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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 1/31/2014 2:42:57 PM   
Ravensnake


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Status: offline 		I only enjoy certain types of pain, one of which is that from wearing or being made to wear, a Tack bra. Love the endorphin rush as its pressed against me....

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 1/31/2014 5:47:03 PM   
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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 1/31/2014 6:47:40 PM   
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I get that way with nipple clamps. Its embarrassing. I just...ugh...my nipples are so sensitive it ends up with me be squirmy and distracted because they just hurt so damn much, and for me the intensity just keeps growing if he touches them at all I'm a screaming mess. Its something we've been working on...but I'm still on just these stupid nipple clamps he got off Adam and Eve as a joke...turns out...we haven't even been able to move onto the chained together serious ones.

Don't feel badly if it turns out that's just not your thing. I've only had two subs who could wear the male version. One enjoyed it, the kind with chains attached to a cock ring, and the other learned to tolerate them (but preferred my using wooden clothespins instead, which are not as pinchy but don't stay affixed nearly as long).

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 1/31/2014 11:06:05 PM   
slavekate80


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Status: offline 		I don't find pain to be unpleasant, as long as it's not severe and not related to illness. Migraines bother me - it's more the nausea than the pain that I don't like, but either way they suck. Being punched does not, and even accidental small burns feel okay after the first few seconds. Maybe it's the natural endorphin release, or the adrenaline rush.

There's a definite sense of mental aspect involved, too. I like it when a man feels comfortable enough around me to hurt me physically. He trusts that I'm tough enough, and he's using my body as a toy for his own pleasure, not fussing over whether it feels "good" to me or not and thus spoiling the fun. I hope that someday, if I'm ever in a long-term relationship, I'll be with someone who will help me stretch my limits little by little until they're far beyond where they are now.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/1/2014 7:10:22 AM   
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I prefer thuddy pain to stingy pain.]


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I really like that kind of "heavier", thuddy, hit.


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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/1/2014 7:35:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I love to be spanked, but not because of the pain. For me, it's not the pain of the spanking I enjoy, it's the "headspace" aspect of it. I love the way I feel mentally and emotionally when I'm bent over or lying across his lap. When it comes to spanking, the role pain has in the experience is that it amplifes the feeling of submission for me. There I am, feeling this growing pain on my bottom that I really don't like, and I want it to stop, but what is even stronger than that desire for it to stop, is that I am enjoying the emotional feeling of surrendering that control to him.

But other types of pain don't bring out the same feelings and responses for me.

It's the same thing with anal sex. I never orgasm from it, but I love it because of the mental/emotional response I get from it. It puts me in a very submissive headspace.
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Funny thing for me is that I have never felt that endorphin high "subspace. I think there were a couple of times where I may have come close or at least started to go into it, but it didn't last very long. I do know that I noticed how the paddling started out painful but at some point he got into a great rhythm and it felt almost like a massage. Unfortunately it only lasted for a couple of minutes.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/2/2014 2:19:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		The un-scientific answer is that pleasure and pain are opposite extremes of the same wave length. So, when experiencing pain (but more pleasure) the brain gets confused and treats it mostly as pleasure. So, most people experience super orgasms for example. But, and this is a BIG 'but' it is easy to fool the senses once, but over time the brain figures it out and it requires more pain to the point where you are addicted to pain for good pleasure, and more and more is required to the point that you are dependent on pain for pleasure.
You may try it yourself by giving your nipples a good twist before and during climax. You will find that before it hurts but during it does not or just a little, and may even make the climax better; but, the more you do it the less it works, and that is how pain sluts were born, my dear.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/2/2014 9:37:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am a pretty deep sensation slut, and I never, ever found that I needed pain to experience pleasure or that the amount of sensation play I did affected my ability to have 'normal' pleasure. While it is true that over time tolerance for sensation play increases, and that what you experience changes, I don't think it is like an addict needing more and more to get high necessarily, though I don't doubt some people get that way, but that is more about addiction response then response to pain play...

I actually don't like pain, pain is not what we do in scene, pain is stubbing your toe at 2am on something while going to the bathroom, or when my gall bladder went south, or when a tooth goes bad, that is pain, and I don't enjoy it (I did have the acquaintance of an interesting character who had a minor heart attack, and claimed the pain gave him an erection....)....the kind of sensation play I do/have done to me is not pain, I don't experience it that way, and I am glad I don't. As to the enjoyment, some of it is the thrill of it, it is the endorphins, it is about challenging myself, and also it is about what I return to my lady when she is doing it, seeing her enjoyment picking up my energy, and then returning it to me, makes it incredible.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/3/2014 7:31:31 AM   
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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/3/2014 11:42:45 PM   
SoulAlloy


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Status: offline 		Personally I've found two types of pain I enjoy, masochistic pain and submissive pain.

