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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 3:41:39 PM

LadyConstanze

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Oh I am surprised that somebody can be so thick to not guess what he said ....

Thank you for agreeing with me. It is nothing more than a guess. Too bad so few (exception: AthenaSurrenders) have the intellectual integrity to present it that way.

Actually, I wasn't aware that I was agreeing with you. You could also have done the simple thing and LOOKED at his profile, or READ his post, it might have given you a fair idea (maybe more than a guess) what he was on about. Combined with triggering the spam filter and not a single reply, my dear Watson, that might lead to the conclusion that women just aren't all that interested in his generous offer, for a number of reasons some of us have outlined here.

You can blame it on the BDSM police all you want, it's simply that he was fishing in CMail and on the board and nobody was taking the bait. I doubt he's interested in what Dommes really want, he wants something, so you think telling him to pretend he's interested in some kind of service is going to be helpful or wouldn't that rather lead to disappointment on both sides?

You can tell him that it's indeed a service, but if nobody really wants that service, where's the point? Unless of course you decide that the service he offers is so great that you're willing to consider a sex change...

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 4:16:09 PM

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You shouldn't go around licking vaginas, anyway. They can be somewhat bristly and women pee out of them. Overall, they're rather unpleasant. For these reasons, personally, I don't hold with vaginas.

You should get a different fetish.

I hope that helps.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 6:16:53 PM

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What the f*ck more does he (or you) want, except to change the entire nature of women? Ain't gonna happen.

Or men!

Thank goodness! Huck's awesome; wouldn't want him to change a thing. Except maybe to clone himself so he doesn't have to drive so much.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 7:39:24 PM

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If it helps, the OP's message is his 2/9/14 journal entry (verbatim).

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 8:43:19 PM

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Thank you, thank you, thank you. After 50 Dommes come on here and tell him what exactly he said (in a note they never saw), you have the intellectual integrity to simply comment on what you know. Refreshing change. Though frankly, I'm surprised the other Dommes don't take you behind the cafeteria and beat you up.

You owe AthenaSurrenders an apology.

AthenaSurrenders: If I in any way offended you by PRAISING you, I sincerely apologize. If, on the other hand, you have any reading comprehension skills whatsoever, then you know that no apology is necessary.

My bad if I read more into your comment than I should have. I thought you were being sarcastic, flippant, or knew that she is a sub not a Domme (which is irrelevant to her highly welcome input, but not to your "Dommes ... beat you up" remark).

You'll find that a lot of what forum reply posters infer is based on loads of prior experience with these same topical questions. If OP did not want others to read his profile and/or JEs, then he should have hidden it before posting.

Thanks RedMagic1 for coaching males in the right direction to optimize their chances of success. You must have more patience than I do.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 9:29:41 PM

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Anyway, OP. Without seeing your message, I imagine they didn't reply because they felt like you were just looking for any old vagina to play with. Women like to be wanted for who they are, not because they're part of the 50% of the population equipped with a vulva.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. After 50 Dommes come on here and tell him what exactly he said (in a note they never saw), you have the intellectual integrity to simply comment on what you know. Refreshing change. Though frankly, I'm surprised the other Dommes don't take you behind the cafeteria and beat you up.

AS is a sub. She'd probably like it.

OP, it's not just that the act itself is kinda pedestrian. It's also that you're asking which Dommes like it, and the Dommes want the control to dictate what's gonna happen.

And...

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 10:23:24 PM

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To the Op....my goodness, at 53 years old you have just now figured out that men and women do not think the same way?

*oh, and*...about someone thinking the fifty(you might want to check your counting skills) dommes that answered the ops question (is it an uncommon fetish to want to lick pussy) Pffft. He asked a question, it was answered, and he seem to understand why. So I don't really think you should be judging us all so badly.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 12:40:04 AM

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Wow I inadvertently started an argument here.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders (emphasis mine)

Anyway, OP. Without seeing your message, I imagine they didn't reply because they felt like you were just looking for any old vagina to play with. Women like to be wanted for who they are, not because they're part of the 50% of the population equipped with a vulva.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. After 50 Dommes come on here and tell him what exactly he said (in a note they never saw), you have the intellectual integrity to simply comment on what you know. Refreshing change. Though frankly, I'm surprised the other Dommes don't take you behind the cafeteria and beat you up.

