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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 5:53:31 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Thanks Chatte, I'm cleaning up coffee now!

You do have a way with words ;)

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 6:19:19 AM   
kalikshama


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I believe making the transition into real life femdom relationship can be cultivated through cam play. Do you agreed?


All these real Dommes just told you they are not interested in camming with strangers.

(AAkasha said she might indulge in watching "model good looking" guys on a pay site, but that was porn, not courtship.)

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 6:20:52 AM   
kalikshama


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Sorry you fucking your ass on cam is not courting. Is that clear now?


Amen!

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 6:51:53 AM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

quote:

Sorry you fucking your ass on cam is not courting. Is that clear now?


Amen!



There is always the off chance that somebody is a hobby proctologist and very interested in piles (the grapes or wrath)

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 10:29:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: altialt

I believe making the transition into real life femdom relationship can be cultivated through cam play. Do you agreed?


No.

And a bunch of dominant women just told you so, as well. Stop trying to massage reality into fantasy. If you're not up for an in-person relationship, pay someone to accommodate you.

The end.

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 10:50:11 AM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		OP, if this isn't a deterrent to the subject at hand, I don't know what would be:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4647747/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4647768

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 1:06:02 PM   
GoddessBlueKura


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Status: offline 		Actually I just watched vid on FL with a sissy slut taking it up the poop shute. Good stuff.

Also I have no desire to peg strange men that offer. It would only be of interest in a relationship or friends with REAL benefits on cam. I don't do anything in between.

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 1:51:13 PM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

OP, if this isn't a deterrent to the subject at hand, I don't know what would be:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4647747/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4647768


But - gosh, how do I put this delicately without getting a golden letter - uhhhm errr, I think his face might not feature prominently in such a video chat, cough cough, wink wink, nudge nudge...

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 2:01:06 PM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

quote:

I believe making the transition into real life femdom relationship can be cultivated through cam play. Do you agreed?


All these real Dommes just told you they are not interested in camming with strangers.

(AAkasha said she might indulge in watching "model good looking" guys on a pay site, but that was porn, not courtship.)



Exactly. It's just smut for amusement and entertainment not courtship at all. The point is, I might be rare in that I do LIKE a lot of "visual" stuff including making/seeing guys in situations involving bondage or degradation - BUT I have to either be involved with him (i.e there's some chemistry) or he has to be HOT (ie the cam sites where you pay models) - and even then I have to be really in the "mood" for that kind of thing, I usually am fine just looking at pictures of hot guys tied up or looking at videos, and I get my "fix" at sites that cater to gay male tops - they also look good looking, hot "boytoy" types in bondage or whatever.

The rest of the women you see looking for guys on cam are either men pretending to be women, or women doing it for a fee. This is the only time a woman would do "straight to cam, bend over and spread your ass cheeks!" play, in my opinion.

Akasha

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 2:38:42 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		I'm with you there, I might pay for gay porn (not so much into the cam shows) as the bodies are super spectacular and it is a turn on, a stranger wanting to to play hide the sausage just doesn't work.

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 3:01:31 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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Status: offline 		How much of the porn industry is geared for males? Nearly all. How much porn is geared for females, about 0. That should have been a big tip off for you right there we, on average, are just not into that. Did you think that just because women are on a kink site it's ok to show your ass, "'cause the womens on here must all be into that shit!" Now add to that the resounding "Just Stop That!" from fellow sister dominas and the NSA might be archiving your antics for all posterity, you must be getting the picture that it's just not the best way to catch our eye.

The short of it it, "Don't be trashy, be classy if you want to make an impression." Well, unless you want a trailer park queen, then heck go for it.

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 3:02:32 PM   
PeonForHer


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quote:

Did you think that just because women are on a kink site it's ok to show your ass, "'cause the womens on here must all be into that shit!"


I really wish you could have chosen a different metaphor.

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RE: Watching guys - 2/27/2014 3:09:15 PM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

quote:

Did you think that just because women are on a kink site it's ok to show your ass, "'cause the womens on here must all be into that shit!"


I really wish you could have chosen a different metaphor.


Well donkeys do poo

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RE: Watching guys - 3/2/2014 1:38:54 PM   
altialt


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Status: offline 		No you are right, I am not looking for a domme, but your perspectives I am looking for. It not that I do not "get it" I am just interested in you have to say....

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RE: Watching guys - 3/2/2014 4:56:02 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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quote:

It not that I do not "get it" I am just interested in you have to say....


Um, did you go to you local Junior Charity League and query them on this most fascinating topic? How about chatting up the ladies at the local coffee shop about this? Now to my point. We are women first and BDSM/kink second or perhaps a distant third. We are not different from vanilla except for an interest in this area. It does not mean we are "sexed up" more than the average women. You could ask 100 women and you would get answers all over the map. Everybody is different, each enjoy their own thing. Yes, it really is just that simple.

