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thinkyoucanhang -> Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:16:02 PM)

Am I right to be as angry as I am? I'm just looking for input to see if I'm just over reacting:

From my last journal update:

I am sick of shallow women! By shallow I mean all they see is the 'chair and automatically dismiss me as not good enough or don't bother to learn the fact I'm in it from the Military defending y'all's Freedoms. Geeee, surprise surprise. Reality check: How many guys have been in 2 comas and died 3 times for you ungrateful cunts?

(My britches are in a bunch since I received another response telling me, freaks like me shouldn't be on here, rather a site for the disabled.) And 'freak' as in my disability, not my sexual proclivity.

I'll admit, I was upset and shaking from rage at getting another message like this. I mean, c'mon... I know certain protocols are followed, but hearing this from a potential interest sub???



asanaambitions -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:26:07 PM)

In my mind you should be grateful to these "cunts" since they're showing you they're not worth your time. Rather than getting angry about it and demonstrating a loss of control on your journal complete with nasty names and sob story, it might be a better idea to see it as a blessing that you're not getting into relationships with people who are crappy human beings.



kalikshama -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:28:35 PM)

Yes, you're over reacting. It's not healthy to be taking what strangers on the internet say to you so personally. Just block them.

If you want to see what kind of crap we women get in our inboxes, see Funny Messages from the "Other Side"

ps - I'm a vet, too, and have some issues from the times I served, and don't think anyone but the VA owes me anything for that. I don't even like to hear "Thank you for your service."



Rawni -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:30:49 PM)

First of all, I would like to say thank you for your service to our country. However, not everyone will readily accept the sense of entitlement you carry like a big stick. You may have felt it honorable to enlist and saw the good deed aspect to what you were doing and while many will appreciate that, your sense of entitlement... now that you have served and have been injured during your service, that others now need to serve you... is out of line. You may feel entitled to some respect and you will get that from many, however it isn't going to get your knob polished simply because you command it.

Your words are offensive, your attitude out of line and your accusations of shallow, you might wish to consider some will accuse you of. You show more respect for your wife, than you do the cunts you wish to serve you and respect for your wife is a great thing, but your disrespect for others you feel ought to be treating you in the manner you dictate... is proof of a poor attitude and maybe some emotional damage.

Clean your own clock before you start rooting around in someone elses.

You can get as mad as you want at me... I typically try to be decent, especially to those who are disabled and struggle, but sometimes an ass kicking is exactly what they need to get off the pitty potty, piss poor attitude and on to really living the life and circumstances they have been given, eventually and hopefully making their life enjoyable.

Yes, there are stupid and cruel people out there... but one would think you wouldn't want to be one of them and as I see it, you may have served your country and us cunts... but you are acting like a bully because of it.

Just tone it down... be happy... but if you wish us cunts to look in the mirror... you might try honestly doing so yourself.



crazyml -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:41:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: thinkyoucanhang

Am I right to be as angry as I am? I'm just looking for input to see if I'm just over reacting:



Are you right to be that angry... fuck, they're your feelings.

I do think you're over reacting.

quote:




From my last journal update:

I am sick of shallow women! By shallow I mean all they see is the 'chair and automatically dismiss me as not good enough

Ok... how do I put this nicely.

Firstly - I'm not sure it's reasonable to argue that your service (for which you deserve your nation's thanks) actually entitles you to get laid.

Also, I think you have to accept that the fact that you're a 'chair user does rather change things - And frustrating as it may be, given the choice that is available to women, I'm afraid it doesn't make any sense to get pissy if they opt for the chap with fewer challenges.
quote:


or don't bother to learn the fact I'm in it from the Military defending y'all's Freedoms. Geeee, surprise surprise. Reality check: How many guys have been in 2 comas and died 3 times for you ungrateful cunts?


What the fuck??? So a woman who doesn't fuck you is now an "ungrateful cunt"????

Right, now, imagine a woman who would be totally ok with a partner who uses a chair.... hold this woman in your mind.

What impression do you think she will get of you when she reads that?

a) Oh, well, he suffered for me, I must immediately submit
b) Gosh, there's some anger there, I need to be a little careful
c) What a dick.

It would be awesome if you could think it over and get back to us on this.