Thanks but alas, no, I've never had a beating from a single one of the dommes in this thread. Maybe they don't like the unsolicited erotica that I copy-paste to them all every couple of weeks.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 2:52:11 AM

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Praise the lord for the hide facility. Forget world peace, my greatest hope is that some day guys do realise that women only like a penis if we like the guy it's attached to.

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First of all, don't lead with your enjoyment of cunnilingus.

Sage advice from the person who leads with the doughy outline of someone's junk in our faces.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 6:59:25 AM

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OP, Dommes have replied to say your 'predilection' is as common as dirt, I will say that also amongst vanilla men, this is a common desire. I run into it all the time. Seems like men bring it up constantly, if they are kinky or not, as a marketing tool that ultimately falls flat. I have never spoken to a woman, or seen anything in print where women flock to avail themselves of being on the receiving end of anonymous oral sex. On the contrary, it usually provokes a strong reaction of "get the hell away from me."

I'm never quite sure why men seem to think this is such a wonderful selling point when it never seems to work. It's a ploy that smells of desperation and creepiness, to me. I was having a get-to-know-you conversation with someone (vanilla) online when apropos of nothing he started hinting that he was 'special'. After a bit more time he dropped the bomb that what he really wanted was to latch onto my pussy for 'hours at a time'. I couldn't get away from the keyboard fast enough as he protested 'but I'm like a thirsty camel in the desert!'. Bleah

Why would anyone think that would attract a woman? I don't want to be approached by a stranger with sexual conversation, and I honestly don't find oral sex, or whatever a stranger wants sexually for that matter, to be a selling point. Ever.

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux

FR:

If it helps, the OP's message is his 2/9/14 journal entry (verbatim).

Now that it's clear what is in the OP's messages, an offer for him to orally service strangers, it's obvious that no one seems to be receptive to wanting to satisfy the sexual desires of a stranger. Not surprising.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 7:25:51 AM

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I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that common with Mistresses, but, since I've only done what I enjoy a few times, I feel I must ask for Your advice.

My evil perversion is that I love to please a womane at the Y, at her pleasure, on her schedule, while she nonchalantly goes about her business.

To be honest, she doesn't have to be a Domme, although that adds an element of interest. She just needs to want a good pussy licking, and that's it.

What I get out of the deal is the delicious squirming wetness and the erotically focused pleasing, which has both the sensual aspect and the obedient service aspects.

But, I've approached a few Dommes here (too many, I fear, as I was locked out of email, I don't know for how long), and none even replied. (I don't blame them - I just ask why.)

What is wrong with my approach, bearing in mind it IS what I wish - and not necessarily what a Domme wishes for me.

What is wrong with your approach is you don't seem to know your target audience.

bearing in mind it IS what I wish - and not necessarily what a Domme wishes for me.

You want a Domme to satisfy your fetish.
So how exactly is that you exhibiting submissiveness?
It sounds like you are a one-trick pony who is looking for a fetish delivery system.
That is not my definition of submission.
(I am on the s-side of the kneel.)
There is nothing wrong with what you want but you need to understand that it is nothing all that special either.
And it will require much more work than sending out copy and paste messages.

It has probably been covered but just in case you missed how you managed to trip the spam filter:
Why am I temporarily blocked from sending messages by the spam filter?
Our spam filter monitors the onsite messages you send to other users and will be activated if it determines that you're sending out a large number of generic messages. To prevent the filter from activating we recommend that you take the time to read the profiles of the other users on the site and send a personalized message to those that interest you. This is also a great way to get good responses back.
http://www.collarme.com/personals/help.htm#16

And lest you think what you want is low risk: what if she has HPV?
Michael Douglas had Stage 4 cancer of the tongue (from HPV acquired via oral sex).

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 7:32:42 AM

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I couldn't get away from the keyboard fast enough as he protested 'but I'm like a thirsty camel in the desert!'.

This mental image cracked me up. I pictured a camel with parched lips diving toward your... oasis... while you waved the mouse around frantically, shouting, "Block button, block button, where's the fucking block button." And fade to black.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 8:29:40 AM

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I'm down!

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Thanks but alas, no, I've never had a beating from a single one of the dommes in this thread.

We can fix that.

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I couldn't get away from the keyboard fast enough as he protested 'but I'm like a thirsty camel in the desert!'

