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What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 6:36:31 PM

DomN78015

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I cannot be the only one who is completely frustrated with some of the people on this site.
I can't speak to the forums as this is my first post, but the personals are filled with scams, fakes and people who are pretending to be something they are not.
Does anyone have any suggestions to find a real, honest, single and seriously looking sub/slave?
Let's be real, looks do matter to some extent.
Thanks in advance.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 6:49:49 PM

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~FRing it~

For me, it took a hella long time and patience to find the guy Im currently with (6 years before I finally hit pay dirt and found a great guy I care very much for and cares for me the same). No short cut that Ive found that leads to success unfortunately. All I can say is I know what you are going through and just keep trying.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 6:55:51 PM

MattUK2

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Hi
I'm new here, also, and I read the help section on how to report a scammer, like the one with no profile, but list herself from Los Angles, NY, and it said to use the report button under the profile - yet I see only a REPORT PHOTO button nothing about reporting an obvious scammer.

I accept that the mods are too busy to check each post but, isn't there a more effective way to report obvious fakes?

Like maybe once reported it's removed until verified? I've used the different search engines to check out a photo on other 'dating' sites and then sent them the info I found showing the profile is a fake. But there's nothing here to help control the fakes by helping the mods with the necessary info.

Thanks

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 7:03:00 PM

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I never understand what the issue is with moving past the obvious ones and just looking at the next profile.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 7:07:35 PM

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This site isn't any different than any of the other "dating" sites as far as the scammers and fake profiles go. Perhaps you should try getting out and meeting "real" people in the kink community near you.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 7:13:16 PM

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Hi there OP,

In defence of CM, the internet has always been crammed with people who exaggerate, pose, and pretend to be something they're not, and compared with other free sites I'm not sure that CM is all that bad.

But, yes, I guess it can be very frustrating initially, but after a while you develop a pretty good nose for genuine profiles.

I took the liberty of snooping your profile, and I reckon you have a really decent chance of finding someone awesome.

I'm sure I'm repeating stuff that you already know, but for the benefit of the less savvy/experienced;

If you're after a quick fuck from a hot hot young chick, then my best advice would be to contact a reputable escort agency.

If you're looking for an actual relationship, then it might make sense to only email people with profiles that explain a little about their non-kinky selves - the profiles that just talk about how they want to be shaved, enslaved and depraved are fairly likely to be fake, or (at best) are likely to reflect the fact that the person in question hasn't really thought all that much about what an actual relationship might require.

Be realistic about "looks". If you're unlikely to catch the eye of a lissome 19 y/old in a bar, then you're fooling yourself if you'll be able to do the same here. If looks are important to you, then don't feel too bad if you're rejected by other people because looks are important to them.

Be realistic about the "odds" - The super hot 19 y/old babe, who wants to be your slave/pet/slut/little girl is getting literally hundreds of emails a day. Now the vast majority of these will be coming from hopeless fuckwads that can't string a sentence together - But a fair number of them will be coming from smart, buff, articulate guys like you - So there's still a lot of competition.

Be patient... your soul-mate isn't going to jump into your lap within a few days.

Good luck!

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 7:13:44 PM

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CM was never magical. It has not ushered in golden years of prosperity, where subs could be harvested like fine fields of wheat; nor did the Dominants gather at empty flogging posts waiting for a submissive to come by for service.

For that matter, the people of CM are not magical, either. We are dented, twisted, sometimes bruised, distracted by bills, worried about children, cursing our jobs, and glad for the peace of sleep in warm beds. (If this generic description does not describe you, the reader, then perhaps, you are not generic.)

I could make an almost-magical list of things to avoid, or things to try, but sooner or later someone will read them to whom they do not apply, and the magic would be broken. So instead, I'll say this: you've already begun figuring out what you want by commenting on appearances. Keep expressing those wants. If someone dislikes them, well, they aren't for you. It will help weed out people, until you are able to find the one you want.

Until then, remember the axiom about what to do if, at first, you don't succeed.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 7:22:37 PM

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Unfortunately, as we have recently discovered (read the thread about what the FinDomme attraction is) some blogs and websites giving advice on making quick money, stealing profiles and photos...refer to Collarme by name and as a good place to search... Yeah, there is a lot of dirt to sift through before finding any gold.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 7:30:25 PM

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I did read that thread, I found the reference to CM a little disheartening but I have been on different sites for years and it is sad but pretty much the norm minus the financial aspect.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 8:05:26 PM

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quote:

yet I see only a REPORT PHOTO button nothing about reporting an obvious scammer.

You were looking at the full profile. Look to the upper left hand corner, click on "Back to List". That takes you to the page to "Report User". Click there and scroll down a bit. The report buttons are there.

Delta

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/8/2014 9:15:04 PM

TieMeInKnottss

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I have honestly always been confused by the "report user" function on the other side.
Like this morning I notice that the first 3 people have similar names but wildly varying locations.... Curious by nature, I clicked on each one and they have identically worded profiles.... one of whom has a photo that reversed to a list of about 7 other places..