So when this week's latest installment of the same riveting question burning in the mind of boys, "Do Fem Doms enjoy X Y Z?" We just yawn or get snarky depending on our mood.

So "Do Fem Doms enjoy X, Y, Z?" I'm happy to relate, on a Bell Curve between "Love It" and "Hate It" every living woman will probably be found.

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RE: Watching guys - 3/3/2014 6:21:07 AM   
altialt


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Status: offline 		What really is interesting is the norms most of the replies put on to other people (me in this case). As much as you assume that I assume things about you your roles as mistresses or dommes, as much do you assume about me. Their is little room for for error when questioning in this fora. Most replies seem to want to make the point that the raised question is so stupid or out of place that people thinking like this must not comprehend what sexuality is all about, or comprehend how women think. There is not much variation in the given answers, which would imply that there is a right kind of thought or sexuality and a wrong one. I did not expect this. In this fora there seems to be a circle of dommes who has agreed on a specific right norm of sexuality or understanding of the dominate women. It is very frustration trying to understand when all you get in return is replies that more or less state that subs or men thinking like this have it all wrong. Of course a close relation between man an woman either dom or sub is necessary, but is it really the whole truth that no woman would get of on watching a guy on cam? - I am not thinking about me in particular. In priciple I think that would leave the world a poorer place, where we all just want the same thing.

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RE: Watching guys - 3/3/2014 6:30:03 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		So you were expecting that there would be no societal norms, no etiquette, nothing here? Anything and everything goes?

This never happens when you walk into an already formed group. That's why a newcomer should study the previous posts to see what flies and what doesn't.

And... seriously? You expected that just because they're Dommes, they would welcome you talking about your kinky stuff off the bat? They're WOMEN first and Dommes second. And because they are Dommes, they like to feel that they can control the forum, and not have to play by the rules of a new submissive male who wants to use the forum for his purposes.

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RE: Watching guys - 3/3/2014 6:34:13 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Look, let's sum it up, you come here with this question:

quote:

Okay I have suspected for some time that dom woman never really enjoy waching guys do analplay - exposing themselves in that manner on cam. But some woman agree to do so anyway... Is this to please the sub, or do dom woman get anything out of watching a guy fuck himself in the ass? Just pure basic lust?


Well, most WOMEN here have told you they aren't into it, they don't do it unless they already have a dynamic with somebody, that strangers trying to play "hide the dildo" just doesn't do it for us.

You said some women agree to do it anyway and wanted to know why.

The simple answer is (has been given before) that the ones watching are <gasp horror> most likely not women but guys pretending to be women.

You didn't like the replies so it must be all our fault and all the women here are in a secret conspiracy about how things are done. BS! You will see that each of us has different preferences, if a woman would go "Hell yes, I enjoy watching them" nobody would mind, hey, as long as I don't need to see it, why should I mind? I don't like eggs and spam, you eat it, hey, cool, no skin off my nose because I don't have to eat it...

If a bunch of women tell you that they don't do something and why it doesn't work for them, it's their opinion, not how things ought to be done, but just how we feel about it. Mind you, those women all have very very different preferences, some of them are looking for stuff that for me would be a nightmare, but all feel that they wouldn't want to watch a stranger doing sexual stuff on cam.

Do you have a problem that women are as clear in their preferences as guys are? Or do you maybe realize that some of the "women" you thought were watching you were men? If so, move on and think you about the karma brownie points you're getting for giving a guy a bit of pleasure, while you were getting your rocks off.



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RE: Watching guys - 3/3/2014 7:13:13 AM   
altialt


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Status: offline 		Actually I am just finding this fora very jugdemental, more than if you talk to people outside of the internet. This is what the groupdynamic in here tells me, and that surprized me. The surprise is maybe to me that there seems to be ownership over a public forum. I do not expect anybody to play by my rules or my kinks, just a little more politeness. But I guess that is not the internets strong side?

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RE: Watching guys - 3/3/2014 7:25:28 AM   
altialt


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Status: offline 		I am not trying to blame you for answering my question, I liked the answers just fine. But I just feel so much hostility which it really did not expect. Of course all people are entiteled to their own opinion, males, female and other categories, but reading some of those opinions surely would discourage me from asking questions again. IS this not a point worth mentioning?

I am not trying to get anybody to watch me on cam, now I am just making a statement about how some answers might be perceived as hostile. A new member can, in my mind, express his or her own opinion on equal footing with the established members in a forum, or is this disregarding the social hierarchy?

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