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AncitaAW -> Rejection (2/20/2014 12:41:14 AM)
Why cant Dom's handle rejections from a slave

hlen5 -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 12:42:52 AM)
Cause he(she) isn't really a Dom. Did you know you can block other profiles from contacting you on here?

myotherself1 -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 12:57:18 AM)
It's not a dom thing, it's a people thing. Some people take rejection so personally it's not even funny. It's why so many people don't bother replying to emails on here - rejection can get those with fragile egos so butthurt they lash out to the person who has rejected them. If this is just some numbnuts who has sent a few messages and you've said 'thanks but no thanks', then block and hide are your friends. It served me well in the past! [:D]

AncitaAW -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 12:59:12 AM)
it had gone far worse than that, this person made up a fake profile, place on this profile, personal information about me, he found out where i worked than put my work number down on the phone so i have been receiving phone messages, phone calls from over 100 people today and its getting ridiculius

myotherself -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:03:41 AM)
Then you need to contact admin at the bottom of the main profiles page (where it says 'support' in blue). I'm assuming this is some guy you've met in real life who doesn't like the word 'no'. Then you might also want to consider getting in touch with your local law enforcement. This is harassment at the very least and he needs to have the boys and girls in blue explain this to him. Although I'm in the UK, I had something very similar about 5 or 6 years ago. I went to the police, explained everything to them (including that we met on a kinky website) and that he was making threats and harassing me. They assured me they didn't care how we met, only that he was breaking the law. They went to his work to 'have a chat' and that was the last I heard of him. I hope you get things sorted [:)]

AncitaAW -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:05:46 AM)
thank you again, I have contacted Support. I am hoping it will get sorted

myotherself -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:07:17 AM)
It might be an idea to change your phone number too - I know it's a nuisance but it will certainly lessen the stress for you. This kind of shit is just not funny [:'(]

AncitaAW -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:09:35 AM)
Fortunately that is abit hard, it is a work phone, I do not own the phone it is share within my department. Hence why sort of panic is in me, I have hogged it for most of the day so no one else can get the messages

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:13:33 AM)
I've been called a lesbian, bitch, tranny, dyke, drag queen, cunt, and every other thing on the planet by men that I have turned down. Even when having something sexually obscene screamed at me a passerby. Socking that a woman would turn down, "you know you wanna suck this dick, or "Holy titties!" I've had profiles on vanilla dating sites too and had guys message me over and over and finally I would polite respond that they weren't my type and have been told I'm ugly and a stuck up bitch. Some people just can't deal with rejection.

myotherself -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:14:37 AM)
tell your boss or human resources that a guy who is stalking you has posted some crap about you on a kinky website and has shared the company telephone number around. If you report this guy to the police that will help. My psycho called my work and spoke with my head teacher (I was a teacher) and told the I was a pervert who shouldn't be allowed near children. When she asked to see me I was able to say that this was a guy I'd dated a couple of times who then turned psycho, and that I'd talked to the police. I gave my head teacher the police incident number and they called and added their complaint to the growing list. I told my boss that I'd met this guy on a dating site, had one date and tried to end it (all of which was true). The company needs no more information than that.

AncitaAW -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:17:15 AM)
no well this person can not either. I messages him back and forth, never exchanging personal phone numbers, just email told him where i worked and what i did when i decided he went too far, i said no more once i did that well he made a fake profile, then contacted my employer to get my phone number and well it went on n on n on. At least the site is now down and my personal personal information is not out there. and the calls seem to have stopped. So am just glad and I do hope this is the end of it.

AncitaAW -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:23:15 AM)
Sounds good Will inform work tomorrow Hopefully this is the end of it, I have had an hour peace and I have never been one to say having peace is good but damn is it good Thank you again for all your support Time for me to make dinner

crazyml -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 1:29:38 AM)
[ED to delete "How did he get your work phone number?"] Ok OP... I don't think the blanket statement "Doms cant handle rejection from a slave" is true. That said, I can understand why sometimes, it can feel like it. As others have said, it's a basic truth that a person can describe themselves as "Dominant" and still be a pathetic little whiner. In the situation you describe, you've got something much worse than the average... and I'd reiterate what the others have said, but also that you should consider going to the police. In future, I'd encourage you to be more circumspect about how much information you give out about yourself, before you're really clear that the person you're dealing with isn't going to misuse it. Obviously, this doesn't guarantee that you won't meet someone who seems perfectly sane at first and then turns into a crazy, but it should help.