Now the only "options" for reporting are "contact info contained", "reference to illegal activities", "scam" "vulgarity" and "criticizing other member"... So I go with the assumption that CM does not consider using pics that are not your own, posting pictures with other people in them, offering to sell dirty sox...(all violations of the terms of service) as "reportable"

Ok...I am sick in bed and bored and amusing myself here :-) but I figured I would see what people always complain about!

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 7:12:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomN78015

I cannot be the only one who is completely frustrated with some of the people on this site.
I can't speak to the forums as this is my first post, but the personals are filled with scams, fakes and people who are pretending to be something they are not.
Does anyone have any suggestions to find a real, honest, single and seriously looking sub/slave?
Let's be real, looks do matter to some extent.
Thanks in advance.

Yeah-be most excellent.
Shockingly, they'll actually contact you.
I gotta say though, IJMHE and all, but most sub types, they don't see being a whiny negative impatient beeeooootch as attractive.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 8:17:13 AM

DarkSteven

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Hi, OP. I took a look at your profile.

Your first paragraph basically says that you're stubborn. Not necessarily a bad quality, but not expressed succinctly.

Your second paragraph is confusing. You say that your father beat you and then says "LOL just kidding". That makes me confused what the point was. I'd simply say "I'm a Daddy Dom looking for a babygirl". And while you're at it, say what age range, etc., you're looking for.

The third paragraph sounds stalkerish.

I liked the fourth paragraph.

The fifth paragraph sounds whiny.

The sixth and seventh paragraphs say what you're looking for. But it also kinda dangles out your money as a lure. Do you want to do that?

May I ask why munches and the local community are hard limits?

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 9:02:19 AM

myotherself

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To be honest, I never gave the others on this site enough power to irritate, frustrate or upset me. I simply contacted those that were of interest to me, hid/blocked the ones that I found uninteresting/incompatible and chatted online with those who I enjoyed chatting with.

I met several very nice guys, but lack of chemistry meant they didn't last long. It took around 5 years of being on this site before Master contacted me and we started chatting.

I would say there are some scammers, some who will never meet despite saying they will, some who are married and are trying to sleaze their way into a bit of NSA nookie, and a lot who are just plain incompatible.

You will need patience and a sense of humour if you plan to do all your searching online.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 9:09:52 AM

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In a nutshell, OP, after reading your profile, it sounds like you want what MANY MANY other men in your age group want, so you've got a LOT of competition. You're going to have to do the work and it will probably take a lot of time. As someone else said, this isn't a magical site. The folks here are humans, just men and women in many shapes, sizes, colors, personalities, likes and dislikes. You have to find the one who you're compatible with who is compatible with you, and in spite of all the compatiblity, you have to "be" together well. Even compatibility isn't a guarantee. So......like everything else in life....hard work and a little luck. Hang in there.

And in 2014, unless this is your first time on the internet, there really shouldn't be any shock and amazement that there are fakes and scammers online. Really???

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 12:07:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: RemoteUser

CM was never magical. It has not ushered in golden years of prosperity, where subs could be harvested like fine fields of wheat; nor did the Dominants gather at empty flogging posts waiting for a submissive to come by for service.

For that matter, the people of CM are not magical, either. We are dented, twisted, sometimes bruised, distracted by bills, worried about children, cursing our jobs, and glad for the peace of sleep in warm beds. (If this generic description does not describe you, the reader, then perhaps, you are not generic.)

<snip>

I love this post!

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 12:09:36 PM

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There's fakes on this board?
OMG! Why has nobody said anything about that?

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 12:32:14 PM

ChatteParfaitt

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I scanned your profile and it comes across a bit condescending. Please don't call a potential sub 'little one' as most of us hate that. It's great you have a nice car and a nice house, but you dangle out that like the carrot in front of the donkey. Again, that's condescending *and* likely to attract the gold digger types.

You're 52 years old, and I'm wondering what age bracket you're looking for? You have a much better chance of finding someone closer to your own age bracket.

I agree that looks do matter, chemistry is essential. However, I'm guessing you think you have a shot at the hot 20 year olds b/c you drive a nice car. Stop that.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 12:46:20 PM

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I've met a few people on collarme in real life but boy, you have to sift shit before you get rewarded. Now I don't really bother. It's easier to go out and meet someone and introduce them to kink rather meet someone on the net. Living in a vibrant city helps though.

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RE: What has happened to CM? - 2/9/2014 1:07:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I scanned your profile and it comes across a bit condescending. Please don't call a potential sub 'little one' as most of us hate that. It's great you have a nice car and a nice house, but you dangle out that like the carrot in front of the donkey. Again, that's condescending *and* likely to attract the gold digger types.

You're 52 years old, and I'm wondering what age bracket you're looking for? You have a much better chance of finding someone closer to your own age bracket.

I agree that looks do matter, chemistry is essential. However, I'm guessing you think you have a shot at the hot 20 year olds b/c you drive a nice car. Stop that.

I second this.....
Especially "Please don't call a potential sub 'little one' as most of us hate that."

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