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jlf1961 -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 3:40:06 AM)
Ladies, my statement about the bank account was made in reference to the trend in many young women today about the overwhelming desire for material proof of love over the other traditional, and in my opinion, more substantial proofs of caring and affection someone may have. "He went to Jared" and other jewelry store commercials that flood the airwaves at this time of year is my evidence to this tendency. The gift of a single rose has lost its meaning in the modern world, quality replaced by quantity. A young man I know is a very skilled artist and craftsman. For valentines day last year, he made created a intricately carved headboard and foot board for a king sized bed as a present for his wife. This was the finishing piece to the work he was doing to renovate a 130 year old house he and his wife bought. Her response was "I would have preferred a diamond." Needless to say, they are presently going through a divorce.

theshytype -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 4:01:59 AM)
Then he found the wrong woman. There have always been people like that, where material possessions are important. I know women, young and old, who would have LOVED his gift. Most women I know appreciate a man's time, thought, and effort.

kalikshama -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 6:30:02 AM)
I've rarely made less than my significant other, and often made and contribute more financially.

MisterP61 -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 6:43:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theshytype Then he found the wrong woman. There have always been people like that, where material possessions are important. I know women, young and old, who would have LOVED his gift. Most women I know appreciate a man's time, thought, and effort. Hell, I would have loved his gift, but I also used to be a woodworker and can appreciate craftsmanship. LP will tell you if We need a new piece of furniture, I almost always go to the real wood and not the laminates if I can. I am also grateful that She is not a $$ seeker. I would definitely be alone. I will never be a millionaire (sometimes I struggle to just be a hundredaire [&:]), it is not like the Army pays a lot. I don't always see it (own worse critic and shit), but She always tells Me I am a good man <shrugs>. I have My weaknesses (I can hear the collective "NOOOOOO say it ain't so" from everyone [8D]), and I have My strengths. I do the best I can to keep Her happy as She does for Me.

FelineRanger -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 7:53:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jlf1961 Ladies, my statement about the bank account was made in reference to the trend in many young women today about the overwhelming desire for material proof of love over the other traditional, and in my opinion, more substantial proofs of caring and affection someone may have. "He went to Jared" and other jewelry store commercials that flood the airwaves at this time of year is my evidence to this tendency. The gift of a single rose has lost its meaning in the modern world, quality replaced by quantity. A young man I know is a very skilled artist and craftsman. For valentines day last year, he made created a intricately carved headboard and foot board for a king sized bed as a present for his wife. This was the finishing piece to the work he was doing to renovate a 130 year old house he and his wife bought. Her response was "I would have preferred a diamond." Needless to say, they are presently going through a divorce. It's not a new trend or something unique to young women. Even among women in my mid-40s age group (Side note, how the hell did I get to be 44?!), the size of the wallet is more important than the size of the heart or the effort. I've encountered that attitude throughout my life, regardless of what age I was or the women were. It is heartening to see that there really are women who care about the man and not the bank account.