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 2:13:22 AM)
Because many of the - mostly male - Doms on here have wound themselves up to the point of hysteria about CM being full of 'fakes' and 'timewasters' so as soon as you reject them, they fall into screaming impotent rage about it all. Paranoia eh, what's not sexy about it?

DarkSteven -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 2:33:33 AM)
He's no Dom. He's a stalker/psycho. The idea to someone like that, of calling himself a Dom and assuming a position of power over a sub, is very enticing.

AncitaAW -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 2:39:06 AM)
well he had my first name, my employer well its pretty generic employer, there are several people working there with the same name.....he just got lucky in finding me. Basically I can understand what you say CRAZYML. But this guy did not handle rejection very well. Apparently I am not the only person who receive this kind of harrassment from this person, 2 other ladies on here received it as well. I am just more vocal then the others to speak up. But since I posted on here, his account does not seem to be on here anymore. perhaps he got wind of this who knows. Basically everyone needs to be careful on what they give out, I certainly will. I have been in the Lifestyle for quiet awhile but never really did the lifestyle online before so its an interesting medium to do it in. It hasnt tarnish me on it, but I am very dubious on people now who what everything like up front and now type thing. And I agree not on Doms are the same, perhaps he had so major issues with rejections who knows All I know is I never want to be on the receiving end again, so I will tread lightly

LadyConstanze -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 2:46:40 AM)
If the other ladies also would be willing to talk to the police, I bet they are going to react a lot quicker and possibly harsher as then he already has a track record of harassment and it's not just your word against him, it's pretty clear then that he's a psycho.

kalikshama -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 7:28:04 AM)
quote: Apparently I am not the only person who receive this kind of harrassment from this person, 2 other ladies on here received it as well. I am just more vocal then the others to speak up. All three of you should go to the police. quote: But since I posted on here, his account does not seem to be on here anymore. perhaps he got wind of this who knows. Glad to hear that.

Toysinbabeland -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 7:52:38 AM)
A Dominant is in control of Himself first. No gentleman in control of Himself would endanger or subject a person to this inappropriate behavior. He's a problem, let the authorities already sort this out for you. changing your telephone number is an excellent idea if this is something that you can do. Live and learn.

MisterP61 -> RE: Rejection (2/20/2014 8:00:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12 Because many of the - mostly male - Doms on here have wound themselves up to the point of hysteria about CM being full of 'fakes' and 'timewasters' so as soon as you reject them, they fall into screaming impotent rage about it all. Paranoia eh, what's not sexy about it? An interesting thing here is, most of those "Doms" have so few posts on the forums, and accounts that are 6 - 10 years old. Then you have people like DarkSteven, Kana, ExiledTyrant, and crazyml, just to name a few (If I didn't put Your name here, it is just because there are quite a few and not enough caffeine in Me yet), who have success in Their lives, and who post on here quite frequently. HMMMMM now I wonder who I would rather learn from. I learn from LP as well, and I have no experience on any of this rejection in this forum (mostly because I do not "push" Myself on others. I may send a cmail about something they may have said, but not once have I wrote one demanding they worship Me), but in vanilla real life I have dealt with it. Never stalked a one. I do not consider Myself a Master or a Dominant (quite truthfully, I don't believe I ever will personally, because learning is always happening), only in the sense that I have yet to experience owning a submissive. I am Dominant by nature which is different. I only have experience in "topping" others, and to Me gender is irrelevant when it comes to that. To Me it is about respect. For ones self. Respect is earned. I always say (Army wise this is) that you can make Me respect the rank all day long. The person wearing it has to earn that. Well, all of those I mentioned and many others (male and female, submissive and Dominant) have earned this from Me.

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