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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 1:51:52 PM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: DominaElectric

Oh, CollarMe. Always such a lovely, welcoming family of kinksters here, isn't it?

For those that truly desire the help of a thoughtful, considerate and experienced Domina, please private message me. The best way I've found to help people not in my general vicinity (i.e. in person meetings) is through my online advice columns, etc., and my intention is to extend that reach further. I prefer to feature real-life issues, and thought this forum might be a good, neutral place to reach new people. Remember - there might always be a listener or reader that could identity or gain perspective from your situation, too! I'll answer some questions on my public blog, with your permission. Discretion is always observed.

(Whore is my pet name for my submissives. If you identify with it... we'll get along.)

Best,

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If it's "always" the others, then maybe it's not the others, it just might be the only constant in many variables (i.e. posters) and that would be you

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 1:53:53 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 2:02:59 PM   
Kana


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaElectric

Oh, CollarMe. Always such a lovely, welcoming family of kinksters here, isn't it?

For those that truly desire the help of a thoughtful, considerate and experienced Domina, please private message me. The best way I've found to help people not in my general vicinity (i.e. in person meetings) is through my online advice columns, etc., and my intention is to extend that reach further. I prefer to feature real-life issues, and thought this forum might be a good, neutral place to reach new people. Remember - there might always be a listener or reader that could identity or gain perspective from your situation, too! I'll answer some questions on my public blog, with your permission. Discretion is always observed.

(Whore is my pet name for my submissives. If you identify with it... we'll get along.)

Best,

Domina Electric

1-We're chock full o sadists here. Post at your own risk. There be dragons here.
2-While many traits are tolerated here, pretentiousness tends to not be one of the them. Presumptuousness ain't far behind.
3-Your OP sounds like an ad and it's getting called on it.
4-Not making a comment about you per see, but the regulars here,we've seen a lot of self proclaimed "experts" come and go (Many nosediving out in flames) over the years.It's left us kinda cynical re such proclamations. Hang out, chill a while. Let us get to know you, draw our own measure.
If ya earn it, respect will be quickly given. It usually doesn't take long to discover of someone knows what they are about or not.


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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 2:10:29 PM   
Blonderfluff


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Status: offline 		Ugh. Whore as a pet name ? For strangers ?

Hopefully, those that really have questions or need advice will just...post a new thread.
OP. I will be sure to watch closely for any NEW threads from NEW members that I think could, ahem, benefit from your sort of "expertise".


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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 2:14:30 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Ugh. Whore as a pet name ? For strangers ?

Hopefully, those that really have questions or need advice will just...post a new thread.
OP. I will be sure to watch closely for any NEW threads from NEW members that I think could, ahem, benefit from your sort of "expertise".


We could hook her up with the OP here


Edited to add smiley

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 2:32:09 PM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Ugh. Whore as a pet name ? For strangers ?

Hopefully, those that really have questions or need advice will just...post a new thread.
OP. I will be sure to watch closely for any NEW threads from NEW members that I think could, ahem, benefit from your sort of "expertise".


We could hook her up with the OP here


Edited to add smiley


OK, OJ stain on wall now, still managed to avoid doing liquid damage to MacBook...

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 2:38:46 PM   
myotherself


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze



OK, OJ stain on wall now, still managed to avoid doing liquid damage to MacBook...


The challenge is on

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 2:43:27 PM   
LadyConstanze


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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 3:37:54 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Not to mention that anyone who assumes all subs want to be called whores. Especially those who are owned by others. Like she's ever really walked into Paddles, gone up to some stranger and said "Hello whore".

That by itself says she doesn't have one tenth the experience she claims to have.

So why should anyone ask questions from someone who has revealed themselves to be a liar or trust the response?



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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 3:46:35 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Aw, c'mon, Des...you know she answers every NiteFlirt call that way. That could be as many as four or five a day.

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 3:49:29 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If she's only getting 4 calls a day, she needs to give up and get a real job. NY is an expensive place to live and that won't cut it.

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 3:54:51 PM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: Rawni

It's funny what passes for a post around here.

Offering assistance to gain financial benefit is so distasteful. Even Dear Abby now charges.

Do tell us, why it might be best to contact you by niteflirt when there may be other options for free? Besides your word that you know what you're talking about.


