slave).



SubvsSlave -> RE: luck on here. (2/3/2014 6:58:08 PM)

Master and I found each other via Collarme. [:)]



sunshinemiss -> RE: luck on here. (2/3/2014 7:00:39 PM)

I have found a lot of lovely people here... some of my closest friends, a couple of dates here and there, and quite a number of excellent conversationalists. If I weren't in Asia and had opportunity to meet some of the folks here on a more regular basis, I expect there might be a different answer... Everyone would run for the hills when I popped around! [:)]



MrRodgers -> RE: luck on here. (2/9/2014 1:46:01 PM)

I've 'found' dozens of slaves here...in profile. I have had several slaves in life and only two from the net yet reserve comment on this site. I've found slaves in life, two of which then came to this site. One now profiles as a switch that gets the badboys over and tops their horny asses when they get there.

No matter where one finds sub/slaves or whatever, all of life and its relationships...are a crap shoot. One hopes not to roll it.



RemoteUser -> RE: luck on here. (2/9/2014 6:53:13 PM)

Yes, twice.



MercTech -> RE: luck on here. (2/9/2014 9:45:35 PM)

My girl and I have been together over five years now.



sexyred1 -> RE: luck on here. (2/9/2014 10:09:10 PM)

I have met quite a few men on CM, and other sites, but none of them lit my fire. I had a few hot encounters though.

My real loves, boyfriends and ex husband, I met in vanilla ways and luckily, they were also into D/s or I taught them.

I do believe it takes luck to meet someone special who likes your kind of special.



Domnotlooking -> RE: luck on here. (2/11/2014 8:55:04 AM)

Back in the day, I met maybe half a dozen women on the internet. In retrospect, 2 could have been real partners, but other aspects of their life had me unduly freaked.

One was a switch women who'd been reaming some Mormon bishop with a giant candle for years and then wanted to transition to full-on sub. Man, woulda, coulda, shoulda.

You need a little game, tho. Your mono-question and lack of back and forth here is dampening no pussies, that's for sure.



Nineveh -> RE: luck on here. (2/11/2014 10:45:20 PM)


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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal



1. The fact that you have included "Male-Dom Couples" in your Actively Seeking category might signal a red alert to a prospective femsub, in terms of possibly questioning your sexual gender orientation if she is strictly hetero and/or seeking an exclusive D/s relationship with you. (You do not specify whether you are straight. It doesn't help to also include "Submissive Trans.")




um, if he is Old Guard isn't he pretty clearly open to sexual experiences with males? He'd have to have gone through a period of time as a boy to an older master after all. I think it's better to be open about that sort of thing than do anything to hide it from women.



FieryOpal -> RE: luck on here. (2/11/2014 11:35:26 PM)

You may deign to utilize your profile as an autobiographical resumé listing your sexual history to complete strangers, but "Actively Seeking" is present tense.

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ORIGINAL: Nineveh

quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

1. The fact that you have included "Male-Dom Couples" in your Actively Seeking category might signal a red alert to a prospective femsub, in terms of possibly questioning your sexual gender orientation if she is strictly hetero and/or seeking an exclusive D/s relationship with you. (You do not specify whether you are straight. It doesn't help to also include "Submissive Trans.")



um, if he is Old Guard isn't he pretty clearly open to sexual experiences with males? He'd have to have gone through a period of time as a boy to an older master after all. I think it's better to be open about that sort of thing than do anything to hide it from women.



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