With masochistic pain the sensation spreads out from the inflicted area like a wave, I allow my body to feel that sensation and ride the wave along, it's an immensely pleasurable sensation. Combined with seeing the enjoyment in the top/dominant's eyes and expression it feels great to be giving that pleasure too.

Once I start to reach the limits of the masochistic pain it delves into submissive pain, enduring to please the dominant, accepting as much as I can, knowing I am theirs to do with as they please, feeling the control and helplessness.

Then there's the pain where I stub my toe, damn that hurts

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/4/2014 8:16:52 AM   
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I had to narrow it down to three different things:

1. Light amounts of pain / heavy pressure in erogenous zones. This is erotic.

2. More or less all pain that isn't in category 1. This is a power game and I get off on the power trip, but typically during it I'm not aroused and not enjoying it.

3. Endorphin high after heavy pain. Makes me feel floaty/loose-jointed/mellow. Not inherently sexual, more relaxing/narcotic. I can get this from hot sauce ( yay, habaneros! ) or a long hike, too.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/4/2014 5:19:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hate pain but Master is a sadist. I don't really get off from the pain...pain is just fucking pain to me. I get off knowing that I am suffering for his pleasure.


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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/5/2014 8:40:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I get off on experiencing a partner exploring her sadism. I get off on knowing that she wants to hurt me, and on seeing how she will do it.

Pain in and of itself does nothing for me, and I need to be restrained because I started earnestly fighting pretty quickly. Also, I'm a strong dude who keeps in shape so the bondage needs to be pretty tight and restrictive. This isn't being a brat--or not just being a brat--I'm really averse to excessive pain. Twice in my life I've broken cheap wooden chairs in seedy motels when I was tied down and saw nipple clamps come out to menace my already sore nipples.

I'm not good at taking pain, and I don't romanticize the notion of taking pain because someone wants to give it. It has to be as close to non-consensual as possible.

So to answer your question, it's a combination of getting off on the helplessness and the feeling that I really can't stop it and my fascination with experiencing a sadist explore her sadism.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/6/2014 2:53:37 PM   
laceyslave


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Status: offline 		I like to be able to prove I can take it, it makes me feel strong.
The quick intense biting pain that immediately begins to fade like from spankings or from the floggers etc. can be fun, but I don't think it's the pain, I think it's the entire lack of control.
Nothing is better than letting mistress take control and just having to be strong and do as I am told.
Nipple clamps drive me absolutely wild - but after a while if they are too tight the pain just becomes a distraction.
Pain during an anal play session can totally ruin it.
I would like to reiterate that it is not the pain that brings the pleasure, but probably the manner in which it is inflicted. the control that is being exercised and the submission that is being required.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/6/2014 3:49:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me it's the control they have over you and you cannot do anything about it. The look of pleasure on their face is amazing. Also the pain just makes you feel so submissive and under their control. This may be different for other but this is what I love about it

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/6/2014 4:20:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SoulAlloy

Then there's the pain where I stub my toe, damn that hurts


I call that 'unplanned pain'. No way to slide into the correct head space beforehand.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/8/2014 3:38:21 PM   
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Enjoy the sensation itself?
Enjoy the gift to your dom/master/other?
Enjoy the challenge of it?
Appreciate your lack of control when you experience pain you can't stop?
Anything else?

all of the above. it does not make any sense to someone who does not enjoy or desire the stimulation pain produces. the sensation produces a high that can not be discribed. the thought of pleasing you Domme adds so much to the event. the possibility that you are going past your limits into a new area excites me. the giving up control for no rational reason to please someone else makes you feel so controlled and free from your own dominance and power. as you get into more and more of the pain you feel like a drug addict needing more and more to remain at the high you feel, you need more and more of it until you ultimately crash. but you still do it over and over again

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/9/2014 9:43:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Pain and I are old friends.

As a sideshow performer it's just one of those things you first learn to endure to wow the audience. Then you learn what is good and what is bad.

Is the effect going right? No? Alright move the nail a half centimeter to the left. There we go, that feels good.

Once the good pain is identified I've then learned what stimulates it and how to enjoy it. This makes many actions very...arousing shall we say? But this causes problems for performing because I have to really concentrate and not get too excited (sigh).

Thus it's only natural that in a scene I can let that control go and allow the rush to kick in and enjoy myself.

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/10/2014 11:09:52 AM   
SoulAlloy


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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt


quote:

ORIGINAL: SoulAlloy

Then there's the pain where I stub my toe, damn that hurts


I call that 'unplanned pain'. No way to slide into the correct head space beforehand.



Hmmm... not sure, have been caught by spanks and crops off guard before and that's still nice lol

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RE: What do you enjoy about pain? - 2/10/2014 12:14:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like pain because I feel loved when its given to me. I love the obidence it takes to remain still and get it given to you over and over again.

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