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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/8/2014 6:09:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrPBK

My apologies for not replying sooner.

I think some of my concerns are just surfacing in the more recent posts on this thread. I think it is safe to say that being that we're in different parts of the world we might forget our different perspectives of social and cultural differences. At the same time we might also lose something in not being able to meet fact to face and find out further of each other. These are dynamics that sometimes establish 'real' vrs 'fake'.

Yes there are some out there that 'scream' is this really legitimate when you might look at a profile or even a composite of a conversation. But to declare someone a fake without knowing them, I think is concerning -- and that was the point of my initial post. Bomb messaging someone they are fake and then immediately blocking them is suggesting something about the sender (personal opinion).

To summarize where I am at: This thread has pulled out some points I will need to consider -- they were NOT the points of my original concern. I will address those points in my own way to assure my self they are done evenhandedly and consistently to everyone. I thank you all for your input and thoughts. I can not speak for anyone else here but as far as I am concerned CollarMe moderators may lock this thread since it has done its job.

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That point was not at all clear in your initial post.
That isn't how I read your post.

And yes, it does reflect on the sender when they behave like that.


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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/8/2014 8:05:05 PM   
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it never hurts for an OP acknowledge a thread has done it's job. In the longer run it shows others that I try to take responsibility for what I begin.

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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/9/2014 12:47:44 AM   
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.....Bomb messaging someone they are fake and then immediately blocking them is suggesting something about the sender (personal opinion)....



I couldn't agree more.


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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/9/2014 8:56:41 AM   
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Maybe you should look at your disabilities besides the obvious one that you blaming your lot of life on. 22 years with the same results.... Is not about your obvious condition.

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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/9/2014 10:18:40 AM   
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Maybe you should look at your disabilities besides the obvious one that you blaming your lot of life on. 22 years with the same results.... Is not about your obvious condition.


Trying to politely hold my ground.

I believe that your confusing the concept of what a disability is versus a person's own opinion. My OPINION is that calling someone fake when they have not met them is rude. My OPINION is that I must face my disabilities head on and deal with them with respect and dignity. My OPINION (from a previous post in this thread) was that I had gained what i need to learn, and i felt this discussion can come to an end.

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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/20/2014 10:12:33 PM   
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"real" ?

I suppose you'd have to have an audience.... or... you could just start being "real." Bully to anything else people think other than the people you are DIRECTLY interacting with.


that or just go out to like gatherings and munches and stuff... I wouldnt know... I don't like people enough to go to those.

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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/21/2014 10:49:43 AM   
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My frist experince in being a sub was with a guy who has Rheumatoid Arthritis. He has had the same slave for 10 years. He met her at a munch. And yes everyone does consider him a real Master even if he can't walk some days. I don't know a lot of people in the comunity but I know he has a lot of respect. I don't want to be rude but I bealive you don't have the right attitude about things.

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RE: What does it take to be considered REAL in the BDSM... - 3/21/2014 10:58:23 AM   
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Wow.

Deja vu.

Had to look at the date of the op.

or maybe my deja vu is senile.

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