theshytype -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 9:10:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 Hell, I would have loved his gift, but I also used to be a woodworker and can appreciate craftsmanship. LP will tell you if We need a new piece of furniture, I almost always go to the real wood and not the laminates if I can. I am also grateful that She is not a $$ seeker. I would definitely be alone. I will never be a millionaire (sometimes I struggle to just be a hundredaire [&:]), it is not like the Army pays a lot. I don't always see it (own worse critic and shit), but She always tells Me I am a good man <shrugs>. I have My weaknesses (I can hear the collective "NOOOOOO say it ain't so" from everyone [8D]), and I have My strengths. I do the best I can to keep Her happy as She does for Me. <gasp> you have weaknesses? You found the right woman. (My gawd, I sound like the knight in Indiana Jones where he had to choose the right chalice). We are out there. It never bothered me, not once, during our first several years of marriage when we struggled. I had a stable job and was the bread winner. He wasn't so lucky. He couldn't buy me the things he wanted and I was more than okay with that. Sometimes, he did struggle with it. We made it through the rough times and we did it together. He wasn't rich when I met him and didn't expect it to change. We're still not rich and I'm still okay with that. Money and diamonds do not have arms to wrap around me. They don't have a voice to carry on conversations with. Their value carry no value with me. Sometimes, my husband will take me shopping and I love it. It took me some getting used to. I felt guilty. I don't do well being showered with attention or gifts. I've learned to get over the guilt, as he had when we struggled. I know it's something he enjoys because he wasn't able to do it before. And, he hates shopping. The fact that he suffers through the shopping to spend time with me is what I love. Again, it's the time, thought and effort.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 11:09:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 I never worry about that. I am Me and that's all I ever will be. I am taking Her out shopping (got the day off thanks to presidents day) in Fairbanks, and a nice dinner. Not sure if She will do a movie, but We will see. I'm thunkin this is more her style :) The sacrificial feast followed, after which the Luperci cut thongs from the skins of the animals, which were called februa, dressed themselves in the skins of the sacrificed goats, in imitation of Lupercus, and ran round the walls of the old Palatine city, the line of which was marked with stones, with the thongs in their hands in two bands, striking the people who crowded near. Girls and young women would line up on their route to receive lashes from these whips. This was supposed to ensure fertility, prevent sterility in women and ease the pains of childbirth. More Here

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 3:21:45 PM)
Yeeesh, if 0s and high bank account balances counted, we'd both be outta luck. Truth be told, the filthy lucre never did mean all that much to me. I've always been happy with food on my table, a roof over my head head and gas in my car. With a little left over. I'm not with MM for money either. We have separate accounts, but it gets intermingled. Seeing as I'm low maintenance, flashy jewelry and the ilk aren't high on my list. I like the odd stuff that's inexpensive. His best gift so far was coming home with 5 roses out of the blue knowing I had never been given any at all. I cried like a baby.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 4:30:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jlf1961 You blow a ton of money on gifts, flowers, romantic dinner only to hear what her friend's husband/boyfriend did that makes you look like a two ton jerk under a pile of shit. Or worse....her husband! I just hate that!

MisterP61 -> RE: Three more days until (2/13/2014 5:55:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 I never worry about that. I am Me and that's all I ever will be. I am taking Her out shopping (got the day off thanks to presidents day) in Fairbanks, and a nice dinner. Not sure if She will do a movie, but We will see. I'm thunkin this is more her style :) The sacrificial feast followed, after which the Luperci cut thongs from the skins of the animals, which were called februa, dressed themselves in the skins of the sacrificed goats, in imitation of Lupercus, and ran round the walls of the old Palatine city, the line of which was marked with stones, with the thongs in their hands in two bands, striking the people who crowded near. Girls and young women would line up on their route to receive lashes from these whips. This was supposed to ensure fertility, prevent sterility in women and ease the pains of childbirth. More Here Well yeah. I hate shopping, but I will because I love Her. I am the type of shopper who walks in the store, grabs what I needed, pays, and leaves. We are making a day of it, and Her happiness is what matters. Not to mention I also get to spend a Friday with her, that happens to be V day. Rare occurrence in Army life.

LadyPact -> RE: Three more days until (2/14/2014 10:32:36 AM)
Yeah, he asked Me to drop by this one. Never been a money person. Do I like nice things that money can buy? Sure. Who doesn't want to have everything they need and maybe some of their wants, too? Still, I also know what it's like to be broke and get by just fine. It is nice that he's got the day off. That doesn't happen often for Valentine's Day. I was actually quite happy with My single red rose and a card that had a nice sentiment. (There really is a florist in this town.) Yes, we will be in the city today to do a little shopping, get My nails fixed, and dinner out. I was actually rather impressed that MP is willing to change the Valentine's Day rule so that we can stop in and check up on tk, since he is so sick. I have to say, that last part is pretty nice.

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