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fakes - 2/20/2014 5:12:30 PM   
walkerb234


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Status: offline 		is there a good way to find out if someone on here is fake or real, without disrespecting them? how would a mistress prefer to confirm things? i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.

and just a side question, what do mistresses generally look for on a sub/slaves profile? everyone has specific preferences of course
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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 5:56:05 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		The non-offensive way would be to have a conversation with them, keeping it pretty much vanilla. Eventually moving to a phone conversation after talking for awhile.

A scammer will usually try to move you off of CM or will ask for cash/gifts.

A wanker will be looking for masturbation fodder.

Expecting someone to verify themselves at the start tends to back fire because 1) it starts the interaction off by saying "I don't trust you" and 2) since the men so far outnumber the women here, the women get to pick and choose. Which means that they will move onto someone that doesn't start off with distrust.

Holding conversations with someone costs you nothing but a little of your time and could gain you everything.



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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:02:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: walkerb234
i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.

Scammers don't talk like women -- even if they are women. Women screening men sound very different from "women" trying to lure men in.

I spent too much time with scammers at first, too. Actually, even after that, I spent too much time with women who just wanted to cyber and never wanted to meet in real life. It wasn't until I uninstalled Yahoo from my system and spoke only with people who believed in phone and real life that I started meeting women in any kind of serious way.

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:11:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I spent too much time with scammers at first, too. Actually, even after that, I spent too much time with women who just wanted to cyber and never wanted to meet in real life. It wasn't until I uninstalled Yahoo from my system and spoke only with people who believed in phone and real life that I started meeting women in any kind of serious way.

Pics or it didn't happen

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:15:55 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Let's say I really sent you a private photo of a woman I dated. Could you ever have any respect for me after that, or trust me in any way? Even if your answer is "yes," mine would still be "no," because I would not be able to respect myself.

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:19:01 PM   
Blonderfluff


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Status: offline 		Sheesh. I was joking...

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:23:19 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Sorry, Blonderfluff.

Just for future reference, smileys go a long way toward showing intent.

Someone's trying to engage me in a dick-measuring contest on an internet message board, in the thread you started in Ask A Submissive. That isn't why I come to this site, and I thought maybe your comment was part of that, so I wanted to be super clear. My mistake.

I hope you have a great evening.

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:36:03 PM   
littlewonder


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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:38:30 PM   
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Sorry, Blonderfluff.

Just for future reference, smileys go a long way toward showing intent.

Someone's trying to engage me in a dick-measuring contest on an internet message board, in the thread you started in Ask A Submissive. That isn't why I come to this site, and I thought maybe your comment was part of that, so I wanted to be super clear. My mistake.

I hope you have a great evening.



While this may be true, they do not have a sarcasm emoticon.

Besides, all we have to do to get photos of you and the women you have dated is to contact the NSA, ask for a surveillance team to be assigned and retask a photo intel bird.

You know we are watching you. After all you are one of them.

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:47:55 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: walkerb234

is there a good way to find out if someone on here is fake or real, without disrespecting them? how would a mistress prefer to confirm things? i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.

and just a side question, what do mistresses generally look for on a sub/slaves profile? everyone has specific preferences of course


I'm fake.

Use my profile as a baseline....work up or down from there.

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:50:27 PM   
jlf1961


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


quote:

ORIGINAL: walkerb234

is there a good way to find out if someone on here is fake or real, without disrespecting them? how would a mistress prefer to confirm things? i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.

and just a side question, what do mistresses generally look for on a sub/slaves profile? everyone has specific preferences of course


I'm fake.

Use my profile as a baseline....work up or down from there.



Actually, Lookie is a rare cybernetic life form. No one has seen him outside the computer because he is nothing more than a chunk of artificially intelligent software that is crazier than a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chair high on catnip.

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:58:37 PM   
kalikshama


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Scammers don't talk like women -- even if they are women. Women screening men sound very different from "women" trying to lure men in.

