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Kana -> RE: How would they know? (2/7/2014 3:21:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 I don't think I've seen someone's body described as a carapace before.[:D] Not the most appetising comparison and yet I'm hungry for lobster all of a sudden! Bah-You need to read more Eastern Mysticism. The body is a shell built to contain, protect and carry the mind, of course :-)

pg4g -> RE: How would they know? (2/7/2014 4:20:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Why wouldn't it set some folk free? Some people operate best in chaos. Others need structure. Some of those need accountability to. They function best within constraints and supervision/goal-setting. Kinda the same way some people find a freedom in subspace. They experience absolute freedom of mind while their physical carapace is utterly shackled. It doesn't have to be newbie talk smack. I've certainly known/met/owned girls who felt that way.. Hell, Mouse does.But don't believe me. Ask her I'm sure there are people who do feel set free like that. But is it fair for a dom/me to assume that is the case? I'd be kind of offended that a dom made such presumptions as to tell me how I do or will feel.

AlphaFemsRule -> RE: How would they know? (2/7/2014 4:56:35 PM)
quote: So....is that how you feel? Does your submission "set you free"? Not really, no. Granted, I don't have much experience with it. In many ways, I just get off on it, though there are certainly a lot more mental / emotional components if I'm with someone I love. But I can't say I've ever felt set free.

MisterP61 -> RE: How would they know? (2/7/2014 5:22:19 PM)
FR IMO, only the individual can honestly say. I know for Me I would never presume it, nor would I use it as a "pick-up" line. When I am topping someone, I do feel "free" in the sense that I can be Myself more so then in My professional life, though unlike some, I am in charge there and I like being in charge with a bottom, which is why I am not a bottom. [sm=banana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif]

littlewonder -> RE: How would they know? (2/7/2014 9:20:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Why wouldn't it set some folk free? Some people operate best in chaos. Others need structure. Some of those need accountability to. They function best within constraints and supervision/goal-setting. Kinda the same way some people find a freedom in subspace. They experience absolute freedom of mind while their physical carapace is utterly shackled. It doesn't have to be newbie talk smack. I've certainly known/met/owned girls who felt that way.. Hell, Mouse does.But don't believe me. Ask her Yes, I like that my life is set by standards, routines, supervision, etc...but I can't say it's something that gives me "freedom" so much as it's just how I've always been. It's my personality. I was this way when growing up. I was the one who organized our cabinets at home, made sure everything was in its right place, my bedroom was completely minimalistic and clean, etc...drove my mom nuts! [:D] Once again, I think it comes down to the way I grew up in a small town area on a farm and in a more religious household than most. It's just how it was where I grew up...traditional family atmosphere.

smileforme50 -> RE: How would they know? (2/8/2014 2:53:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pg4g quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Why wouldn't it set some folk free? Some people operate best in chaos. Others need structure. Some of those need accountability to. They function best within constraints and supervision/goal-setting. Kinda the same way some people find a freedom in subspace. They experience absolute freedom of mind while their physical carapace is utterly shackled. It doesn't have to be newbie talk smack. I've certainly known/met/owned girls who felt that way.. Hell, Mouse does.But don't believe me. Ask her I'm sure there are people who do feel set free like that. But is it fair for a dom/me to assume that is the case? I'd be kind of offended that a dom made such presumptions as to tell me how I do or will feel. EXACTLY pg4g!! .....that's my point! They assume that because they have heard it from a few other submissives....that EVERY submissive feels that way.

FrostedFlake -> RE: How would they know? (2/8/2014 11:58:12 PM)
It's nonsense. But, if it's what you want to hear...

windchymes -> RE: How would they know? (2/9/2014 9:40:29 AM)
There are so many catch-phrases in profile-land, both in here and on vanilla sites. I think a lot of people don't really know what to say, maybe they're just not prolific writers, so they read other profiles and take what they think works for them, sounds good, the little subbies will dig that, lol.

myotherself -> RE: How would they know? (2/9/2014 10:09:07 AM)
I heard the 'submission will set you free' bollocks a lot while I was looking. Usually I rolled my eyes and moved on to the next guy who seemed like he had his feet on the ground and not his head up his ass [:D] However, this discussion has made me think on it a little more. While I still consider it to be pretty much trite nonsense spouted by those who don't appear to have anything of substance to say, I could (at a stretch) use it to describe the 'myself in a relationship' vs the 'myself as a singleton'. The 'me' doesn't change - but the amount of 'me' that I share with my other half does change within a relationship. Slowly, very slowly, I learn to trust. I get to understand how the other person will react when they get to know the detail of me, not just the superficiality. How they will see me when they see me in my comfy clothes, watching junk tv. How they will see me when I start to share my feelings, my hopes and dreams. I do not trust lightly and I do not share easily. While I don't believe the 'submission will set you free' bull-hockey, I kinda understand the 'relationship will let you be more free to share the inner you' idea. edited for grammar

Darkhaven80 -> RE: How would they know? (2/10/2014 7:26:10 PM)
I've never felt it set me free or really thought about it. It's just something I enjoy and feels natural. It's exciting, calming. I'm not sure what it's supposed to set people free from, but I think it would depend on what they're wanting from the relationship or where they're coming from.

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