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smileforme50 -> Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 8:41:16 AM)
Is it just me or does it seem like whenever I connect with someone I REALLY like here on CM, either.... ....they're not nearly as interested in me ....they are married and just looking to hook-up, so as much as I might like them, I'm not taking the bait.. ....they have job or other family commitments ("I have to care for my ailing mother") and don't have time for any relatiionship ....they live too far away for anything realistic to happen But if I'm not interested, they are all over me like white on rice? When I first started exploring all of this a mere four years ago, I found a Dom that seemed pretty decent (naivety....sigh). Well, things REALLY didn't work out (to put it mildly) and it was because of that experience that I decided to not look for a Dom or Master, but to just spend some time exploring, playing and having some fun. Along the way I have met some men that have really struck the right chord with me. One of them I met back in August....but travels for his job so he "doesn't have time right now" But....which one do you think I just got a phone call from??? He remembered it was my birthday this week....

sunshinemiss -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 10:06:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: smileforme50 Is it just me or does it seem like whenever I connect with someone I REALLY like here on CM, either.... ....they live too far away for anything realistic to happen Welcome to my world.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 10:23:03 AM)
My profile says willing to relocate... But it is quid pro quo. I'll come to visit, even an extended stay, but if the connection is what I'm after, the other shoe drops and you're coming home with me. Jus sayin Exiled

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 10:38:53 AM)
My favorites on CM also live far away. I often wonder if that is me, subconsciously being attracted to people who can't impinge too much on my life. I wonder but don't know the answer!

anniezz338 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 10:45:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2 My favorites on CM also live far away. I often wonder if that is me, subconsciously being attracted to people who can't impinge too much on my life. I wonder but don't know the answer! I wonder about this sometimes too. Am I just noncommital or unlucky?

smileforme50 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 11:07:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2 My favorites on CM also live far away. I often wonder if that is me, subconsciously being attracted to people who can't impinge too much on my life. I wonder but don't know the answer! That's a very good question .....I hadn't thought of it that way. But even with that......what is it with the ones who keep coming back like boomerangs....even after they should KNOW it's not going to work?

TNDommeK -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 11:59:29 AM)
That's the jelly side down thing. Now become unavailable and watch all the perfect ones come out of the wood works.

FinSubCA -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 12:05:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: smileforme50 Is it just me or does it seem like whenever I connect with someone I REALLY like here on CM, either.... ....they're not nearly as interested in me ....they are married and just looking to hook-up, so as much as I might like them, I'm not taking the bait.. ....they have job or other family commitments ("I have to care for my ailing mother") and don't have time for any relatiionship ....they live too far away for anything realistic to happen But if I'm not interested, they are all over me like white on rice? When I first started exploring all of this a mere four years ago, I found a Dom that seemed pretty decent (naivety....sigh). Well, things REALLY didn't work out (to put it mildly) and it was because of that experience that I decided to not look for a Dom or Master, but to just spend some time exploring, playing and having some fun. Along the way I have met some men that have really struck the right chord with me. One of them I met back in August....but travels for his job so he "doesn't have time right now" But....which one do you think I just got a phone call from??? He remembered it was my birthday this week.... I've heard almost every woman and man complain about this on dating sites. However, I know people who aren't that picky and are "relationship prone." They would rather be in a relationship than single and they aren't that picky. So it's easy for them to find someone.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 12:18:26 PM)
FR It's called Murphy's law

CreativeDominant -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 12:20:48 PM)
It's difficult to say...I was involved with a submissive from this site for a few years & in the end, distance played a major factor. You'd think that you'd be contacted by submissives/dominants from your area or close but so many that I am friends with on here...Dominant and submissive...live a long ways away from me. The one exception to that is the lovely Rawni, who I met when she was living in Colorado. Of course, with us both being dominants and her just...NOT...seeing that she should have given it up to be submissive to me ([;)][;)] to her), there was no where BUT being friends that we were going to go. Luckily for me, most of my 43 years since I started dating have been spent in long-term relationships so at this point in my life, I can sit back and honestly say...as I did a couple of weeks ago on the compromise thread in a differing form...if it happens, it happens and if it does not, it does not. I would rather be alone and happy because someone else's version of compromise is not mine than be with someone and miserable because the compromise is all mine.

