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FieryOpal -> RE: Ask Domina: seeking submissions (2/21/2014 4:37:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
MY QUESTIONS:
Do you think the general public looks down on male subs as either wimps or pussy-whipped doormats? If so, how do your nurture the ego of a male sub so that he has a healthy self image?
The negative stereotype of male subs is even lower for sissies as women tend to be especially turned off by them. How in your mind do sissies remain real, attractive men to you?
Only my personal opinion, of course, to be taken with a grain of salt.
Yes to your opening Q. Single vanilla men tend to look down on their married buddies as being pussy-whipped when they say they have to run it by the missus first or have to work within a budget and have limits on their spending habits, restrictions on how often they can go out with the boys. Bachelors and other singles tend to live in a different universe than men who prefer to be pair-bonded, settle down and raise or are raising families.
Females generally have a hard enough time finding males who will man up as it is, who don't still live in their mother's basement, or who aren't running around in packs/herds as part of an entourage, and/or who don't put their homeboys before their girlfriends.
So yes, any submissive traits which reveal themselves prematurely might spook such a female.
As for nurturing egos, it might be a quirk to my own experience, but I find that many male subs are artistically, musically and creatively talented. It's always a positive thing to encourage any talents a person possesses. Within a relationship with a male sub, a woman should simply be accepting of his needs and desires without catering to them, get him to open up and verbalize why he feels the way he does. Take the parts that appeal to you as a woman and offer up positive reinforcement/affirmations for those on a regular basis. Replace the old programming with new (consensual) ones.
My personal preferences aside for not wanting a sissy partner, I have nothing against a man who has come to terms with those needs. I just don't spend enough time with my existing girlfriends as it is, so I have no need for more. On rare occasion in a scene, I would prefer that my partner not get into being sissified or else that takes away one of my tools from my toolbox should I elect to use it. [;)]
[Edited for typo]
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