GoddessManko -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:44:09 PM)

If I could, I would allow every single service man to motorboat my boobs, just as a thank you. And this is from a celibate woman so nuff said. I'm pretty sure I'mnot the only person who feels that way. I have a cute little asian gf (won't name drop without her consent) who is specifically attracted to older daddies in the military for age play. (She looks like a cute little asian doll/loli)
Just a gorgeous girl with great style and such captivating beauty and intelligence.
I am so in love with this girl and so envious of the Dom who gets her so maybe you're just not connecting with those who ADORE military men within the lifestyle?
Just a thought... :)



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 3:57:45 PM)

Okay, read your profile. I don't know if you've read your profile, but it is all "me, me, me, I, I, I". No where do you illustrate what makes you good for anyone. You talk about things that you have, things you can use, the absolute indifference of your wife, but you aren't offering any substance.

In this medium, you have to utilize your words, offer substance and seduce her mind. Once you seduce her mind, her body will follow. Your profile is riddled with red flags, stop signs, and dead end signs. I'd rewrite it, offer some indication that your marriage is at least important, even sacred and holy would be awesome, and time down the "me, me, me" and go for some "we, we, we,".

Jus sayin
Exiled



ResidentSadist -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 4:04:48 PM)

If you came here to publicly feel sorry for yourself or seeking sympathy, you won't find much telling tales of hate. If you did something to engage the readers and make them like you, then told how some chic broke your heart because you roll instead of walk, it might have turned out better than posting a hate campaign slogan. There is no excuse for bad attitude, not theirs or yours.

The world is full of superficial people. They were as silly to write saying you shouldn't be here as you were to post that you hate superficial people. What did that accomplish? What did they accomplish writing you? Seems like if your gonna' spin those wheelchair wheels, you could do it with more grace and over something that actually mattered.





OsideGirl -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 4:13:36 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: thinkyoucanhang
Reality check: How many guys have been in 2 comas and died 3 times for you ungrateful cunts?


Wow, so charming.



SlipSlidingAway -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 4:15:55 PM)

I'm also thinking this part of your profile (if anyone gets that far) is not going to help you much, either:

"As for my 'condition', possibly look on it as a form of degradation, meaning, you're not good enough for a 'whole' man if you can't even handle half and I am much much more a man than many men could ever be... "

Honestly, your wheelchair would not bother me a bit. Your attitude, however, would.



thinkyoucanhang -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 5:08:49 PM)

OK!!! I get the picture!!! I was angry and now humbled. Thank y'all for the input, it gave me the butt hurt to see how poorly the profile was written.

I WON'T apologize for my feelings though. I've unfortunately seen too many deaths, folk's blown up & maimed, etc. I lose control when DV's are disrespected and that includes myself.
I wake up sweating & shaking from nightmares to this day as do many other Vets. I carry that in my head as well as the physical every single day. It pains me to see how we are treated by much of Society as a whole.

I have to respectfully disagree on the VA comment, here in Dallas it's atrocious! Case in point: It took over 5 years before I was able to get a wheelchair from them. I had to initially buy my own. They've also promised many so called 'entitlements' then completely took them away. If I sounded like favors were expected, then I came across wrong somewhere between my head and keyboard.

As for the term cunts, I tend to think on the obscure acronym rather than the derogatory terminology. For THAT I will apologize. It's Can't Understand Normal Thinking. I use it often enough that it has become part of my vocabulary unfortunately.



Rawni -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 5:23:09 PM)

How our country treats Vets is an atrocity, one I did try to work in... but you just can't break a broken system and it is and should be a national shame. These things we can understand if we know about them. These things we can try to stand up and fight and yet, still, decade after decade, war after war... our Vets pay a price that should never have to be paid. You are right to be angry about that... but anger can be used productively or non productively. Sometimes it is truly in who you know, who wants you off their phone or out of their mail box.

The burdens that you personally carry, are understandable and maybe it was good that you lashed out here, rather than someplace else. I do hope that in time, you will heal, find something that eases the suffering and do wish you well.

When a recruiter came to my house to see my son, who had gone to see him... he asked me a question. My ex right in that moment got ready for redhead hell to blast in the living room. He asked me, how I felt about my son signing up.

I did temper myself. I said: When this country protects, serves and honors our Vets and our commitments to them, I will be proud to have my son become one. At this point, I do not agree with what he is doing and we might just let that go right here and now. You don't want to know much more of what I have to say.

He then asked my ex. He simply said... I am a Vet.. I agree with her. I fought in a war... but it wasn't a war... they called it a skirmish. So whatever harm I have known, doesn't get acknowledged as such.

A nation that forgets its Vets... is shameful.

However, we have to call a spade, a spade and be honest with you. I think it would be a disservice to lie and say... all is okay... you have good cause. It isn't all okay. I hope you find the resources you need so that you can be as free as you can be.



