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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/11/2014 10:01:58 AM

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He loves my tears. We haven't been together all that long, and haven't played expressly to elicit tears, but when I needed a cathartic cry, we used that in a scene. He absolutely enjoyed it, though I'm not sure what specifically it was about it that he enjoyed. It didn't do anything for me sexually (though it was sort of tied in with purging some negative emotions, so there wasn't a sexual energy to begin with), but the peace afterwards, curled in his lap, was priceless.

It was the only time I've played with tears. In the past, with other partners, tears meant something was wrong, and things were stopped to addresss that.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/11/2014 7:05:31 PM

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I agree with some of you on this. Tears during scenes can be an emotional experience that can help with bonding, but it mainly depends on who you are with, what type of person they are at there core, what type of dynamic you have with that person, many factors.
For me personally I rarely get any type of sexual excitement out of tears, except maybe just one or two while they are fighting them back.
Unless they are needing a cathartic cry I only cause tears during punishments and even then it has to be a serious rule broken.
I also have a strict rule that I do not break my toys.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/11/2014 7:15:36 PM

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In my case then you would have to beat me until I was unconscious to make the crying stop. When the tears start, I can't just switch them off no matter how much I was threatened with further pain. It's like an emotional dam burst - they go until they're all done, and it certainly wouldn't be disobedience or attitude that made me continue.

Same here. They don't stop until they are good and ready to stop. I can't just shut them off like a faucet. I don't know anyone who can do that unless they are fake tears.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/11/2014 10:32:33 PM

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Yes, very much so. I enjoy licking them away as well. I find them exciting, arousing, and they inspire a sort of tender feeling, that lets me feel a strong emotional connection.

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As a logical next step to the "enjoy inflicting pain" question.....Do you enjoy seeing your sub/slave cry as a result of pain you have inflicted on her? Do you find her tears to be exciting....arousing.....or do they elicit some other reaction?

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/15/2014 9:32:39 AM

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After reading about the whole cathartic thing on the internet, my wife asked me to spank her to tears.

2 hours+, we gave up and went out to a nice Mexican restaurant where they do the guacamole table side.

It just wasn't in her. She's miraculously 100% shame free and and extremely emotionally uncomplicated. She likes the simple endorphin rush of a stinging ass and it goes no deeper than that.

In the past and with other partners, I have enjoyed the transference that comes from really pushing a partner's limits.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/15/2014 9:17:19 PM

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Or it could be it just didn't hurt enough.

Believe me, if you dealt with Master and didn't cry when his sadistic ass was done with you, I'd say your heart is as cold as stone.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/16/2014 11:07:37 AM

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Or it could be it just didn't hurt enough.

Believe me, if you dealt with Master and didn't cry when his sadistic ass was done with you, I'd say your heart is as cold as stone.

Yeah....that's kind of what I'm afraid of.....

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/16/2014 12:30:28 PM

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I have shed tears of joy and happiness but I can't shed a tear in pain. Yes, I do know what pain is, even the excruciating kind. I have been shot, stabbed, had a pitchfork put through my foot and have been punched so hard as to fracture many bones to include my neck. When I first realized I had sadistic tendencies, I bottomed for a man that I trusted so that I could learn and understand the complexities, needless to say, he lost his temper when he couldn't produce a tear. Now, I am very in tune and continue to learn and improve everyday and am fascinated when I can bring someone to tears, it is as much a growing experience and release for me as it is for them.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/16/2014 2:40:11 PM

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I can't believe I didn't see this before...
Hell yea! I enjoy seeing the tears.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/17/2014 2:16:42 PM

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Depends on the chica.
Some gals-Oh Hell fucking yes.
Others not so much.

Many many years ago, when I was just an egg, I played with this gal one weekend.
Friday night was rough sex, terrific low jobs, a bit of bondage, slap and spank.
Saturday was extended restraint, hours in sensory deprivation,repeated violation with objects and treating her like an it.
Sunday was gonna be hard play now that we had a feel for each other.
Got things going, bound her up, did some nice caning when I noticed the vibe was all off, things weren't grooving right.
I was still young and dumb enough that I checked once or twice, then charged ahead
(Cuz fools rush in where angels fear to tread)
Halfway through the next series of lashes she just lost it,fell to pieces as the facade cracked and the tears flew, deep shuddering fucking sobs too. As mentioned, I was headstrong, but not that much. I shut down everything, brought the scene to an instant halt, did the required after caring pulling her back up, helping make sure the pieces went back together correctly.
A few hours later we were having lunch, discussing what happened.
At the time I was still young enough I was kinda hesitant in assuming control, taking the leash hard like it was mine to do with as I desired. So I was kinda rattled. In the midst of the breakdown, she said something that's always stuck, that changed the way. She said, "I have to cry to break through the wall. For me, the tears are the letting go. After that I can fly free."
She couldn't break out of selfdom alone. She needed to be pushed, hell, thrust through.
Once there she found the peace she craved/needed, but the journey there, yeah, that wasn't a smooth ride.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 2/19/2014 7:48:40 AM

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i have nothing to add other than that i love this thread. really makes me feel less weird. thank you all.

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RE: Are you Dacryphiliac? - 3/4/2014 10:28:23 AM

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Oddly enough I never felt "weird" for my kinks... I embraced my madness lol, And yes I adore when my girl cries.

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