I wanted to out an obvious solicitor on the thread for emailing me offering to pay me $6k-$10k a month because they "love my look blah blah", but didn't know if it was against TOS and can't be arsed to figured out what section of the forum such a thing would fly (just didn't matter that much). "Yes pwease, pay me monies for I am a poor and needy Domme with no college education or career of her own", LOL.
I honestly find it hilarious when people act like people behind the rope are not, you know, actual human beings. (If some random person walked up and called me a whore, I'd probably slap the snot out of them).
This one fool told me like 7 times in 5 mins how "he's not the typical guy to search online for someone" as if reassuring me he's totally normal. So I guess in his mind the rest of us are not to his standard? *eye roll*
The gall sometimes is appalling, LOL. Sometimes there is more behind the message than the message itself I notice. :)

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 3:58:12 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Depends on the length of the call and how much she charges per minute. There's also the option of selling photo sets, video clips, and other files as a passive income source. Which is what she's doing by charging for the recordings of this "podcast" thing. It's all about producing content.

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 4:01:14 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Ah, I was thinking four half hour phone calls. Obviously I wouldn't be a very successful fin domme.

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissionsue - 2/19/2014 4:16:36 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		LOL, I only know this because I sometimes read the #findom and #financial domination tags on Tumblr. Talk about good for a laugh! Most of them are either cam girls or NiteFlirt operators who learned everything they know about BDSM from YouTube and other PSOs/cam girl blogs. Not one of them has any real-world experience as far as I can tell.

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 4:54:29 PM   
RemoteUser


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ORIGINAL: DominaElectric

Hello, my beautiful submissives and lovely whores.


I always thought my whorish side was subtle. (Maybe my cock got in the way of the subtlety? I've heard that it happens.)

I'm not sure about lovely, though. (It's that cock thing again. They can't all be lovely, you know.)

I think the real issue here is that the writer forgot that she doesn't control the forum and so, by default, cannot delimit the readers or responders. First rule of writing, know your audience - and when your audience can be anyone, that really requires careful bearing in mind.

(I'm going to say cock again, now, because it's fun. Cock. Cock cock cockity cockknock on a rockblock.)

By the way, did anyone say any meaningful shit about how BDSM works? Because I'm a total noob and need to learn it for the weekend, I'm going to a frat party and wanna impress the chicks.


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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 6:22:09 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		Why would someone here ask a person brand new to this site with no reputation who charges for answers when we have excellent people here who will do it for free and have their own free blogs, like Chatte and Lady Constanze? Years of experience. Great well know reps and they don't call strangers whores.

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 8:22:32 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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I feel bad for OP, so I'm going to throw her a bone by asking her a question since she is all über experienced and shit...

One train departs Los Angeles traveling eastbound at the same time as a train departs Washington DC headed westbound. The LA train travels at a speed of 65mph, while the DC train driver had way too much coffee and a flagrant disregard for speed limits (not to mention gets really excited at being called a lovely whore) and heads west at a blistering 92mph. Where in the US will the two trains meet up?

Alright, OP...gets to podcasting my very important question. I'll not hold my breath awaiting your promised answer.


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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 8:55:51 PM   
OvidInDallas


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Status: offline 		Hello Domina Electric,

I have a couple of questions for you to answer from your years of real lifestyle experience: Do you expect everyone you interact with to accept being called whores and to show gratitude for your conversation? Do you believe that consent is a critical part of D/s? Is humiliation and formalized structures of address something that is part of the D/s dynamic? By calling people whores and demanding a specific way of addressing you, are you not imposing the D/s framework on people who have not consented to be treated that way? Is this how you interact with people during your years of public play experience or do you only expect this behavior on the internet? If you only expect it on the internet aren't you participating in the creation of a fantasy construct of F/m relationships that is actively harmful to those who share your lifestyle?

If those are too many questions then here is one simple one: Do people deserve to be treated with respect and civility regardless of if they identify as dominant, submissive, switch, or anything else?

Please don't feel the need to make a podcast to answer my questions, I'd love to just see them (or just the last one) answered here.

Questioningly,
Ovid

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RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions - 2/19/2014 9:34:46 PM   
DaddySatyr


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ORIGINAL: OvidInDallas

Hello Domina Electric,

I have a couple of questions for you to answer from your years of real lifestyle experience: Do you expect everyone you interact with to accept being called whores and to show gratitude for your conversation? Do you believe that consent is a critical part of D/s? Is humiliation and formalized structures of address something that is part of the D/s dynamic? By calling people whores and demanding a specific way of addressing you, are you not imposing the D/s framework on people who have not consented to be treated that way? Is this how you interact with people during your years of public play experience or do you only expect this behavior on the internet? If you only expect it on the internet aren't you participating in the creation of a fantasy construct of F/m relationships that is actively harmful to those who share your lifestyle?

If those are too many questions then here is one simple one: Do people deserve to be treated with respect and civility regardless of if they identify as dominant, submissive, switch, or anything else?

Please don't feel the need to make a podcast to answer my questions, I'd love to just see them (or just the last one) answered here.

Questioningly,
Ovid



Well played, sir. Well played.





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