Missokyst -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 5:23:54 PM)

So does "normal thinking" in your mind equate to not having a right to choose what type of mate should be acceptable to someone?
Like it or not, we each have preferences, even you.

quote:

ORIGINAL: thinkyoucanhang

As for the term cunts, I tend to think on the obscure acronym rather than the derogatory terminology. For THAT I will apologize. It's Can't Understand Normal Thinking.



crazyml -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 5:27:40 PM)

Hey,

You've done some hard yards, and your journey isn't over.

It might be that you need to make a little more progress before you're ready to take on a sub.

If you're prone to losing control you've got to ask yourself whether that's a trait that is attractive to sub women.

As for your use of the term "cunt", you know what the word means and how people are likely to respond to it. The whole acronym excuse is a bit pitiful. And the fact that it has become a habit is equally poor as an excuse. Just stop using it.

Good luck on your journey




littlewonder -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 5:28:43 PM)

your response didn't help you. Your attitude still stinks.



windchymes -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 5:31:57 PM)

OP, you also have to take into consideration that, with the horrible weather so much of the country has experienced over the past couple months, a LOT of kids have had school cancelled for days at a time and are probably sitting at home being ignorant jerks on mom's computer. Anybody with a lick of decency and maturity doesn't express their disinterest by being cruel and rude. I can totally understand your frustration, but hopefully the realization that it's very likely an unsupervised 14 year old who needs his little butt kicked can help you shake it off.

You'd be better off hanging out in here and getting to know the forum regulars and let them/us get to know you, too. And for the love of god, get in the house and get some warm clothes on! [;)]



DesFIP -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 6:08:29 PM)

Nobody owes you a pity fuck.
Seriously op, is that what you want? Someone who thinks she should fuck you once because you're a vet and never talk to you again? Because if so, then your problems are a lot bigger than you think.

You have physical issues that not everyone is willing to deal with. And that's their right.

You have rage issues that no one should have to deal with.

I don't know if you're only writing the barely legals. If so, that's part of your problem. If you really think you deserve a free houri in exchange for service, then you're on the wrong side.

I have issues, not everyone is willing to deal with mine. And that's fine.

Yes people shouldn't be rude but on the net, that's more common that not. If you overreact to a piece of email, then I'd be afraid to be alone with you for fear of what you do in real life.

You don't offer anyone anything of value to enter into a relationship with you. You don't come across as a friendly person anyone would enjoy spending time with. These are things you could change. Whether or not you will is up to you.



thinkyoucanhang -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 6:15:50 PM)

I liked your reply very much, that's something I didn't consider...

As for some of the other replies? Those are your opinions. You're free to have them even if I disagree or think you're being a self righteous prick...



angelikaJ -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 6:34:04 PM)

Here's the thing: when someone decides they are going to cede control over to another one of the general requirements for doing that is having a sense that the person they are giving control to is in control of him/her self.

You are not showing that to be one of your strengths.

You say you aren't going to apologise.
And you list the reasons that justify your behavior.

But the women (and in all probability men as well because seasoned people here have learned that some of the women with the more striking photographs are actually male socks) who exclude you because you are in a chair are merely expressing a preference.

It is as valid a preference as someone who is attracted to brunettes or someone else who is not attracted to those who are overweight.

Are you going to say that you don't have any preferences regarding looks or personality?


You say you were upset because the potential interest sub called you a freak.
I am guessing then the "potential interest" was yours.
Don't invest so much interest in complete strangers.
You sent her an initial message and she told you where she stood.
She could have been nicer, that is true, but she didn't disrespect DVs.
She expressed a preference.
Her preference has nothing to do with your rage at the circumstances of your injuries or the injuries and deaths of your fellow soldiers.
She would have the same preference if you were in a chair because you were in a bad car crash.
It has nothing to do with your being a disabled vet.


As atrocious as your local VA may be, it still offers treatment for PTSD.
It still offers mental health services and it probably offers treatment for TBI (in the event that is part of your woundedness).
As atrocious as it may be, you still probably need some of those services.

You have been here for just over 2 weeks.
Be patient.
I was here for 18 months before my One found me.

I also suggest that you try out the various things your local BDSM community have to offer, like munches and such.




thinkyoucanhang -> RE: Shallow/superficial women? (2/14/2014 6:35:29 PM)

Didn't you bother to read the redaction when I realized I phrased things totally wrong?

As for rage issues, they only come about when I perceive Vet's period are being spit on. I stated clearly I'm a DV, as I see it as a whole package, not just a person with a disability.

FYI: I prefer 30-50, 10 up/10 down.

As for what I have to offer: You haven't even read my profile, so how would you even know? You do forget there's a "Who's Viewing Me" link on the left side of the page and I can see my viewers.



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