I can totally see this.

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I spent too much time with scammers at first, too. Actually, even after that, I spent too much time with women who just wanted to cyber and never wanted to meet in real life. It wasn't until I uninstalled Yahoo from my system and spoke only with people who believed in phone and real life that I started meeting women in any kind of serious way.

Ya, what is it with scammers and YIM?

If I were a guy looking for a LTR, I would screen out a women who included an email address in her profile. This says professional, scammer, or undiscriminating to me.


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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 6:59:24 PM   
OvidInDallas


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ORIGINAL: walkerb234

is there a good way to find out if someone on here is fake or real, without disrespecting them? how would a mistress prefer to confirm things? i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.

and just a side question, what do mistresses generally look for on a sub/slaves profile? everyone has specific preferences of course



Hello walkerb234,

I can't give you much advice about how to avoid fakes due to being pretty new to this online dating thing myself but I will note that most of the fakes are fairly obvious if you pay attention. If the profile seems like it was designed to fulfill a male fantasy then it is probably fake or pro-Domme. I suggest reading the profiles of some of the regular posters in Ask a Mistress to get an idea of what the profile looks like when it is written by an actual woman who isn't looking for professional kink employment.

For writing a good profile, I found this thread in the Ask a Mistress FAQ to be very helpful when I was reviewing my profile: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm

If I can give you some advice; your profile spends almost half it's written length describing what you want from a woman but you don't have much about you other than that you are a college student and have some experience doing yard work and house cleaning from when you were in high school. You have also only filled out the checkboxes for sexual activities. It looks like you aren't so much looking for a relationship with a Domme as you are looking for someone to fulfill your fantasies. Also, you list your weight as 330lbs but have a picture of someone well under 200 (perhaps a younger you?). That is a warning sign that you might not be being honest about other things.

I remember what it was like to be 19, horny, and submissive. I strongly suggest that you look to go to some local munches and meet some locals who are into kink. Seeing how people make their D/s relationships work in reality can really help ground some of your beliefs about how these things work. You also should be looking for a vanilla relationship as well as kink relationships at your age. Believe me, knowing how to have a healthy relationship with someone is important before you even add kink into the mix. Finally, think about what women might want instead of just what you want them to do to you. You say you want to be a "lifestyle slave". I hope you are able to find someone to make that a reality for you but you need to have something to offer the woman you want a relationship with. Get your degree, and make sure it is a degree that employers want. Get a job. Learning piano is a good start, continue to develop skills and hobbies that make you interesting to be around. Most people are not going to be able to or want to live the lifestyle 24/7. You need to be someone a Domme would want to be around when you aren't engaged in play if you want to get any attention.

I'm sure I sound horribly condescending but, believe me, I wish someone had told me this at your age. Good luck finding your special someone.

Helpfully,
Ovid

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 7:19:17 PM   
walkerb234


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Status: offline 		i didn't even know the weight thing about my profile! crap. i'm new and haven't finished setting it up. thanks for the advice though. and i wasn't putting a whole lot about myself because that's just how most profiles i've seen so far were structured. I'll change it now

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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 7:23:23 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		ok, I'm gonna tell you something I say to my daughter allllll the time..."If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you too?".

You want to make yourself stand out amongst the many who have been here and single for years upon years? Don't do what they do.


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RE: fakes - 2/20/2014 8:26:43 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: jlf1961


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: walkerb234

is there a good way to find out if someone on here is fake or real, without disrespecting them? how would a mistress prefer to confirm things? i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.

and just a side question, what do mistresses generally look for on a sub/slaves profile? everyone has specific preferences of course


I'm fake.

Use my profile as a baseline....work up or down from there.



Actually, Lookie is a rare cybernetic life form. No one has seen him outside the computer because he is nothing more than a chunk of artificially intelligent software that is crazier than a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chair high on catnip.


(And no one ever will....unless unusually large titties are involved....then I will expose myself for all to see!!!!).

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