That totally made me think of this:

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 8:30:04 AM

LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel
I couldn't get away from the keyboard fast enough as he protested 'but I'm like a thirsty camel in the desert!'.

This mental image cracked me up. I pictured a camel with parched lips diving toward your... oasis... while you waved the mouse around frantically, shouting, "Block button, block button, where's the fucking block button." And fade to black.

I have a scientific explanation, it's not gay marriage that causes draughts, it's the magic ability of camels ;)

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 11:09:01 AM

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What is wrong with your approach is you don't seem to know your target audience.

I think that has been demonstrated loud and clear!
I'm rethinking this whole thing as we speak.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 3:19:40 PM

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I'm never quite sure why men seem to think this is such a wonderful selling point when it never seems to work. It's a ploy that smells of desperation and creepiness, to me.... After a bit more time he dropped the bomb that what he really wanted was to latch onto my pussy for 'hours at a time'.... I don't want to be approached by a stranger with sexual conversation, and I honestly don't find oral sex, or whatever a stranger wants sexually for that matter, to be a selling point. Ever.

Lordy, had one of those convos a few days ago. Vanilla dude finally spits out what his *special* "kink" is--muff diving. Pause. Waited for the rest of the sentence. Not the tagging-along/ignore bit (which I always hear about with a toilet fetish thrown in), not face-sitting/Queening while tied down to the bed, not ass worship rimming. Hell no, didn't qualify as any kind of kink except in his own mind.
Hey, I'd like to have a nice, stiff one at my disposal - attached to a sub I'm in a D/s relationship with - but I would hardly (no pun intended) classify that as being a cock fetish.

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< Message edited by FieryOpal -- 2/11/2014 3:20:18 PM >

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 3:24:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: PutMeAnywhere

I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that common with Mistresses, but, since I've only done what I enjoy a few times, I feel I must ask for Your advice.

My evil perversion is that I love to please a womane at the Y, at her pleasure, on her schedule, while she nonchalantly goes about her business.

To be honest, she doesn't have to be a Domme, although that adds an element of interest. She just needs to want a good pussy licking, and that's it.

What I get out of the deal is the delicious squirming wetness and the erotically focused pleasing, which has both the sensual aspect and the obedient service aspects.

But, I've approached a few Dommes here (too many, I fear, as I was locked out of email, I don't know for how long), and none even replied. (I don't blame them - I just ask why.)

What is wrong with my approach, bearing in mind it IS what I wish - and not necessarily what a Domme wishes for me.

Actually it is the norm with the Mistresses I know personally. They expect it, and they expect you to be good at it.
What else do you have to offer? I can offer delicious meals for their gatherings and car repairs and all around awesome conversation.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 3:37:48 PM

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Gawd, if women would make such a song and dance out of fellatio as men do about muff diving, most guys would never ever get head. Acting like it's such a super special thing and we should be grateful for it and bowed over that a guy dares to go there (and it's not Startrek, where you can claim "to boldly go where no man has gone before", it's pretty much what people do), it only shows that some guys are seriously out of touch. What's next? Will we be tormented by missiles that we're allowed to dominate a guy and he doesn't even expect us to walk the required 3 steps behind him?

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 3:44:01 PM

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In fairness to the OP, LadyC, your idea of a 'mild kink' is something for which people are rightly banged up in Broadmoor for the rest of their natural lives.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/11/2014 3:45:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: PutMeAnywhere
I think that has been demonstrated loud and clear!
I'm rethinking this whole thing as we speak.

Ummmm.... Am I missing something here???

How can someone of your age be sooooo naive about something which is *ahem* prevalent amongst the average 12 year old schoolboy?
Myself and all my mates and just about everyone I ever spoke to in my school (and others) were thinking and dreaming about this sort of stuff when we stole a sneak look at our dads' wank mags or found them thrown out or serupticiously sneaked a glimpse of a girl in the Amateur Photographer mags (in fact, anything on the shelf of the newsagents that wasn't shrink-wrapped and within reach).

It's pure juvenile porn. Nothing else.

Its quite simple.
Treat people, especially women, as people first and foremost.
There are very few that are nothing more than a fetish delivery system.
Heck, your "fetish" is sooo common, I wouldn't even class it as a fetish any more.

Jeeez.... where the fuck have you been living all your life??

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