jlf1961 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 4:13:55 PM)
Edited to remove cynical, pessimistic statement concerning soulmates, finding "the one" and the higher probability of being hit by an asteroid, train, truck and bus at the exact same moment.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 4:18:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: smileforme50 Is it just me or does it seem like whenever I connect with someone I REALLY like here on CM, either.... ....they're not nearly as interested in me ....they are married and just looking to hook-up, so as much as I might like them, I'm not taking the bait.. ....they have job or other family commitments ("I have to care for my ailing mother") and don't have time for any relatiionship ....they live too far away for anything realistic to happen But if I'm not interested, they are all over me like white on rice? When I first started exploring all of this a mere four years ago, I found a Dom that seemed pretty decent (naivety....sigh). Well, things REALLY didn't work out (to put it mildly) and it was because of that experience that I decided to not look for a Dom or Master, but to just spend some time exploring, playing and having some fun. Along the way I have met some men that have really struck the right chord with me. One of them I met back in August....but travels for his job so he "doesn't have time right now" But....which one do you think I just got a phone call from??? He remembered it was my birthday this week.... Well, I guess I'm one of the few success stories here.... I met a chic last week from Lithuania. HAWWWWWWT. She's moving in with me as soon as I can cover the $2,600.00 passport fee's, $1,900.00 airfare and of course, she wants to look good for me so (bless her heart)....$3,175.00 in clothing, lingerie and 5 inch heels.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 4:19:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK That's the jelly side down thing. Now become unavailable and watch all the perfect ones come out of the wood works. Yeah but, that's kind of beside the point....the SeaHawks won.

ShaharThorne -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 4:23:17 PM)
Sorry, got a leak under the trailer that I got to fix tomorrow...I blame you...

asanaambitions -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 4:31:19 PM)
Nah, it's not just you. Even when I do find people who are local and seem interesting they're the ones who either don't show up to the coffee meet or who stop texting me after date # 2 because I didn't dominate them in the parking lot after dinner. Sometimes I catch myself having the "well, I could try non-local people again" thoughts but then I remember that it's pretty much just guys who want their kinky fun on cam before going back to their regular lives and they have no intention of trying to make me feel happy, special and wanted. I wish I had advice or encouraging words, but at this point I've pretty much just given up searching. Either someone will show up in my life or I'll end up by myself on an acreage somewhere surrounded by animals.

smileforme50 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 6:14:22 PM)
I've spent enough time "alone" so that I can be happy with or without. I've actually been very lucky when it comes to the people I have met in person.....I've never been stood up (yet!) But I'm just laughing at this "blast from my past" that STILL has my phone number....<sigh>

FinSubCA -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 6:57:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: asanaambitions Nah, it's not just you. Even when I do find people who are local and seem interesting they're the ones who either don't show up to the coffee meet or who stop texting me after date # 2 because I didn't dominate them in the parking lot after dinner. Sometimes I catch myself having the "well, I could try non-local people again" thoughts but then I remember that it's pretty much just guys who want their kinky fun on cam before going back to their regular lives and they have no intention of trying to make me feel happy, special and wanted. I wish I had advice or encouraging words, but at this point I've pretty much just given up searching. Either someone will show up in my life or I'll end up by myself on an acreage somewhere surrounded by animals. The personal coaches of the 80's and 90's used to have an saying, "If it is meant to be, then it's up to me!" So don't give up and hope for the best. :)

jlf1961 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 7:17:27 PM)
Look, I met the one years ago, was great till she was killed by a drunk driver. Since then I have come to the conclusion the odds are better for a person to die in plane crash, win the lotto, get nailed by an asteroid, die in a tsunami 200 miles inland, or be in Yellowstone the day it erupts than finding "the one." The best you can hope for is to find someone that the good times out number the bad times by at least two. If you cant find that, then join the ranks of the cynical, jaded, pessimistic assholes.

slavekate80 -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 8:58:46 PM)
Well, statistically, most people on CM will be unsuitable for one reason or another. Distance can be a big deal - even if you're willing to relocate, a large distance makes a relationship more difficult to start. Then restrict your search to your preferred type (dom? sub? switch? etc.), gender(s), age range, etc. and you're left with a small minority of members. The good part is that you can potentially start a conversation with many, many more people than you could by meeting people offline only. The bad part is that the ratio of potential partners to people you don't want to talk to is lower.

FinSubCA -> RE: Why is it always the WRONG ones???? (2/13/2014 9:21:41 PM)
It seems to me that many people, once they get into an authentic relationship, get cold feet and get out. A lot of people subconsciously get into a relationship that won't work because it is safe.

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